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i am in love with my best friend.

we met at the beginning of last year, and already we are sooo close! we share everything. it is lately that i have started to develop feelings for her, and i have fallen in love. but my other best friend is dating her! he is her ex from a few months ago, and he never stopped to have feelings for her. i dont want to lose any friendships. please help

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AmandaLynn offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 61 #
Lumberton, TX, US | 3 months ago (9 minutes after post)

You dont wanna lose any friendships? But you are in love with your best friend who is dating your other best friend?… come on.. allowing yourself to fall into a situation like this USUALLY only has one of two outcomes: 1) you either get to steal your love away from your best friend and damage the friendship you had, or 2)you confess that you love your best friend and end up offending the both of them and tainting the relationships that were once .. ok. The only other possiable option is that you just try and hide your feelings for your best friend and watch them grow and grow each time you see the two of them together being all “lovey dovey”. Nothing good usually comes from a situation like this. Just a matter of what you wanna do now.

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undeveloped offline Verified User (10 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months ago (3 hours, 26 minutes after post)

dont force her to go out with you. thats kinda how i felt me n my gf were like. i thought our best friend liked her.

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your_favorite_sweeth offline Verified User (3 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (4 hours, 15 minutes after post)

I was in the same situation too. Look, someone is always going to end up getting hurt. NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO. it’s either going to be the girl you LOVE your best friend who LOVES the girl, or poor you who LOVES the girl too. All I can say is be careful, you don’t wanna lose friendship over a little thing called love. You can tell her how you feel, but don’t keep telling her. If she doesn’t feel the same way just don’t ever tell her that you like her again, just be thankful that you have her friendship…

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sweettalker8 offline Verified User (3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (5 hours, 28 minutes after post)

as i agree with you favorite sweeth he has to be carefull but i dont consider love a little thing friendship is a big thing to but loving someone who doesnt love you back and accepting that is a tough pill to swallow i will tell u uberdan that it will get easier to just be friends and if it works out that you end up with this girl then have fun and and love her like uve never loved her before if you stay just friends be the best **** friend you can be

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (4 days, 18 hours after post)

i dnt knw n i can’t say anything abt that bcoz of i alos in truble..so if there anybody help me1!!contact: i> small>(email removed) /small> /i>?

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (2 weeks, 4 days after post)

hurts huh

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (2 weeks, 4 days after post)

all i can say is that “maybe its wrong to say pls love me too cause i know you’ll never do,somebody else is waiting there inside for u.”

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