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Hi… What is wrong at home that you want to run away??

I hate to ask the same question again but what is wrong; what type of thing?
How do you scare your kids?

But is that just ’cause you are very stressed or overworked? Do you know what makes you shout at them???
What ages are they?

problems never get fixed by deserting them, never. my parents fight all the time. ever since i can remember they have never gotten along. Although all the time they have said that they are going to leave, they never do because they know that is not going to help me and my sibilings. they both try to make things work, even though things havent gotten better, its just the idea that they are trying makes the difference to me. i dont know how you’re kids feel but that is how i feel about my parents. if all else, that is how i know my parents care for me. I dont know you situation but this is what ive experienced in my life. i hope that helps.

- Joey

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Ok, well then what is wrong that you are shouting at your husband?? Is it something that you and he can fix/resolve?

Like Joey above my parents always argued when I was a child and then finally seperated when I was 22… My only wish was that they had seperated sooner because they genuinely were not suited.. .They are both with other ppl now & I love seeing them happy although I must say even at the ripe old age of 22 it took a lot out of me for them to seperate so I am not suggesting you do that… What I am suggesting is that you try to figure out (1) what are the problems, (2) can these problems be fixed and (3) do you and your hubbie want to fix things or make things beter…

Running away is absolutely not the answer… For your own sake and for the sake of your little kids…

wanna retype the basic jist of it?? Not sure if my advice or whatever you call it was helpful - hope it was….

So your husband is sponging off you financially and is also preventing you from being with friends etc?? Have you been together long? Are things really that bad or is it a case of (and we’re all guilty of it) exaggerating it a little…..

Oh, wait a sec.. Your husband has been mentally & physically abusive to you??? Then at the risk of making it sound like everything is straightforward… Leave him…

You can’t have your kids see you in an abusive relationship and it is not in any way good for you…

Would you leave him?

Basically leave him… I know ppl always say they have nowhere to go etc but do you have anywhere you could go?

Ok… I really don’t mean to sound mean but you are just being silly… Your kids are not better off without you being raised by someone who thinks it is acceptable in any way to be abusive to ppl; what kind of kids would someone like that raise??? Don’t leave your kids with that as an influence…

Ok, let’s try figure this out…
Are you close to your family or more importantly (please be honest) would they put you & the kids up for a few days if needs be?
Are you close to any friends or even a coworker etc & as above; would they put you up?
Where do you live, failing all else are there womens refuges or something similar in your country or city?

Hey - look; I just broke up with my ex who was on occasion physically abusive to me, I’ve been to a counsellor (quite unusal still in Ireland) and she helped me realise that my ex just knocked my confidence sooooooooooooo..oooooooo…….oooooo (you get the idea) much that I thought I was crazy & the one in the wrong…

It sounds like you are probably in a similar place i.e. feeling like you are worthless & everything is your fault but you are NOT THE ONE IN THE WRONG.. Really, you’re not… .

Take your kids & leave him; it will be horrendously hard at first but you (and your kids) will look back on it as the best move you ever made…

Take you AND your kids away from him….

hello??? You still there?

Hi Nikki,

I just saw your posting (new member)…
and wanted to say I CARE! I won’t advise you as to what to do. Perhaps I can offer a few kind words, though…
Our family is REALLY stretched financially. There is a lot of stress, too! What binds us together and helps us to endure the hard times is our faith. I can tell you that I know it is easy to get mad at our spouse or children and yell sometimes. It is usually difficult to swallow pride, and make amends afterward, but very rewarding…
Again, I don’t know your exact set of circumstances, but I do care, and would like to pray for you and your family. Best wishes, Nikki…