Person help: I do something I don’t agree with and will never accept. - Help.com

Well, I have to ask the standard first question, which you didn’t really answer in your post… Do you ***really*** want to quit?… Yet???

Yes I want to quit. Badly.

Have you already tried quitting, I mean really made a decision, and really tried? If so, are you able to explain why you weren’t able to follow through?

I haven’t tried badly enough I don’t feel. And I haven’t ever been able to follow through in fear of giving into the temptation…and have, many, many times before.

Invite others over and have a party to celebrate your personal future achivement and REMEMBER WHY things are better. You know it takes your undivided attention so give birth to a new activity of your liking instead of your disliked ways.
You know who influences such things.

Begin your priorities NOW NOT LATER.

Hmmm… Well, an addiction that is always done in total privacy is one of the hardest to break. Plus, an addiction that is fullfilled in private is usually one that is replacing a similar fullfillment which can be carried out with others… But, of course, in a much healthier way. Is this the case for you?

Yes Saggezza. Pretty much.

Hmmm… ok, well, would I be way off base if I were to suggest putting real effort into finding a girlfriend with whom you could redirect your energy towards?

Well… in some ways, it’s sad, but we normally exchange one addiction for another. The only hope is that the new addiction is healthier. It’s much better to be “addicted” to carrot stick than cigarettes for example.

28 days. That what it takes. It takes 28 days to develop a new habit; an addiction if you will. Our brains are programed for things and they are called habits. There is a web of neural pathways that are created in the brain and there is one for every habit we have. If you stop that habit the neural pathway will go away. As I said though the easiest way to stop a habit is to start a different one. Well, it takes 28 days to physically develop a neural pathway.

So, find a suitable substitution, be that exercise, journaling, creative writing, meditation, anything… when you feel like doing your addiction do the other instead. You MUST do this for 28 straight days. If you fail once… and it would be normal if you did… you must start that count from the beginning; 28 STRAIGHT days.
Bright blessings ~ Richard

I don’t think many people would accept it…at least in my social standing.

Decide you are going to stop doing it - and then stop doing it. Get rid of anything that helps you do it, and like others have said find something that automatically replaces the time spent on it.

You are harming yourself; perhaps not physically but mentality. I don’t think that I can give you adequate advice based on what you’ve told, but I’d say that if you don’t want to quit, then you’re not going to. Not until you convince yourself that quitting the addiction would be more beneficial to you than continuing it (in which case, morality should be enough to get you to stop; if it’s immoral then the chances are it is harming someone, most likely you).

I agree with Scheherazade - thing is you are addicted to it - so it is stopping you from doing other things - also you seem to have a really big problem with the fact someone might realise who you are and that would bring your ‘world’ crashing down. You made this post because it’s bothering you - I would go further to day that you need to confide in someone, anyone - actually I’d tell Richard Cor De Lyon as he is wise and unfazed by all things - then get an outside opinion on what it is doing to you. Really I would - Good luck & Regards Mas

Right I had an idea and this way you havent typed anything on your computer but could give us a clue how to help you - so I was thinking of addictions people could have and I googled the top ten addictions - now I warn you that the last link is quite ‘out there’ but by my way of thinking you could just come back and say your addiction was on one of those links. Hope this makes sense - anyway remember the last link is quite strong, unusual addictions so it’s not for the young or faint-hearted

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Sorry if this is way off base, but if you are addicted to what I think you are addicted to (and yes, getting a girlfriend would change that)… you aren’t hurting ANYONE, including yourself. Its 100% normal, and EVERY single person does it (including everyone who says that they dont)