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am a hypocrite :’( I NEED A SOLUTION PLEASE!

I had these 2 bffs with my other bff, things went wrong and i changed skl with one of them (so we kept our friendship) but gossiped ALOT abt the others (coz there were lots of misunderstanding), Now that we all take tests in one hall i talk to the others & also had some problems with the bff i changed school with who i complained about to the other girls (the other 2 ex bffs).. So its like I talk to the girls who I gossiped about and at the same time I betrayed my BFF when we had problems by complaining to them. I feel like i have to do something! I cant talk to them knowing that i said things behind their backs.. Im thinking about writing apology letters to all of them and tell what exactly i said about each one, what do you think? :( and if therez a better solution please tell…

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Richard cor de lyon offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 82 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

I’m sorry… I’m an old man… I don’t know what the h#ll you just said.

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Swillington, O7, GB | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

I think the letter is a good bet, once you get it out there they can chose to forgive you or not hun. asside from telling them what happand and saying your sorry theres not much you can do.

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cattail offline Verified User (7 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 11 #
Newark, NJ, US | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (42 minutes after post)

I think the solution here is you’ve learned your lesson, you regret what you did, and just don’t do that anymore! :) Admitting your mistakes to yourself is good. If they are discovered by the others, then apologize and tell them you have learned and don’t do that anymore. I’m not so sure I’d write letters to everyone, maybe this will all just blow over without upsetting things any further. Honestly, I’m sure we’ve all been a bit hypocritical at some time or another… but we learn. In general, it’s best not to gossip about anyone… you’ll be much better off if you just avoid talking about others behind their backs anyway. It’s not a good quality, and actually the people you gossip to will somehow trust you less because deep down they too will wonder if you talk about them behind their backs as well.

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2 months, 2 weeks ago (3 hours, 5 minutes after post)

thnx everyone =D Im rlly glad i posted this problem, and actually right afterwards i went to write the letters by sms :P, and its amazing how they responded; they were all understanding and made me stop thinking that im a hypocrite and 4gave me :) …now i feel releaved because it followed me like a shadow everytime i talked to anyone of them, so from now on whenever one of them praises me as being a good friend, ill accept it and believe in it.. :P

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cattail offline Verified User (7 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 11 #
Newark, NJ, US | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (6 hours, 53 minutes after post)

:) That is great, I’m so glad things turned out well… and you even managed to get the truth out to them too!! I’m not sure I would have been that brave!!

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Tictactomm offline Verified User (7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
Edmonton, AB, CA | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (9 hours, 58 minutes after post)

Richard cor de lyon wrote:
I’m sorry… I’m an old man… I don’t know what the h#ll you just said.

Oh man that’s funny

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An Unknown Location | 4 weeks, 1 day ago (1 month, 3 weeks after post)

i think you should just be up front… and tell them that you said this and that in there face with them all there to hear..
i mean who doesn’t fight with their friends…
the difference is that once you clear the air with the both of them… or all of them there then there will be no room for any one to say you said this and that…
then you can also explain why you said certain things and explain why you felt the way you did…
but don’t do this separate make sure all participating parties are there..
friends already know everything about us… let them know that you are trying to br honest to maintain your friendship.

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