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i’m getting married in august and i’m very excited…my problem is….my future husband has to go to iraq in november :o( and i don’t know what i’m going to do without him. I mean i cry when he is gone for his weekend drill! He’s really my only friend and all i have let is my parents who don’t understand me at all!!! i’m going to be alone and depressed. How do women do this more than once and how and i going to get through this. Any army women out there that can help?

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Dance w/me Cristiano offline Verified User (6 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 14 #
An Undisclosed Location | 6 months ago (5 minutes after post)

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An Unknown Location | 6 months ago (7 minutes after post)

Oh, I’m sorry that has to happen. I really hope that everything will work out okay. I KNOW IT WILL WORK OUT GREAT!…You should be happy, you are getting married. I wouldn’t even think about when he has to go away. Just keep the happy thoughts in your head.

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An Undisclosed Location | 6 months ago (30 minutes after post)

The first poster had a smart suggestion.

You WILL be alright but you can’t do it on your own. You need a network of people who DO understand you. I know it hurts us when the people closes to us don’t understand but we have to try to remember that without being in our place, they really can’t fathom what it’s all about (whatever the situation may be).

See if you can find a way to connect with other women in your situation. Being able to unburden on someone who really knows what it’s like, being able to share and hear back from them, would be a tremendous help for you.

This is a huge challenge in your life but it is one of many. Don’t let it knock you down. Try to find people near you who you can talk to. Letting them talk to you about their fears, having the chance to comfort them - that’s also a great way to help steady your own nerves. Fighting in numbers makes us strong.

I have no experience with what you’re going through but I’m here if you need me. Keeping good thoughts in your head is always important, too.

This problem cannot be solved - he WILL leave and it WILL be frightening and lonely. But you can meet this problem head on by preparing for it and finding people who understand you and you can be with when he is gone.

I wish you the best of luck!

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