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i have a best friend who is a girl. we have got really close now, she has a boyfriend who she cant leave cos she is a little say scared. she has feelings for me and i her e have kissed a few times but no further but this is starting to destroy our friendship as we keep hurting each other! i want her but dont know how to get her closer, should i just walk and see if she follows?

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ashleyy offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (18 minutes after post)

why is she scared to leave him?
ask her who she wants to be with the most.

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1 year, 6 months ago (18 minutes after post)

Maybe you should work on being just her friend and not hurting her. Talk it over with her, tell her you respect her other relationship and there might need to be more distance since it is hard, but that you really still want to be friends. … Then, really do respect some boundaries. Make sure she knows that you are there for her, but it is her choice. Then, let things happen. If she wants you, and breaks up with her boyfriend, then you can step in… but don’t force her into a choice she isn’t ready to make, don’t lose the friendship… and last of all, don’t put your life on hold more than a few months waiting for her. If you want to start dating someone else, mention it to her… might encourage her to make a decision, but definitely don’t fake it. :) Let her know that HER happiness is your primary goal… for me, that would be the best long-term play.

However, of course, if she is scared of the other guy because of abuse or something, then get her out of that situation immediately.

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S.Adam offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (20 minutes after post)

Man she wnts you 4 sure just go 4 it ..and as u said shez scared of him so shez not inlove with him so man just go 4 it !!!;)

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ok.
i have a best friend who is a girl. we have got really close now, she has a boyfriend who she cant leave cos she is a little say scared. she has feelings for me and i her e have kissed a few times but no further but this is starting to destroy our friendship as we keep hurting each other! i want her but dont know how to get her closer, should i just walk and see if she follows?

Anonymous edited this post 1 year, 6 months ago. Read the previous text »

ok.
i have a best friend who is a girl. we have got really close now, she has a boyfriend who she cant leave cos she is a little say scared. she has feelings for me and i her e have kissed a few times but no further but this is starting to destroy our friendship as we keep hurting each other! i want her but dont know how to get her closer, should i just walk and see if she follows?

givitsom offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (29 minutes after post)

if you forced some1 to stay maybe by saying u would do something stupid if they left you? we cant even look at each other as we both know how much we want to be together

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sunshinebaby offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (2 hours, 7 minutes after post)

Forget about destroying your friendship for a second here.

Think of some other things you are destroying:

1) an innocent guys heart/dreams/illusions - whichever
2) both of your morals
3) both of your abilities to be trustworthy

Kissing her and starting a relationship with her is selfish on both your parts. If she is too scared to leave her boyfriend because she doesn’t want to be mean then no, she doesn’t deserve dessert on the side. If she is scared to leave him because he is hurting her then you need to be a man and help her out - don’t just muck up her mind by kissing her.

What’s the story here? Maybe if we knew more, we could give practical advice.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (2 hours, 25 minutes after post)

try just beening her firend

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (5 days, 22 hours after post)

i believe in fate she will be mine :)

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