Love help: Why Can’t I Get Over This

Chizel

Why Can’t I Get Over This

My ex and i broke up 6 months ago today. she moved on really quickly and has a new boyfriend. but i regret ever ending it. i really want her back. we have been talking every night for about 4 months now and are really close. we see each other alot, and she “may” have gone behind her boyfriends back with me ALOT of times. i have told her how much i love her and how much i want her back she said she regrets not trying harder the first time and she said that she feels exactly the same about me as she does with her boyfriend.she loves us both the same. but she said that when we were going out the conection was stronger. i have asked her to choose between me and him. she really has no idea what to do. and i don’t no what i can do to change her mind. am i wasting my time??? i have tried to move on and i just really can’t. i need her in my life. i want to be with her till i die. can anyone help me with any ideas that will win her heart for good???

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Dragon_Lady 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (3 minutes after post)

Yes; sorry to say, I think you’re wasting your time. She’s stringing you along because she wants a “boyfriend back guarantee” in case her new relationship doesn’t work.

You deserve better than that. You deserve to the be the one she wants, not just the one she’ll take if nothing she likes better is in sight.

Just gradually move away. Stop thinking about her. Stop rescuing her. Stop being available

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אָ QaSh אָ 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (7 minutes after post)

Dragon Lady is right. Stop thinking about her. May be, then she will understand ur absence. If she really does, then she will miss u and cant live w/o u. U just stay away from her and dont contact her.

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mariposa2008 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (9 minutes after post)

Dude, I feel your pain, but you have to let it go.

No offense, but you are sounding a bit like she needs to put a restraining order against you.

You need to focus on the other things in life that excite and delight you and give them your full attention.

She sounds like a flake, so don’t waste your time. There are nice women out there that don’t treat men like this.

Be free, enjoy yourself alone for a few months, and then go find a nice lady!

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Chizel 0 #
Chullora, 02, AU | 1 year, 6 months ago (35 minutes after post)

I can’t say goodbye i have tried. any ideas on a way to get her out of my head???

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אָ QaSh אָ 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (38 minutes after post)

Try to make urself busy in different things which fascinate u. Like going to Clubs, Internet, Chatting etc. There are many. Just keep urself Busy. Slowly Slowly she’ll be out of ur mind :)

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Chizel 0 #
Chullora, 02, AU | 1 year, 6 months ago (40 minutes after post)

but what if she won’t let me?? what if she starts asking why i’m not there??? do i just tell her i don’t want her??? cause i will. i might not be thinking about her as much. but i will always love her.

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אָ QaSh אָ 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (41 minutes after post)

No. Never do that. Never tell her. She will leave u forever. Just make some Excuse.

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אָ QaSh אָ 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (41 minutes after post)

Wt abt Vacations? r u going somewhere in Summer Vacation?

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Chizel 0 #
Chullora, 02, AU | 1 year, 6 months ago (49 minutes after post)

no man i’m in australia we haven’t really got summer break and i don’t got the money. whats something else???

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אָ QaSh אָ 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 hour, 23 minutes after post)

hmmm…. let me think.

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S.A.N.Y.A. 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 hour, 39 minutes after post)

U haven’t mentioned, who broke up?

Viviana80 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 hour, 57 minutes after post)

Do u really want a girl who can’t choose?
I hope u don’t. u said she loves you and the new boy as well… try to reason about that. maybe you are still in love with the memory of your realtionship but now somethis has changed, she has changed! take out your pride and be a men! you don’t have to change he mind , you don’t have to convince her to come back with you, it must be her own choise. that’s the only way to built your story again.

Let her alone, don’t call, don’t waist your time waiting and despairing …just wait.

and don’t forget that you don’t need to run after no one.if she’s the girl for u she’ill be back. is she will not … it doesn’t matter. You CAN start again ^_*

take care

Felicity 18 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (5 hours, 30 minutes after post)

hold everything people! I think it’s romantic.And whatever happened to patience? C, are you willing to wait? back off her with the pressure and enjoy the time you do have with her.If so, I say go for it.But if you see its not working,let her go.What are your thoughts about that?

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Chizel 0 #
Chullora, 02, AU | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 day, 23 hours after post)

i ended it. and i still don’t fully understand why i did. i regret it everyday. i have been waiting for a good 4 months. i love every second i spend with her and we do **** aswel. but it hurts when shes with her boyfriend. i want to wait but i don’t think it is the right thing to do or really what i need at the moment. i guess i want a reason to stay. but i just can’t find one

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Viviana80 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (2 days, 4 hours after post)

Good Choise!
Be Strong .. time goes by .. you’ll start again and next time it will be great!

Take Care :)

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