I don’t really have any advice but I can feel what your saying. You really miss her.Absence makes the heart grow fonder. I wish I was her, away on a fantastic trip with someone really missing me. Sigh.
Maybe you could plan how you will welcome her back, a great date or romantic meal, or you could write a poem about how you miss her.
It definatly does make the heart grow fonder… I am feeling really sad, And I dont know how to deal with it I want her to have a great time but be safe and i just worry that she wont want me after having all that fun over there :(
But did she ever not want you?
No I never felt that she didnt want me to be honest im kinda insecure and dont know what to do! Do i call her or give her some space and feel crummy or let her call me when she can
I don’t know what the scene is with the time zones. Probably you don’t want to wake her up but If you want to talk to her and she’s not available you could leave her a message saying you really want to hear her voice or something.
Awww i hope i find someone who loves me as much as you love your wife. Finally REAL love instead of kids thinking they are in love. Im really tired of those post. How long have you two been married? I know im not helping im just curious. And i dont think she would mind if you called her, if anything she is probably wondering if you are thinkig about her.
3Hazel wrote:
I don’t know what the scene is with the time zones. Probably you don’t want to wake her up but If you want to talk to her and she’s not available you could leave her a message saying you really want to hear her voice or something.
Or you can tell her how much really miss her. I would like that lol
The only way I can talk to her is calling her hotels when she is there and that is hit or miss her and her family are out touring alot. I bought her a Skype internet phone but its not working and the tech support wont reply.
Weve been married just over a year and thats whats tough her parents are there and get to talk all the time and are sharing the experience her grandma is widowed and another lady that is there is a freind of the family who has been marrrid forever and doesnt talk to her husband on the phone much. So i look like a fool calling her and they want to stay moving cuz they dont have anyone who misses them
Im almost nervouse about calling because If i dont catch her there I will be disapointed.
Are you feeling lonely? Do you have some close friends who would come over?
Lol i doubt it if she finds someone else. You should feel secure i mean shes with her mom grandma and another lady. I dont think she will be thinking about getting with some other man. I bet she misses you as much as you miss her and wish that you were there with her instead of her mom
They have been but I just get really lonely because the length of time is so long that she is gone for. I agree with you skyy but i just got that thought in the back of my m ind and every time i think it I get down on it. Do you guys have any tips for dealing with it
Its terrible but I get the fear of her running into someone kinda like under the tuskan sun movie in Italy
Ummm being that i never been in your situation i dont know of any tips. To be honest i would probably feel the same way you feel. I mean no matter what you do you are going to be thinking about her in the back of your mind. Whether you are with friends family etc. So maybe 3hazel can help or someone else. Come on now if she do run to someone under the tuskan sun she would be imagining you as her lover. Not some random man. She loves you and you know that, you are just going through the lonely syndrome. I just made that up by the way.
goog job of making it up its frusterating becaue i dont want to feel this way and im trying to talk about it to make it better and it does temporaraly but then it comes back
Yea thats what i was trying to point out. Hanging with friends and etc are only a temporary fix the longing is still going to be there soon or later. I mean what happens when you go home or get bored with your friends you are going to be thinking about what shes doing. Thats normal, it would be a problem if you didnt miss her. Which is why i dont know what to tell you
coolcatfish82 wrote:
Its terrible but I get the fear of her running into someone kinda like under the tuskan sun movie in Italy
if I recall correctly the lady Diane lane played a recently divorced lady in under the tuskan sun. I don’t believe you should lay the foundation of your wife’s loyalty on a movie. but since we are on the subject Diane lane didn’t find that man easily. it took her almost the whole movie to find that fellow. I really don’t think there are topless hot Italian man just waiting for your wife’s attention. also I am very sure your wife miss you just as much as you miss her. but she can’t call you all the time because she is busy with her visit. and this is what you need to do. keep reassuring your self that you trust her she misses you and you will be together soon and get busy. clean the house take the dog for a walk play a video game anything to keep your mind from wondering to thoughts of your wife. you can also plan a great surprise welcome home dinner for just the 2 of you for when she comes home. keep your mind busy and the time will fly. Please know your not alone. I can’t go very far from my husband with out crying like a big baby because I miss him. we are attached at the hip. hope this helps!!!
Right now anything helps just some positivity helps And the under the tuscan sun thing is just me thinking of all the bad things that could happen and I know that she in the movie didnt have 3 generations of women in her family with her. I just want an esy fix, and I want to be strong because what kind of girl wants a man that is an emotional wreck like I am right now…
I would i think its cute :)
coolcatfish82 wrote:
Right now anything helps just some positivity helps And the under the tuscan sun thing is just me thinking of all the bad things that could happen and I know that she in the movie didnt have 3 generations of women in her family with her. I just want an esy fix, and I want to be strong because what kind of girl wants a man that is an emotional wreck like I am right now…
your wife wants you!! you should believe that!! I’m sure she knows exactly why she loves you and chose you to be her husband. alot of people can’t stand to be away from their spouse for long periods of time. (or in my case 12 or more hours) I think you should pack up and go to italy because for you it’s like your heart has left and gone to italy!!
So my last thing is do i call her and when if i do My wifes dad is leaving the Rome airport at 9:45 am. when ive been calling ive been calling at 7 am but I think that they will be leaving a little early to make sure that they get to the airport in time, but I dont want to call to early and wake them up if they are sleeping. Or should I just not call at all. I think her family thinks I call to much.
Ummm how often do you call?
I was trying to talk to her before she goes to bed which is liek 3 pm here and when she wakes up and thats liek 11pm here. But I resisted and didnt call her before she went to bed!!
Or would calling the front desk and trying to talk to the guy in an italian accent and leaving a note there for her when she checks out telling her how much i love her.
it’s really hard with the time differance. when does she say the best time to call is.
coolcatfish82 wrote:
Or would calling the front desk and trying to talk to the guy in an italian accent and leaving a note there for her when she checks out telling her how much i love her.
that sounds romantic
Whats wrong with calling her two times out of the day? You shouldnt feel bad for that they should understand since theyve been married before (her mom and grandma). What is making you think you call to much or that they will think you call too much?
Awwww ok im jealous lol… well coming from a girls point of view i would like the second choice
Well when i talk to her by the time she gets off the phone the others have went to bed and shes not ready to… and The others dont spend any time on the phone at all hardly. I dont know I feel like im a bother.
I called the Hotel and Had them leave a message for her that said I didnt know when you would be up and I didnt want to wake you but i want you to know we miss you and cant wait to see you!Love Shane and Wesley
and see i think the worst all the time When i called they said that two of the 5 or 6 people have left for the airport already. And instantly im on edge thinking who is number 6 when there is only 5 of them, and its stupid I know deep in my hear theat there is no number 6 but I still question myself and thats what hurts more than anything because i know that my wife loves me and wants to be with just me..
I’m thinking of it now and would be upset if my husband didn’t miss me and try to call me as much as you have. you shouldn’t feel bad!! your just not use to being an emotional wreck like this. as far as the calling goes; you should call and talk and not worry about it!! I’m sure she understands!! as for her family; how could they understand about you calling ;they most likely still ride a donkey to town and shout out windows instead of calling each other (that was meant to be funny… no offence) they just don’t call alot that’s all.
ok so you can’t talk to her for a while so find something to fill your time!! keep your mind off of it. because worrying about it will not help!!
My thinking to the calling is Ive made it very well known that I love her tons and would do anything for her but I dont want to push too hard and push her away….and in my mind when you know you have someone you dont have to work hard at the relationship and you dont treat the other person with respect as much and I want her to have a respect for me like I have a love for her
Rebeccalynn thats what i have been trying to tell this man. Listen any woman would die right now to have a man as compassionate and loving as you to miss and long for them. If not all, most. So nothing you are doing is wrong at all. We like the cute messages and little phone calls reassuring us that our man is thinking about us instead of some other woman.
She must be thinking all sorts of things. Is he thinking about another woman or seeing someone else. Do he even miss me… Just think about that and try to need stress it so much, but then again i would want you to stay just the way you are lol, i guess im evil or something. But i rather you think and miss me then not care that im gone for a long period of time.
If i could get the knots out of my stomach for a while I would be fine I need to think positive and stay positive and turn my stress into positive. Easier said than done….
coolcatfish82 wrote:
If i could get the knots out of my stomach for a while I would be fine I need to think positive and stay positive and turn my stress into positive. Easier said than done….
this is good. now make it happen!!! tell your fears to leave you alone and build your thoughts on truth!!
You even have knots in your stomach…. Man tell me her secrets lol im just joking, no seriously.
I know its hard but you have to do it so that you wont go insane
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