life help: im a little confused… - Help.com

Are you going to move from a guy with no job to another with no job either?

You probably should’t stay with someone just because you are afraid they will die if you leave…
That isn’t real love…it is pity love.

i tink dat mayb u shood stop dating ur bf, but not go out with dat other guy dat has no job either. Makes no sense.& ur bf might b wanting 2 control u with da he will “kill” himself thing if u leave.

Break up with him. If he says he’s going to kill himself, then that’s a bad relationship. He’s emotionally blackmailing you. Take him to the hospital, get him help, but whatever you do, DON’T let him hold on to you like this. You have your own life.
Tell him “I love you, honey, but I think that we both need some time to ourselves. I don’t want to keep hurting you like this, and I think it will be better for both of us if I let you go” (Making it sound like you’re doing it for him). Or something :P.
But I like the idea of taking a little time to yourself. Maybe you can date this other guy, but don’t try to get into a serious relationship with him just yet.

I agree that if your boyfriend is making you miserable, it’s best for you to get out of the relationship. If he’s talking about killing himself, tell his family so they can be prepared to support him. But about this other guy…you say he has no job…what is he doing with himself if he’s not working?

Be very careful about getting involved with guys that have questionable backgrounds. You should know what he’s doing with his life, among other things, before you even consider going out with him. Being nice is just not enough these days. His niceness may be attracting you because it’s something that you feel you’re missing with your boyfriend. Taking that time for your self is a good idea.

U shood probably stay alone 4 a little while. It might do u sum good 2 not date anyone at dis moment. I no I’m young and haven’t dated much, but believe me I no enough 2 tell u dat u deserve a better guy than dat, I guy who will definitely appreciate u and ur decisions.

what goes around comes around, jus remember that, if you were ur bf, would you like to be treated that way?

hey, im jus giving my 2 cents in this, but go with what u feel is best, best of luck :)

he sounds very manipulative. maybe you should just be friends for a while.

cuz i dont think i wanna be with my boyfriend n e more.
he wont get a real job.
he acts like life just owes him everything and is not willing to work for anything.
hes always in a bad mood.
and i feel like hes pressuring me to do things i dont wanna do.
but i met this guy and he dont have a job…
but hes nice to me
and i think i like him.
but im scared if i break up with my bf he will kill himself…
hes like that…
idk wat to do

it sounds as if your boyfriend may have been a mommy’s boy for way too long.. giving the opportunity to live off from his parents with out any real responsibilities.. also he seems very controlling.. forcing you to do things that you dont want to do… refusing to get a job even if he is able too.. but again.. it sounds more like he has had a life with no responsibilities and is just use to living that way.

and trust me.. i was kicked out when i was 13 and then was forced to come back home because the house wasnt getting cleaned.. because the video game was more important to my mother.. but anyways.. i moved out when i was 16 and had a child into our own little apartment.. i continued with school and everything.. so i know how hard it is to make it on your own.. especially when you have too… great big hugs to you..

omg.. we have sooo much in common… i base my childhood on being cinderella.. raising my siblings who were 9 and 13 years younger than i… i actually had people ask me to babysit… they would sit with me for hours.. play video games and board games with me.. then pay me to make it look real.. just so i could be a kid..

ohhhhhhhh the stories i could tell of the horror that i lived through as a child.. but that would take me forever in a day.. i actually went to go to family court one day and saw my own parents sitting there on the abusers side.. why?? because he had money.. my parents are friendly with anyone who has money.. if you dont have it.. you are no good.. (they cry poverty all the time and want money and will suck you out of it..) so i actually told them to drop dead and left for 3 years with no contact what so ever.. my dad was actually dying from an incurable kidney disease.. but i didnt care.. 3 years later.. my sister found me and told me his heart was going to get him before his kidneys.. i lost it and broke down really badly.. so i ended up going back.. the first few months were awesome.. it was the kind of loving family i always wanted.. but then their true selves showed up… and off i went again.. i live about an hour and a half from them… and the only time they call is when they want money.. go figure.. (as i sit on welfare because i cant work due to my tumor)… i really wash my hands of them.. i do keep in contact once in a blue moon to find out how my father is doing.. but other than that.. nothing.. i called my mother to let her know that i had a tumor and this and that.. and her reply was… yeah.. i must have one too and went on with symptoms of her conditions of pain… ugh… she didnt even ask how i was doing or anything. as always.. its been a competition my whole life with these people..