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A trip to the country? Rent a cabin, walk in the woods? A trip to beach? Soak in the water, lie on the sand and bake. Build a little fire and hunker down and do a little Indian chanting? (I’m serious.)

(((hugs))) Honey… God loves you… and can help you. These thoughts are being inflicted upon you, from Satan. He is the exact opposite of God. He is evil… he hates… everything and everyone.. .he is the author, of all evil. He is the one speaking to you, he wants you to destroy yourself… and anyone that you possibly can, along with you, before…. you can come to know the truth, which is Christ.

Satan… I bind you.. in the Name of our Lord Jesus Christ.. I come against you with the blood of Jesus… I command you to cease…. and desist… do not speak to this person again… I bind you …. and I plead the blood over this soul, I ask that the angels come and minister to him/her as an heir of salvation…. I free you from Satans grasp… so that you can receive the love that Christ has for you.

Reach out to Christ.. right now.. do not wait… take the chance that you have now…

Pray this prayer:

Dear Heavenly Father, I ask you to save me, in the Name of Jesus Christ of Nazereth, I know that I have sinned, and am in need of your salvation, forgive me, and cleanse me of all iniquity, deliver me from the hand of the enemy that torments me night and day, free my mind, of the evil thoughts that have been inflicted upon me, clear my mind, and set me on the right path. I place myself in your hands, and I thank you for what you are willing to do. IN Jesus Mighty Name. Amen.

Here are some places for prayer support, and I will continue to pray with you and for you, shout me anytime.

wjcr.org

Godswork.org

frangipane.org

dailyguidepost.org

God be with you… and to him be the glory.. for ever and ever.. Amen.

Posting here is a great start to getting help. It might not seem like it now, but you are not alone and you are also not the only one to have such grim thoughts. Have you considered talking to a professional to help you sort things out?

Hello there Ruint. Don’t panic. What you are experiencing happens to a lot of people. There are always reasons and, like I say so often on here, where there are reasons we can find solutions.

First off, if you don’t feel like we are able to help you, there is always someone out there who can and it’s a question of tracking them down. Keep a hold of the number that Bot gave you if you are in the US. Those people know exactly where to find you the right help. If you’re in UK, there’s a list of numbers attached to my own “help me with..” right here.

All of us feel like Jekyll and Hyde at some point. So don’t let that freak you out quite so much. It seems to me that what’s happened is that your feelings have taken over and they are clouding what is normality and what is not.

You are a good person. You understand how to make people happy. You understand what hurts them and what doesn’t. Because you have such sensitivity, it seems that you beat yourself up whenever you feel “bad”. And when you beat yourself up, you allow even worse thoughts in your head to take over. It’s a viscious cycle.

How can we even understand what are our good thoughts if bad thoughts are not there sometimes to compare with? That is the way of the world. Yin and Yan, Good and Evil. This is how we learn and how we make decisions. We consider, we ponder what is right and wrong. You are right. Temptation to do wrong is a powerful force. Why else would innocent as pie kids, left alone and told “don’t touch the sweets on the table” time and time again.. touch.

Now, bad thoughts and good thoughts are a normal part of our lives. What is different for you is that they have become extraordinarily overbearing. This could be symptomatic of a depression or a disorder which could easily be resolved. It would help if you would talk to, or maybe write to, your doctor.

Consider investigating other sources of help.. reach out to them. Google, click links, call.. whatever it takes. You are too precious to lose to those bad thoughts.

The helpers here have good ideas. Try them all.

Don’t worry… lots of people have these thoughts that feel irrepressible and overwhelming. The only important thing is whether or not you can control them. If you hurt someone, then that would be your fault, because you let these thoughts out… but you can control them. You CAN, even if it seems impossible.
This IS the real you, the one that you make yourself. I have bad thoughts, too, I imagine hurting people in my life, I imagine horrible things… but its my OWN decision not to do these things. As long as I am strong enough not to let them out, I am a good person. You know whats right and what’s wrong… therefore you kjnow what not to do, right?
If its this hard, I would suggest going to a psychiatrist. They might be able to help you get rid of whatever is causing the bad thoughts. If you don’t feel that you can talk to them, perhaps you could print out this post and show it to them.
I think mumstheword said it best. We have to have bad thoughts in order to make decisions, in order to know what is wrong or what is right. They do not make you a bad person.

….. and i said unto you, ask, and it shall be given you; seek and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you. You can do it, you can control life easily, don’t give up hope stay strong.

Exactly, You are not a bad person. You are a person who is troubled. People here have all different troubles. They aren’t bad either. Just worried, hurt, scared, embarrassed etc, so you see, we all need to talk to eachother.

Thoughts are hard to control..your environment can add or relieve some thoughts. How is your physical place?

please , i thank GOD for your life that you have join the family over here. i want to assure you that only jesus can help you out. i will pray for you and he will take control. look ,i have been in bad situation for long time but through prayer, jesus is taking control. just believe in him and he will help you.

I think it’s important for you to talk to somebody, because as you said you feel the problem is to big for you to handle yourself.

I understand why you don’t want to see a psychiatrist, but you should know that it ISN’T admitting failure…. its just getting a little bit of help. Its like, if you’re studying for a test and there’s one concept that you just can’t understand, it doesn’t make you a failure to go to the teacher and ask them to explain it in a different way, right? It just means that you’re smart enough to ask for help when you need it. YOu say you owe it to these people and yourself to succeed… well, getting help will help you to do that :)
Do you have a school counselor, if you still go to school?
Or, maybe you could try searching the internet for your symptoms… its not foolproof, but it might help you to understand whats going on a little bit better.
Having a psychological problem, it isn’t doing anything wrong, and it isn’t your fault or anyone elses. It has to do with your brain chemistry. Do you go to the doctor when you get a cold? That isn’t messing up!
But you sound strong, and smart, and resourceful. If you’re willing to put up with these thoughts, and keep pushing them to the back of your head, then I bet you can deal with this without help. Only thing is, I would suggest finding someone (a friend… your sister?) to talk to about this. Don’t keep it to yourself that you feel this way.

I’m really impressed that you’re sticking with this Ruint. You clearly have courage and are a fighter. You can get through this and there are lots of avenues to explore if you don’t feel you can consider professional help. I have to agree with nutmeg, it’s by no means the sign of a failure going to a therapist or psychiatrist. If your car wasn’t right and you couldn’t fix it.. you’d consult a mechanic(does this mean you are a lesser person for not fixing it yourself? no).

Do some research as Nutmeg suggests. If you find something you’re not sure about, ring a support helpline in that field to ask some questions. Nobody needs to know. Line up your questions in advance on a sheet of paper to make it easier.

Think about paying a visit to the doc at least. The feelings you experience may have a physical cause. I am making an assumption here that you are male (I apologise if I’m wrong) People often think it’s only women that can suffer emotionally as a result of hormonal imbalance. Men do too. Maybe your doctor can investigate that sort of thing as a possibility. There are a whole heap of reasons why visiting the doc might help. I understand that this may be a financial burden for you. Is there a charitable clinic of some sort that you could attend? Maybe your school or college or workplace have a medical facility you could tap into? Perhaps you could afford a busride to attend a free clinic elsewhere?

There are so many avenues you can go down.

I noticed that you said you hadn’t had a brush with God for many years. If you think you may be open to getting religious support, why not investigate that too?

Max-needs makes a very good point. Is there anything you can do to improve your environment or your daily routine? Little unseen pressures add up to big unseen pressures. Try to eliminate little things. Do you always rush to the deli for a bite and rush back at lunch hour? Could you get up a little earlier, make a healthy snack and enjoy it at a more leisurely pace so that you benefit from midday “recovery” time? Is your room how you want it? Would moving the furniture or a good clean up make a difference to how you cope in it? One trick you can try (sounds crazy but works for me when I feel blue) - clean your window. Let in more sunlight. Some newspaper and a little vinegar is all it takes. The difference may be small, but each tiny positive difference helps to kill those negatives. Think about your environment and day and what positive changes you could make.

Your parents love you and sure they are going to desire perfection for you. I’m a parent and I know it would upset me if my child was suffering. I would panic if my son said to me “I am going to kill myself.. I’m mad.. I’m worthless”. But if my son said to me “mom, I love you so much. Do you know why sometimes I feel like I do?” and gave me the opportunity to sit with him and talk.. I would be able to deal with it better I think. Perhaps that’s a way forward with your parents? I don’t know. Something to think about maybe.

Take each day at a time. You have made such a great start already discussing it here. Don’t stop now. Keep telling yourself “i’m doing ok. I got through another day.”

Hello I have to say that reading your thoughts on the screen were very poingnant.

I would like to ask if you have any sort of faith in God. You mentioned you had not “had a brush with God” for quite some time, and I cannot help but wonder what happened to make you perhaps turn away, or think He left?

These thoughts I have to say are coming from somewhere and as debilitating as they are, and seem, you can conquer them, it’s going to take alot of hard work, and perhaps seeing someone professional may be the way to go because they can give you ways and outlets to put a voice, a proper, and healthy voice to what this monstrosity is for you.

Has there been pain in your life? Have you endured a loss of some sort? an injury towards your person, a violation? Were you wounded in your heart deeply and find it hard to find your way out of the pain? This is like peeling back the layers of an onion, and perhaps it isn’t just one thing, but a myriad of many things together… perhaps the “thing” is forgotten, and buried but the feelings and emotions and torment remain and this is the outlet you have chosen for yourself, without realizing it, the feelings have taken over. ( I know you didn’t choose to live this way, that’s not what I am saying… if we empower negative feelings for too long, they become all we know and somehow intertwine with the fabric of our being… so to speak)

There are ways out of this and I can almost guarantee that there is something going on here that Silver wings touched on. I don’t want to bombard you, and do not want to talk about God unless you want to, but if you would like Prayer, I can and am willing to do that for you. Your life is precious and God can take the worst of emotion and heal you… you won’t forget, but you will be able to hold your head high and live in integredy and self assurance. That I can guarantee.

The trick is to just think and not act on your bad thoughts. You really sound like you battle with those demons on a daily basis. But, you need to actually talk to someone and maybe let the thoughts out (not the actions) so you can relieve your mind and your heart of some of those thoughts. I wish that I could actually know what is going on with you but I don’t. The one person who needs to realize what is going on with you is you. But, if you feel that you need help, don’t hesitate to ask for it. Stay strong!