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I am a college student…

I broke up with my ex girlfriend over 3 months ago near the start of the semester. In the beginning i tried my best to try to make things work between us and maybe try to get back together. But things didn’t work out. The thing is, that I just can’t seem to let go. Though we broke up, we still talked online and even over the phone. And being in the same club doesn’t really help either, for I see her almost every day. and the club means a lot to the both of us, so i cannot imagine any of us quiting the organization.

It wasn’t until a party we went to (not together), that I saw her with someone else, who she claims is only a friend (after I asked her about it), that I decided that it was truly over and I broke off all forms of communication. Yet, when studying for finals, I saw her wearing the necklace I gave her for Christmas, and during the day of one of her finals, she calls me in the early hours of the morning asking me to print out a paper for her (that she needs to get into her final), and for me to deliver it to her. Being that i just cannot say no to people, and it was her final, I agreed to it. After her final, she messages me saying thanks… and that was the last time we ever talked.

Since then, summer rolled around, and I’m back home, trying to keep busy, and keep my mind off of her. But since what happened during finals, it got me thinking about WHY… why is she wearing the necklace i got her, and of all the people she could have called to print out her paper, why does she call me. I keep telling myself that it’s over and to not dwell on things. But whenever there’s a boring moment, she is all I can think about.

What do I do??

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Bex offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (4 minutes after post)

My advice is to move on. She called you because she KNEW you would help her. She is wearing the necklace because she likes it (this does not mean she has any feelings left for you). I don’t mean to sound harsh but you need to face facts and move on. Your life is out there waiting for you to catch up! Good luck to you.

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jaimekd offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (9 minutes after post)

Aw, I know what you mean.
I wish I could find a way to keep my mind off all my relationship troubles.
And mixed signals like that are not cool. xP
Hmm…Find a hobby..would be my suggestion..
But now I sound hypocritical..xP

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MyNewHaircut offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (25 minutes after post)

thanks a lot for the advice.

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Help me with: i am a senior in college right now and i broke up with my girlfriend (my first love actually) of 9 months about 5 months ago.
Andy_willow offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (28 minutes after post)

not to be too harsh but she could just be wearing the necklace coz she likes the necklace, not for sentimental value, move on bud, ull find someone better

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jodeeka offline Verified User (8 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 4 weeks ago (9 months, 1 week after post)

you replied to my post - did you move on? do you feel better for it? or do you still hang on her? how are things going for you? I feel like such a scared rabbit to do this myself.

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