body help: I have scars all over my body. - Help.com

I too have this to an extent - most of mine were self inflicted so have the extra issue of people’s perceptions, judgements, sweeping generalisations etc. Have periodically thought about some strategically placed tattoos to cover the most obvious ones…… Strange though, sometimes I don’t mind them, othertimes I really hate them. Have tried Bio Oil, Aloe Vera gel etc but too little, too late for mine. Supposed to be more effective for smaller, newer scar tissue. Maybe the only thing that actually works is self-acceptance?

I’ve been ignoring it and everything. I can’t even look at it. I get suicidal.

Talk to your doctor or beautician. They are in the best position to help. Jung is right… learning to accept that you are unique is a whole lot better than worrying. It makes you an interesting person.

I can’t afford getting surgery for it.

Buy some scar serum. Works pretty well. =D

Then be an “interesting person” and be proud to be different. None of us are perfect and you will be accepted for who you are, not what shell you inhabit.

The majority of the world is based n vanity.

I’m in a position where people put me under a microscope so to speak and pick out every flaw.

Of course it is. And only a select and special few are able to see the reality that SHOULD be. Be one of them.

The scars are from past injuries and accidents, some are self-inflicted. It doesn’t look very well and people are beginning to notice.

I don’t want people to know I cut my wrists.

May I ask what position puts you under such scrutiny?

It’s people I’m surrounded by, I suppose. Things I do half the time are public creative things and I’m usually center-stage when I do them. And I feel like instead of looking at me, they are looking at my scars.

mumstheword wrote:
Then be an “interesting person” and be proud to be different. None of us are perfect and you will be accepted for who you are, not what shell you inhabit.

mumstheword wrote:
Of course it is. And only a select and special few are able to see the reality that SHOULD be. Be one of them.

Really sound advice. Scars and ‘quirks’ at least show that you have lived. They are also a testament to what you have been through - and survived.

Don’t worry about what they see. The scars indicate only past events, things that are over.. to me.. I see a survivor. Someone who has got through the worst of times and is STILL able to do amazing things. You are very special.

Yeah, I call them “battle scars”…but I still don’t like having them. People say I should be a little bit less down on them.

Thank you, mums.

It’s just hard when I feel like people are looking at them instead of the point I’m trying to make across.

I’ve had a surgery that I didn’t even need to have, I’ve been in some accidents and fights and cut up…and my wrists are scarred.

Yes, they show what you have lived through. It’s time to accept them and let others accept them too.

If there’s a way to rid of them that doesn’t cost over 1,000 dollars I’d rather do that before accepting anything.

Do you ever talk about them or let people see them voluntarily?

I don’t know if some of the earlier suggestions would work for you but they may be worth a try. From what you say, though, I think you can be strong enough to use them to your advantage and be admired as someone special. Good luck my friend.

No, mums, I hide them.

Thank you for the advice.