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She’s so goth!

maybe kurt cobain is telling her to…

yes, my best friend and my sister have both cut in the past, and its a really scary situation. Everyone says to tell counselors… but how can they help, really? and i don’t want to betray my friends…
i sat down and talked to them, told them i loved them snd to talk to me if they needed help, and tried to watch for new injuries

people who are depressed CAN’T listen… they actually cannot. How did u find out that she was cutting?

keep everything away from her and keep telling her that she should stop with this non-sense.

ok, the first part sounds like a problem… but the second part, it doesn’t sound like something a real cutter would do. ppl cut to realize emotion, to dull emotional pain, etc… not to play noughts and crosses.

ummmm i think you need to talk to this othr friend, cuz this could get really dangerous for your cutting friend, especially if she already cuts

Cutting can be a way to release all the built up emotion inside or perhaps as a way to make yourself feel real. I used to be a cutter, it’s not just about attention believe me. Try to keep your friend occupied, if she wants to talk about whats going on with her then thats great but otherwise even trivial conversations can go a long way.

she doesn’t wasn’t 2 admit that she has a problem…she wants someone 2 notice and 2 c what she’s doing so that they’ll care and get her help…she’s reaching out…help her…i was in her place before…she’s not just doing it 4 the attention…trust me on that please…my friends got me help and i was thankful 4 it later…=)

If it’s that bad then yes you should be concerned. Sadly most of the people who cut won’t listen to you know matter what you say. People like me who used to do it were doing it for attention. Me and my bestfriend both cut and we both stood by each other. Is there anything going on in her life that might be causing her to cut? She might not be doing it for attention it could be just for your help. Stick by her and try to help her as much as possible. But don’t pressure her to stop that only makes things worse, people who cut already feel pressured so try not to pressure her. I know it’s hard to see her like this but the only thing that you can do is listen and tell her that you will love and care about her no matter what.

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If it’s that bad then yes you should be concerned. Sadly most of the people who cut won’t listen to you know matter what you say. People like me who used to do it were doing it for attention. Me and my bestfriend both cut and we both stood by each other. Is there anything going on in her life that might be causing her to cut? She might not be doing it for attention it could be just for your help. Stick by her and try to help her as much as possible. But don’t pressure her to stop that only makes things worse, people who cut already feel pressured so try not to pressure her. I know it’s hard to see her like this but the only thing that you can do is listen and tell her that you will love and care about her no matter what.

Sorry I mean’t when my bestfriend cut I stood by her and when I cut she was angry and told me I should of learned by her mistakes, but she still supported me.

How have things been going lately??

No problem..If you need anything else just let me know. =]

Hey Vermillion_Lace how is your bestfriend doing?

dont take away her razors, there are a million other things she could use or she could resort to stealing more, my advice, just tell her you care and you’re there for her if she ever wants to talk, day or night, try to get her to make a promise to you to call you or at least try to when she wants to cut that way you can distract her or talk to her about why she wants to, maybe get to the root of the problem after a while
dont tell anyone, she may act like she doesnt care but my guess is that she does, she cares a lot and telling people could just make her more stressed making the urge to cut stronger
i hope this helped :)