life help: I’ve been going out with my girlfriend for about 8 months

Cory

I’ve been going out with my girlfriend for about 8

months now, i noticed that things started going different about a month ago after we had a 2 week break up. She seems to ignore my texts i send her as if she can’t be bothered anymore. But when i do get round to finally seeing her she acts like as if everything is fine. Im rather confused and wondering if this is her way of telling me she wants to break up. Part of me thinks that this is the case but i don’t seem to want to let go of her and its affecting my whole life pretty much. Sounds silly i know.

The thing that annoys me the most is that i would have thought that after 8 months of going out she would have respected me enough to actually break up with me properly (if that’s her intention) rather than playing the ignoring game.

Anyone else going through this or got any advice? Or am i just been stupid and need someone to tell me its time to move on?

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ineedhel #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 minute after post)

why don’t you tell her how you feel?
after all, 8th months and you should be able to talk to her about things like this…

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Anonymous #
1 year, 6 months ago (3 minutes after post)

I will agree with ineedhel. Just put it out there on the table and say ” look, I can tell something is up. If you want to go then go.” it will hurt but its better than living in question all the time.

Cory 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (7 minutes after post)

that’s exactly what i want to do, ive tried texting her asking to meet up but got no reply. I could go straight to her house and ask to talk to her but i think that would be crossing the line for some reason. I don’t want to come across as an obsesive boyfriend or some kind of stalker.

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melt 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (14 minutes after post)

doing something once doesn’t make it an obsession. just go over there. what do you think people used to do before texting?!

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jhscms200 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (22 minutes after post)

Dude i think it is time to move on dont play games with her i know the new way of talking is texting so if she is not texting you back than what the h 888 and go out and have some fun.

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missmapny 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (27 minutes after post)

amen to that ^^^^^
I know you dont want to run accross the truth but maybe that is what you need to kick-start the whole thing going.

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littlenick 158 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (30 minutes after post)

Have a heart to heart with her! The truth may hurt you but it may set you free of all doubt. Don’t melt in front of her if she wants to break up.

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Cory 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (42 minutes after post)

Yeah That’s What I Want To Do. Just Unsure If I Should Just Knock On Her Door Or TRY To Arrange A Meeting In A Neutral Place But This Is Hard As She Aint Returning My Texts. Most Guys Would Just Call It Quits But I Need A Definate Answer Before I Can Move On.

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jhscms200 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (49 minutes after post)

Or you need to just move on and not give the time of day because it sounds like she does not want anything to do with you and if you do go over there you might see something that you dont want to see

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littlenick 158 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 day after post)

Then read between the lines and walk away! Don’t call anymore!

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r.rebecca #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (3 days, 6 hours after post)

It sounds like you are the only one trying to make the relationship work. I agree with you, that after 8 months, you are entitled to the courtesy of a verbal breakup! ( in Person)
I am sorry to tell you this, but I have been where you are and in my opinion, showing up at her door to tell her how you feel is a complete waste of your time! She deserves none of your time and there are women out there who would appreciate and value a man like you and want to spend time with you. You should not have to question and wonder how she feels about you!! In a good relationship, it goes both ways, imagine it like throwing a ball back and forth between two people.. You throw it to her, she catches it and throws it back to you..it’s not just one person doing all the work! I am not comparing your relationship to a ball game, please do not think that!! I am just using it an example.
She is keeping you hanging and possibly waiting to see if something better is out there ( and keeping you around, for backup in case something better doesn’t come along). I am so sorry that you have to go through this and shame on her for not being up front with you! Please, save yourself a conversation with her bc she may reject you right to your face and it hurts more that way. Stop calling her, ignore her, she is giving you zero respect!! She does not deserve a visit from you. Sadly enough, the day you start ignoring her is the day she will want to be with you, see you..( let the games begin)….But she will only be coming after you bc she will be wondering why you are not sitting around waiting for her call.
DON’T LET HER PLAY THIS GAME WITH YOU!!! RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN AND DON’T LOOK BACK! SPARE YOURSELF FURTHER HURT. You will get over this and meet someone else, I promise!!!
I am a 30 year old female and I have a younger brother who went through this same situation that you are going through. He broke up with the girl after being treated like crap for a few years.. He met his current girlfriend and is madly in love with her and they are planning a future together! So, hold your head high and move on!!! You deserve to be happy!!!

It sounds like you are the only one trying to make the relationship work. I agree with you, that after 8 months, you are entitled to the courtesy of a verbal breakup! ( in Person)
I am sorry to tell you this, but I have been where you are and in my opinion, showing up at her door to tell her how you feel is a complete waste of your time! She deserves none of your time and there are women out there who would appreciate and value a man like you and want to spend time with you. You should not have to question and wonder how she feels about you!!  In a good relationship, it goes both ways, imagine it like throwing a ball back and forth between two people.. You throw it to her, she catches it and throws it back to you..it's not just one person doing all the work! I am not comparing your relationship to a ball game, please do not think that!!  I am just using it an example. 
 She is keeping you hanging and possibly waiting to see if something better is out there ( and keeping you around, for backup in case something better doesn't come along). I am so sorry that you have to go through this and shame on her for not being up front with you!  Please, save yourself a conversation with her bc she may reject you right to your face and it hurts more that way. Stop calling her, ignore her, she is giving you zero respect!! She does not deserve a visit from you.  Sadly enough, the day you start ignoring her is the day she will want to be with you, see you..( let the games begin)....But she will only be coming after you bc she will be wondering why you are not sitting around waiting for her call. 
  DON'T LET HER PLAY THIS GAME WITH YOU!!! RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN AND DON'T LOOK BACK! SPARE YOURSELF FURTHER HURT. You will get over this and meet someone else, I promise!!!
I am a 30 year old female and I have a younger brother who went through this same situation that you are going through.  He broke up with the girl after being treated like crap for a few years..  He met his current girlfriend and is madly in love with her and they are planning a future together!  So, hold your head high and move on!!! You deserve to be happy!!!

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