Person help: I think I am worthless - Help.com

I remember an episode from the British show Red Dwarf where a monster called ‘The Inquisitor’ travels the universe ‘deleting’ people he deemed worthless, replacing them with a person (the unfertilized egg, the sperm that didn’t make it, etc) who never got a chance to live. It shouldn’t be too hard to find on YouTube, if you want to watch it for a different perspective.

I don’t mean to be a jerk but it’s called “help.com” for a reason. It’s a site designed to help those in need or want. I like your enthusiasm though. i wish everyone in the world never knew pain but sadly they do and that is why this sight is here…to help.

Interacting and connecting to other absolutely helps with self worth. Too often people isolate themselves, then wonder why they feel worthless and lonely. I disagree that everyone’s cup is running over with depression and sadness. You see what you want to in others, so if you choose to only see the sadness you will. Perspective is a powerful and tricky element in our lives. Many people’s perspectives are so out of wack that reality is out of reach.

I saw the title of this post and was like, “oh crap, I should have spent an extra two seconds at least trying to work with those projects”… then I read the next sentence and I’ll go back and read the rest.

What exactly do you need?

You want us to tell you are goals?

This site is mainly comprised of people who struggle with goals…they look for advice, support and people who care. Wanting and making a goal is easy…dealing with stress or bad environments and poverty isn’t. You sounds to me that you tackle issues from a business aspect. Some here require emotional support. Their goals are in their words or needs. I hope I answered your question, if you had one?

People want or need. Needs are tangible, wants and desires are emotional. Some need the emotional part in order to function or feel functional. Here you can sometimes supply a need or fulfill a need:) Get me?

Business is the act of doing or working. Please forgive my simple wording, but I enjoy wording it that way. Helping people is doing and we do it here for no money and we get rewarded sometimes in feeling good. We won’t die if we don’t feel good, so it’s not a need, but it helps us function better to acquire the energy to work on the things we do need:)

You listen and don’t judge..people generally need to vent and not be judged. Here is a good place. You can slow the world down and take time to recognize that people all over the world have the same needs..some more then others, but the basic same stuff. If it helps great, if it doesn’t, oh well we tried and on with the next one. It is better then no help at all. I believe, unless they have totally lied to me that I have saved a few lives on this site..or bettered a least their day…that makes me feel good and gives me what I need.

Right on I agree. I guess I can get distracted sometimes when I see people out of work looking for money..lacking the basic resources can add a stress to an already difficult situation.

Almost; like food, housing and social activities. I have found through experience that when a group of people are economically producing well, the issues change a bit and we don’t sweat the small stuff as much.

I think every problem should be treated the same as any other, meaning just because you think it has an easy solution or maybe that the person just needs to change their way of thinking it is not like that at all.
Maybe you need to change your way of thinking, start with realizing that people deal with things differently and that what my be an answer for one person will not be the right one for another.
People who think they are worthless do not want to feel that way so making it sound like they have chosen to stay like that is a bit nasty, it is not a choice and it is not a choice either on how to feel better.

I think this runs along a similar way as when people assume that depression is just in someone’s head, like a make believe illness and how to feel better is just be thinking “happy”, if life was that easy then there would be no sad, lonely, depressed, hurt or suicidal people in the world.

Disagreement transformed into a dialogue is productive. Uncertainty can create a paranoia of weakness and fear of pain or loss. I’m coming to reconize that Ego plays a big role in a lot of people’s issues; as well as somebody are happy living on the street. I respect their decisions even though I don’t agree they would be right for me. You seem like a focused person which is fantastic, but some struggle with even the simplest task. So you break it down to baby steps.

I believe that everyone’s perception of value is different. Personal value and their perceived value. Success is measured in different ways. The the fear of failing and what people will think is an ego thing, while some come to believe that trying is just too hard. Everybody needs somebody or something. In a business structure your views may be the norm..but in a example; farming community things would die if routine tasks are not performed. The child that runs away needs help to cope and feel better without judgement. Motivating someone to be healthy is one of the worlds biggest challenges. It’s always a work in progress and when you fall behind is harder to catch up. Teach a man to fish and feed him for a life time:)

Speaking of feeding..I have to go to the market..lol. I checked your sites and links and they are pretty good. Here is a little tip..people like the path of least resistance, simple and easy is best. Later dude:)

Thats what I always say’*try, when we try we are succeding