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WILL MY BOYFRIEND CHANGE FOR ME?
I’m lost. I’ve been going out with my first b/f for 6 months now(we’re in early 20s) and we both love and care for each other. However, he doesn’t really work on making me feel special. No surprises, random crazy things or similar stuff that the romantic me dreams about. I don’t see him as likely to be doing that sort of thing in the future either. I’m curious to see how many people reasonably have that with their men in their relationships. I know that guys are known for being somewhat self centred and poor communicators, yet i’m really yearning for spontaneous expressions from him of that he cares about me. I can see that he does when we’re spending time together (if cold - offers jacket, holds door/ bag, pays, kisses, cuddles, etc), but he’s just not doing anything spontaneous or special outside of our times together. Not unless i ask for it point blank. Like “I’d love it if you asked me how my day was and how the things in my life that i’ve told you about are going”. Then he’d make an effort, if a tapering one.
Otherwise, I know that he respects me and values that he’s got me. He’s got a stable career and we’ve got A LOT of interests and attitudes in common. I’m scared that if i leave him over the communication issue that i’m unhappy about, i’ll be being unreasonable and passing on a perfectly suitable man who’ll love me and care for me in my times of need (if only when i’ll have to ask for that help point blank instead of having him realise my need and offer to help).
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