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What is your take?

Ok I’m torn between two places right now. I’v had a lot of struggles in my life, and have stayed in the same state my entire life. A lot of that being because my family is all here. That and I have always been too chicken to move. The last year though has been increasingly rough, with personal financial and family reasons. I have been contemplating moving to another part of the state. I’m torn though because i fill as though I’m running from my problems, if I leave. I know the financial part will follow me, its the personal and family part thats more of a concern. Whenever I pop the idea of moving to my mother she makes me feel so guilty. When I talk to her just having a casual conversation she acts like she doesnt want to speak to me. Am I really running from my problems by moving and wanting to “start over”? Hope this makes sense

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vicious_circle13 offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (15 minutes after post)

I like what you said about mother and leeches, sad but true, yet made me giggle. Moving is one thing a friend has encouraged me to do. I don’t always of most the time don’t think very highly of myself, it is one of my biggest weaknesses. It’s hard to do when I’ve allowed the world around me to drag me down time and time again. I am working on that though, it’s a slow and painful process I must say. Thank you for your words of advice.

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Dreamgirl offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 63 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (18 minutes after post)

It will be the same wherever you go if you consider the financial problems, the guilt and all the other things you are thinking of. However, if you need to start over and if moving to another part of the state is the answer, all you have to do is plan, find a job and roof etc then you can communicate with your mom and convince her how you can better yourself and help her too by doing the move. Write down your plans and make the best of what you can do. Good luck!

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vicious_circle13 offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (28 minutes after post)

Thank you both for your comments and insight. Mas 1 I can’t agree to the you move I move just yet but I am considering it, and working getting over my fears, thank you. I like the idea Dreamgirl of writing down a plans and looking at it that way. O and Mas1 I’m a girl, i know the name is confusing sorry.

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spiratec9 offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 42 #
Burnaby, BC, CA | 1 year, 10 months ago (56 minutes after post)

move.you can always come back.Its not a one way street.

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Dreamgirl offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 63 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 10 months ago (1 hour after post)

mas1s wrote:
S’alright Ms Circle - I wasnt pushing a move it’s just nice to know that someone else has the same dilemna - people always talk on here about hating their parents but sometimes your love for them can do damage too. By the way I do watch Dreamgirls replies and they are on the money every time. Keep coming back here - it’s one of those problems like Dreamgirl said you have to plan to resolve - best of luck - mas

lol, actually my tags bring me most of this posts and i keep commenting to my notices.

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rakkasan00 offline Verified User (8 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 1 week ago (1 year, 1 month after post)

I moved a couple times to try to start over but your right the problems you have here will follow you. stay put and find new things to do and places to go so that your not in the “rut”

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