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it depends where you are from there are helplines you can turn to, i have been through something pretty similar and am still coming through it but am getting help, i am from Ireland and i dont know where youre from but in Ireland there are so many places to help, you can even just maybe chose one friend and tell her if you have to!!!

Katie ~

I would like to send you a free copy of my book, “Can someone please tell me why my life sucks”. I offer this to any help.com member that asks for it. You can find out more about the book and request it via email from my site - www.greenmancoaching.com. It’s a start. Then I would love to talk with you some more. I have 3 beautiful daughters - you’ll see them on my website… none of them are perfect, but they all know they are special… just like you are. Feel free to give me a shout anytime.

I know it probably sems impossible but seriousley do try to tell someone, be it your sibling, a friend, a parent or a teacher. They may be more understanding then you think they will be and they can help, get you help!!!

that’s not your name?

no… my mistake sorry… do you know a Katie? Someone that is really into your life right now?

First of all, stop thinking failure. You are not. You are clearly intelligent, feeling and thoughtful. Now. You are also young. And right now, you are going through a lot of changes in your life as you step from childhood through adolescence to adulthood. That is a lot to cope with, and sometimes people need a little help to get through that’s all.

There are lots of people here with lots of ideas for you to try. Think of it as a great big “selection box” of help. And you can try as many as you like. If the ideas don’t suit… well… we’ll just fill up the box with some more!

Maybe tell us a little about your family culture - you never know - someone on here may be able to say just the right things you need to work things out at home.

The truth is no one will ever be good enough for anybody including God because he is the ONLY ONE without sin. By the look of things you are probably going through a depression you should pray and maybe if you want to talk to your parents or a doctor.

i know it is going to be really hard to do it but why dont you try calling that number again only this time, stay no matter what, talk to them, if they insist upon taking a name give them a fake one. No matter how hard it may seem to you, i promise you it will be harder to go this alone and yeah its going to be really scary but you can do it just keeping repeating that to yourself and you will be able to!! and everyone here is going to be with you every step of the way. look at it like a ladder, you have already got one foot on the first rung, just by posting here, you can do this!!

You have received some excellent advice here from some amazing people, but I would like to add a few words. Any of us could feel exactly they way you do, because no one is even close to perfect. It sounds like you may feel you have to live up to some standard of perfection. Where do you think the idea that you need to be perfect comes from? There is no doubt that you are beautiful and I am so glad that you cared about yourself enough to pay us a visit. You have now made many instant friends, including myself. I also get the impression that you don’t try to attain the things out of life you truly want, but instead try to go after goals other people want for you. Please tell us what you want out of life, not what someone wants for you. *big hugs* We are here for you!

anonmyou wrote:
Thank you everyone.
This really made me feel better just by reading
everything, and even “helping” back…
I just googled help && am glad I did.
I’m going to make a real account
and go eat something finally lol

Please add us all as friends when you make your account. It was nice to meet you! :)

Welcome young friend.

You do not need to be perfect. Nobody can ask that of you. You are a fine daughter because you are doing your best to work hard at school and to make your parents proud. You clearly care for their feelings and their happiness.

Now you must care for yourself a little too. Look at the good things you have achieved and be proud of them.

Your parents may have based their mistrust of other cultures on personal experiences in their past. They do love you in their way, I am sure. All parents want what is best for their child and it is for that reason that parents make decisions - whether right or wrong - about what is right for their child.

Perhaps there is someone you could talk to who could reassure your parents and allay some of their fears? An intermediary perhaps? I think their actions are based in fear of you coming to harm rather than that you disgrace them in some way. So please don’t feel that you do.

God will not reject you. He does not ask perfection. Only a pure heart. I think you have that.

I don’t really know that life stile so this is probly really easy for me to say this, but you can’t live up to someone else’s standards. You only get one go around in this life so u gata live for u! If nobody else can handle that, then that’s their problem. If you have the curage to do this, then you can do anything that you want in life from then on. Just imagine the possibilities in your life once you are able to move out on your own and have your own life your own way!

And one more thing, there are so many things that i could say here about that little not “pretty enough comment”, but i’ll just leave it at this……shame on you. I don’t care if you look like jabba the hut, just don’t ever think like that please!

Anon wrote thisnd I totally disagree;’The truth is no one will ever be good enough for anybody including God ‘. I dont include God and God made you ,accepts you as you are and Loves you more than any human is capable,afterall he made you and you are perfect in his eyes.You have us now but you said that your not close with your friends.sharing your problems is how we get close to others.http://help.com/post/145067-confessions-of-a-self-harmer

anonmyou wrote:
I try to be perfect for my parents. My older three brothers are ok right now, but really kind of failures in school.
I really try to be perfect to finally get them some peace and happiness, but it’s killing me

Hello anonmyou. (:

It can be really tiring to be perfect. I’ve gone through that and it seriously drains my energy fast. Your parents really want you to be perfect? Maybe you want to ask them what they expect from you in your studies? I don’t know. Cause I showed obvious improvements and they didn’t care. Now, I scored first, they didn’t do anything to. I do wonder sometimes if anything I do is ever good enough for them (they never told me what they expect of me. they said that have no expectations. I set my own expectations.). So, clarify with them. Maybe they didn’t expect that much from you? Cause you may worry so much but it turns out not so bad.

I’m sorry that you’re going through such a tough time. But I really suggest you to find someone to talk to you about what you’re facing. Someone who’s willing to listen to you (I’m sure you can find many of such people here) and understand what you’re going through. You’re not alone, I’m sure. (: Is there a school counsellor that you can talk to? It’s not healthy to bottle up everything inside.

Last thing, don’t think of harming yourself or ending your life. It’s really not worth it. Try engaging in some exercises and physical activities to get these thoughts out of your mind. (: It can be quite helpful.

Good luck! Remember, if you need someone to talk to, there are people here, including me, who’s willing to lend a listening ear. (: Take care! *hugs*

Hi Anon, How are you since posting this.?And what did you think of the video(*the link I gave you)? We will be wait ing to hear from you:)

anonmyou wrote:
Thank you everyone.
This really made me feel better just by reading
everything, and even “helping” back…
I just googled help && am glad I did.
I’m going to make a real account
and go eat something finally lol

Good for you!! Sometimes when you bad you just need to talk and let out some of those feelings and know that you are not alone. Take care and remember we are all here.

Your Welcome :) I will add you to my list if you want,just holler,oh, I mean shout.lol