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hun, i’d be careful, most people show their true sides late in the game, sort to speak. If the signs look simlar to those that you have worked with, there is still a lot of time to cancel, even with one slip up it’s not always safe.

Don’t ever let a guy put there hands on you regardless of the situation. Now I know ever relationship has issues but when it becomes abusive it’s out of your hands because that situation can become dangerous.

thank you everyone
i don’t know what i’m going to do, i can’t stop crying, we don’t live together, there’s not even a date…i just trusted him so much and thought this was it…

not always that best to go on sometimes, hun, but maybe you may have taken this a little to quickly.

I know, but we’ve been together for 3 years…otherwise he is so gentle, it’s like this crazy side came out from somewhere…

did you try to sit down and talk this over with one another and see how he feels about it? before tieing the knot, i would think getting the skeletons out of the closet that would cause troubles for you two would be best.

thank you
i don’t know what i was going to do…i still don’t but i feel less alone…

i know i can get through this…it’s just that he’s here for the night…acting now like everything is normal…and i’m self-medicating, which isn’t good…i think i’m going to take a walk

that’s a good idea, find a good way to just think and clear your mind.

sorry, maybe i wasn’t clear, this all happened tonight,an hour ago or so…
just spoke briefly to him, he’s in the other room, now he’s blaming me and said i pushed him in the hall when i tried to get him not to leave,
(email removed) i feel so frustrated

you really can’t make up your mind at the moment. One you are drinking and two this has just happened. Sit somewhere alone, but sit yourself a little away from him, its always easier to talk when there is space in between you and the person. Tell him that you are worried and scared about him acting like that and the way you see it is that he is abusive and is only just now showing his true side. Tell him you feel that you should post-pone the wedding until you can trust him again, if you ever can. This is something that could possibly be very big and he shouldn’t act like it is nothing when it is a very big something. Tell him that you don’t like this new forceful and abusive side of him. Really give him a reality check, Adan maybe even tell him to leave for the night so you can clear your head.

he may be in denial now, and rather emotional to. I’d just give the both of you time to yourselfs now first.