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1 year, 5 months ago (2 minutes after post)
im sorry.
just know that other people’s lives arent perfect either.
i just found out my dad is druggie.
Anonymous
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1 year, 5 months ago (14 minutes after post)
I’m sorry. Now I feel guilty for complaining b/c your right.
its ok, dont feel guilty bc you are also in a terrible position.
Dont feel guilty just know that you could be in a worst situation. Everyone complains about how horrible their life is but thankful at the same time because it could be worse. You have a right to be upset you are working your butt off and hes not doing anything but making you feel bad. He should encourage you to work part time so that you can focus more on your school work. Im a college student myself and i would find it very difficult to work full time and be a full time student.
Hes being selfish and is only thinking about himself. And its good that you feel bad for having to lie to your boss. Most people would do that in a heart beat without a second thought if their parents agreed that they do so.
Have you ever tried asking him why he doesnt work or why he wants to go back to his country?
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1 year, 5 months ago (25 minutes after post)
He doesn’t work b/c he doesn’t want to. He has a lot of money saved up, like about 150,000 dollars and he wants to visit, not go back permanently, b/c we haven’t been there in a long time.
He used to own a restaurant and he sold it. He’s starting to contribute by fixing broken things around the house, cooking now and then, and taking care of the lawn, but he refuses to help financially. My mom works more than I do and she’s exhausted all of the time. We don’t get to see her as much as we like. I give her my whole paycheck except enough money for gas and my car payments.
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Anonymous
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1 year, 5 months ago (29 minutes after post)
SO ask your dad what the hell does he want you to do? don’t let him make you feel bad.
make him feel as bad as you do.
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1 year, 5 months ago (33 minutes after post)
I did. That’s why he told me to get out.
Don’t think for a second that I’m meek. I’ve got “anger management”. I yell a lot. I get frustrated. Especially when I say, “well, what do you want me to do then?” and he says, “i told you five years ago not to work full time. if you had listened to me then…” at which point i interrupt and say, “well, what do you want me to do NOW?” (B/C there’s no point in bringing up the fact that he’s lying now.), and he says the same thing AGAIN. He’s so annoying.
Anonymous
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1 year, 5 months ago (33 minutes after post)
I think sometimes that he doesn’t have a conscience to feel bad about things.
i know my dad, would get mad and not even speak to me for long periods of time.when i finally got old enough to leave home, and would’nt call he said why don’t you call. parents who understands them.
Well i dont know what to tell you because you already stood up to him and got your point across. And was kicked out because of it. Maybe you should try explaining it to him in a more civil way. Like have a one on one conversation with him with out arguing. Unfortunately if he just wont hear you or try to understand then it might turn into a heated debate.
your dad should be ashamed of himself. He should be looking out for you and your mom. Your mom should not have to be working herself to death. What does she have to say about this?
i think if ur dad is not willing to help ur mum out financially, she should leave him.
because he has loads and expects her to get tired.
hit him where it hurts
just not too hard.
make him realize his mistakes
i have a similar father. im 16 and have a 21 yr old sister, 23 yr old brother, and 25 yr old sister. my oldest sister is off and married and has made a great life for herself. my brother is a ******* moocher bum loser like my dad . my mom is a medical assistant and doesnt make enough money to support me, my sister and brother to attend a private college they insisted on going to, and MY FATHER. i dont understnad WHY he wont work and why he likes to see us like this. i got my first job this yr and opened a bank account and hes stolen my card and overdrew it. if theres money in my purse he takes it. he does this to anyone who makes money. hes taken from everyone in my family . i just feel so bad for my brotherinlaw. him and lauren (oldest sister) work hard for their money and he has screwed them over 15,000 dollars . i dont understand why he is around.. its apperant him and my mother are not in a healthy marriage. my mom states daily how he has ruined her life and their marriage has been a disaster. i dont know if this sounds selfish or not - but as much as i love my mom and i know she works her hardest i still feel resent towards her.. she COULD divorce him and get rid of him. i dont think its fair to me to have a father like him, its her job to provide me with a good father and she has failed.. is that wrong? all he does is cause heartbreak and pain. unlike my siblings i wont be able to attend a private school because he lost his job a few years ago and REFUSES to look for employment. now i dont mind not being able to attend the private school whatever, its just whats MINE is not HIS. i would understand a lil more if he would at least help my mom out around the house, cut the grass, cook, etc. but he doesnt! he sleeps.. ALL day. hes the most selfish person i know. i want to quit my job if all the proceeds go to him. i hate payday. my mom has to hide her checks at her office. i just feel this isnt fair.. i didnt asked to get born into this life nor do i want to continue living this lifestyle. if u know u cant support a kid then dont have any. i cant explain the situtaion to my friends bc they just dont understand.. i wish he was a druggie or osmething so then itll be a lil easier to explain.
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wow i cant beleve that theres a dad out there thats just like mine! my dad i a bum, his the most cold harted person i no! he lost his job 1year ago and now his so lazy alll he ever does it watches tv all day, he doesnt help with household chores or anything! my family have asked him many times why is he doing this etc..and he just says bcus i want too…i personally think his mentally disturbed and that bcus he has nothing better to do with his life he sits in front of the tv all day thinking about stuff thats making him go carzy! He thinks my mom has brain washed me, my sister and my brother, and he hates my mom soo much….my mom works her butt off and dos crazy hours and my dad doesnt do nothing! its such a shame bcus he has such a supportive family that would help him if he just asked but he has soo much pride and he is totally obsessed with respect as he thinks none of us respect him! his soo selfish, my sister is 14 and he dont care about her like if shes eaten or not! me and my mom work late ad when we get back from work my lil stster sometimes hasnt even ate bcus he makes his own food and doesnt ask her, his sooo selfish its unbelievale, when i tell my friends there like nah he cant be that bad…but he is! he hides it infront of people but then when ppl are not there his true personality comes out! the only person that can make my dad see the person that he has become is GOD.
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i believe people hate their dads…..
your mom talks a lot but you can easily forgive her because sometimes in a weird way mothers show their pure love…
but when your father talks, he can say words which really makes you go down……
at least that’s happened to me….
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