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wheres a link to their profile?

how do u know this person is dead???

he was living with Silverwings for a time… she took him in when no one else would.

living?
so did silverwings invite him to this site?

I don’t think so … they met on this site.

http://help.com/post/148118-this-post…

He seemed like an okay guy, but I don’t get the feeling he’d be interested in memorial things for him. It seemed like he wanted to dedicate every discussion to Jesus Christ.

And Jesus himself only wanted to teach love to the world in a very transformational way. But when he died his friends still gave up their own burial plot for him.

Where should I send my donation?!
~Richard

Wow. I can’t believe he went through with it. Is there an explanation.. What went on.
Yes, I would like to send some too.. is there an address, P.O. box or another site that might help us get that info

The link on my above reply expresses some of what went on… I don’t yet know how to donate.

I would like to donate something towards his memorial. Do you think you could set up a paypal account? It would make it easier to donate something.

I will make a donation. Let us know when you have something set up. I do not know how to do paypal, but I will figure out if you choose to do it that way.

sorry, but i have to say this.
i love how everyone is going on about how he was treated “less than respectfully”.
Scatt4ever was no picnic to deal with. He was rude, obnoxious and extremely self riteous and forceful in his views. He said straight to me that my sister is going to burn in hell for being gay.
The only reason he ever would have been chastised here,is because of the way he approached people and talked down to everyone who did not share his views.

yes, i understand he was in pain. most here are, many in huge amounts of emotional and physical pain. who knows how many users from here have committed suicide.

its extremely sad that he gave up and took his life. i always wonder when i hear of a suicide, what would have happened if theyd just waited one more day, they might have found thier answer, or something to live for.

however, making him out to be something he was not, is disrespectful to all. everyone is basically trying to say he was driven to it by something someone here said, which is crap.
he made the decision to take his life.
and like i said, he was no picnic to deal with. he was not the perfect guy people seem to think he was.

im not trying to be mean or attack anyone here or belittle his memory. Im simply saying the truth, how it was. i just hate it when someone dies and people make them a saint when in actual fact they were a demon.

ranger sheepeffer wrote:
however, making him out to be something he was not, is disrespectful to all. everyone is basically trying to say he was driven to it by something someone here said, which is crap.

People aren’t always completely rational when someone close to them dies.

I’m sorry my comment wasn’t supporting “the cause” of this post — I just wanted to respond the best way I knew how because Emilie is helpful with my questions.

I never got the impression anyone was blaming people on here for him making the choice to take his own life. It is just a tragedy. I know he could not see beyond his strict religious view, but that is more reason to feel for him. It is just sad.

Of course I will donate.He deserves it just as much as the next person.Thanks for being so thoughtful Emilie :)

I agree with courty, he wasn’t the nicest, greatest man i’ve ever seen

to be honest, ok realistically he may have said things to have hurt people. I will admit I never remember speaking to this user but im sure he wasn’t a hitler. but I think it would be far nicer to leave the horrible things he said to rest because he is gone now and he isn’t coming back to say such things or to put anything right as he can’t. remember we’re not all alway saints either. I think it is better to let him rest in peace.

like i said, were not attacking him in any way.
im simply stating the truth.

Let me just say this
I always frown upon the money asker’s here and i’ll do the same for this

:(

Whether he was nice or not nice doesn’t matter. A human life no longer exists and we all came into contact with him. No matter what, a life was taken. How about putting the past behind, and showing some respect now.

respect for what?

A human life

Proof?

im not being disrespectful!!!!!!!!!
zomg, nothing i said was disrespectful in any way.

its just ridiculous that just because he has passed away im not allowed to say what i really thought of him?
jesus. My own dad died 2 weeks ago, and i dont call him a saint. people dont become perfect when they die, and i think its important to remember that.

People Please, this is not the place or time to vent.Its like peeing on someones gravesite.If you cant have respect for the dead at least have some respect for the ones who grieve.Thank you

im not freakin disrespecting anyone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

To be quite honest… any monetary donation I give I want to go to Silverwings. Jason of course is dead and can’t really spend it. Silverwings on the other hand took the time, respect, consideration… and quite frankly love to bring someone into her home that was hurting. She tried to help, and in the process got to know a young man… and he died; sadly. He has no one, so Silverwings yet again steps up to the plate for Jason, to make sure his passing is not in complete silence…but instead a respectful whisper. Quite honestly I don’t think Jason would have cared, and he’d be very surprised to be remembered thusly. My donation is not for the dead but for the woman that inspires me. If my donation of a few bucks can help to offset her burden it will be my honor.
~Richard

I don’t think Courty is trying to disrespect. It is merely saying what is meant to be said, in her opinion and whatever she believes in.

And i don’t like to see that this post, like most religion post makes a hot debate as to who is showing respect or not. But people have been invited many times, so they come here and say what they like or need to say.

Jason wherever he is would be honored to know that he is being thought about well and prayed for by his friends. Silverwings has helped him through in a lot of ways. And will continue to help others who are in the same boat as Jason.

In my small ways, i am helping the living.I appreciate those who put up much for this cause and may the force be with you.

well… just my opinion.. but… to those who are complaining about scatt.. rather than understanding.. is getting me pretty ticked off.. for one.. until you totally judge someone.. you have to know a bit of their life… you have to understand that when one is under such pain and pressure of life.. words of anger take over… so it is possible that when he was under so much stress, you caught his bad day… this post is for a good cause.. not to sit here and bash him.. thank you..

as for helping with his stone… i am unable to send a lot of money.. but i will be able to send a few dollars to help.. many hugs and best of luck raising this money for scatts stone.. love shie.

i need proof of this stone and this guy’s death before i’m willing to send some money.

this is encouraging people to commit suicide. and being praised afterwards.

Anonymous wrote:
this is encouraging people to commit suicide. and being praised afterwards.

actually its not… its because those of us who knew scatt… who talked with scatt.. care… its not to praise someone for committing suicide… its because of the bond that we all had with him..

~lilies~ wrote:
may the force be with you.

and also with you.

thats sad. I’m sorry to here hes gone.

I never knew him, and to be honest I don’t think I ever saw any of his posts. I guess he was pretty religious and I cant say I hang there. I respond to a few.

I do know Silverwings and she was so down. She tried so hard. She fed him and shared her home and Im sure had many conversations concerning scripture. He became part of her world. Her world had a huge crash along with her heart.

I do believe in respect for the dead, no matter what personal thoughts you have. I feel bad for anyone that has reached such a desperate level and saw no way out of pain but to die and end it. Truly a waste. Too bad he couldn’t hang on and love Christ with happiness in his heart and soul. Clearly he had other issues.

If this helps Silverwings to have closure and helps give Scatt a stone to mark his presence here, among us, by giving a few bucks, Im in.

It’s so sad. So sad. So sad.

Depression sometimes displays as aggression and anger. I, for one, would like to forgive any harsh things he said. I hope he was able to make peace with God before he died. I can’t even say that I’ll pray for him because it is too late.

I cry for him. Not that it helps…

So sad… So sad… So sad.

I don’t like the way that sounded. He did love Christ with happiness in his heart and soul. I just that other issues swarmed him. I hope that sounds more like what I meant. I apologize for poor wording.

thanks lillies. someone gets it, at least.

I get you Ranger. You are being real about your feelings. I can respect that too.

I am so sorry silverwings, Emilie T., I did not know Jason (scatt4ever) and now I believe I never will:(

It is a sad reminder that it is impossible to help everyone, that the pain can become too deep to think of anyone but yourself. God giveth life God take it, I believe he will never give me more than I can handle, and when I struggle I ask Jesus to do the talking for me. Jesus has taken the wheel many times in my life. It is because of him that I still walk this earth, it is because of him that I am a person worth knowing, it is because of him that I keep going:)

thanks chica :)

SoulRising wrote:
Jesus has taken the wheel many times in my life. It is because of him that I still walk this earth, it is because of him that I am a person worth knowing, it is because of him that I keep going:)

Well put.

I had only talked with Jason a few times on this site. What I gathered from him is that he loved God so much that he was frustrated by all the sin in the world. The world lost a very good man the day Jason ended his life. It was a pleasure to know him on this earth, and I look forward to meeting him in the next.

spiritedsoul wrote:
wheres a link to their profile?

http://help.com/user/150534-scatt4ever

Silverwings wrote:
Thank you Emilie… for the post, and for the thought. I was aiming to purchase a headstone for him, and had not thought of inviting others to help, until you mentioned it. I am grateful for the thought, also, for any help that anyone would feel like sending.

I only have an estimate on a stone, of $500.00 to $800.00, for a small one. If anyone would like to send even a few dollars, it would be greatly appreciated.

I was not prepared for this post, so, I do not have figures together, but, I will do that… (and this will help me with the procrastination, that is part of me ~smiles~ )

If you would like to donate please keep this post in mind, and soon, I will add figures and an address. Please invite your friends too, if you don’t mind.

Thanks to all.. and God bless…

You can setup something with paypal for donations.
https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr…

I believe when someone dies it is important to celebrate their life, the good and the bad. I was not friends with Scatt and I may have had communications with him similar to Courtney. Courtney is justified in what she is saying. Too often we put the dead no petal stills like they were perfect. Obviously, this man was in a lot of pain. Those users who may have had negative interactions with him, may now see that he was negative and judgmental because he was in pain. Most of the time when people are rude or disrespectful it is more about them than about the person they are targeting. Courtney he did not know your sister and had no right to judge her. He obviously did that because for a moment it made him feel better about himself. I am sure he had beautiful qualities about him, as we all do. My condolences go out to those of you who cared for him. I think that anyone who knew him on here should share their experiences, the good and the bad. Let us cherish his beauty and learn from his mistakes.

Please let me know where I can send my donation .

(im courtney, btw ) thanks maxi :)

oh, one thing though,
ive never used paypal, but i have heard some dodgy *** things about it.
there is a stipulation in the fine print that says they can at any time refuse to pay out cash, and the money can only be used online if they so wish. idk, just be wary if thats what youre going to use.

ranger sheepeffer wrote:
oh, one thing though,
ive never used paypal, but i have heard some dodgy *** things about it.
there is a stipulation in the fine print that says they can at any time refuse to pay out cash, and the money can only be used online if they so wish. idk, just be wary if thats what youre going to use.

Well maybe this is true but I being using paypal for over 4 year a never had a problem with them.

like i said, ive never used it myself, but i know people whove been burned by it

I believe you, I’m just saiding that I never had a problem with them. Also I never did anything as of donations. Once the money is deposit in you checking account you can do anything you want.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
post the obituary

I found it in the bowling greene news paper
http://www.wbko.com/obituaries/180103…

and could not find any family tied directly to him either.

That is so sad. I would imagine their are people out their that loved and cared for him. I hope they know what has happened to him.

I don’t know him. May his soul rest in Peace. All the best to Silverwings.

always sad to hear one of our help.com friends have left us for the beyond. here’s to hoping he rests in peace and that his next life will treat him better then the one that past.
Good luck in the future Jason.

Silverwings wrote:
I had no idea this would bring me more pain… I am sorry Emilie… but, I can’t stand this. I am going to close the post.. his memory is precious to me, and right now, the tears are streaming down my face. Thanks for trying to help.

so sorry to hear that hun…. many many hugs sent your way.. just for you… love shie.

Sorry Silver, Emilie will when she comes.