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Oh Hon, life is not easy and the hardest part of it is love. Unfortunately, some of us are lucky in life and some aren’t. I know what you are feeling at the moment, its painful but I promise you it will get better….time is a great healer.
I know that thats no consolation to you right now, but try to remain positive, sometimes we can’t be with the ones we love because there is a very good reason but we just can’t see it, but you will in time. I obviously don’t know what the details of your situation are and so I don’t know if my words help, but I still hold out hope that one day I will meet someone who will blow me away and I’ll wonder why I put myself through all the pain I’m going through now. So try to hang in there, and remember that no one knows what is around the corner, Love moves in mysterious ways!! Hugs x
its just that, we were together, me and the person I’m in love with. Things weren’t going so well so we went on a break…which turned into a permanent break, one that we both agreed to, because we though we we’re doing what is right, and that prehaps we might get back together in the future, but I love her soooooooo much, I wana be with her. I never wanted to be just friends. All I think of is her, I asked her on the friday(we agreed to be friends on the monday, this was last week) if we could start again with “a clean slate” and she said she si confused and she doesn’t know what to do. Yesturday I gave her a love note, and I’m starting to think that it may seem like I’m pressureing her to do something, I don’t want to pressure her. I want her to do what she’s happy with, I want her to be happy. I love her soooooooo much
thank you for your kind words Emerald, Hugs
Aww Sweetie, there is nothing worse than being in a situation like yours cos you tend to keep thinking about what you had and kicking yourself for making a decision to split in the first place….but what you have to remind yourself of is that you split for a reason, and maybe, just maybe that reason is still there. I know that staying friends seems like a good thing, I am certainly an advocate for remaining friends with an ex if its possible, most of my exes are good friends now and in fact are the ones giving me most useful advice on my current situation, but when it is so raw, and fresh, maybe what you both need is some space. If she is confused then she needs space, and also she needs time to miss you….only then will she realise if she wants to be with you or not. I know its difficult but try to stay away for a little while, try to give that space. You will clear your head, and she will have that opportunity to miss you and clear her head also.
Emeralds post meant a lot to me too. I just want to add that I was in the same situation as you a few months ago, and knowing you can’t be with the person you love is incredibly hard to accept, and it tears you up. However, as time goes by, you do start to see the reasons why you should be apart.
You start to see positives, and life becomes about more than this one guy/girl. Anything could happen tomorrow and you owe it to yourself to keep going.
I was told similar things to you when I was in a lot of pain, and I was feeling ‘no it’s different for me, I’ll never get over this’. But now I realise that wasn’t true. I’m ok and you’ll be ok.
I will give her space, I kinda have no choise, I won’t see her till the 16th at the latest. Although I could talk to her on MSN…prehaps I shall just no log on till the 16th….at the eirliest…give her space.
I think that thats the best thing for now….as I said she needs a chance to miss you, and if she does then you will know if you should give it another go or not.
I know its a cliche, but I’m going through a horrible situation at the moment, and my Gran keeps telling me, if you really love him, let him go….if he doesn’t come back then you know, and if he does then the decision is yours.
Hang in there hon x
I understand, I really do, I’ve just split with my fiance but trust me doing this is the best thing for now, hugs x
i do trust you, and I know you understand, its just it is painful seeing her, thinking about her, reading old texts from her. I can’t get her out of my head
Exactly why you need the space, in fact I would say that you need it for you more than to give it to her. I know it will be EXTREMELY difficult, but try not to read the old text messages, and try to find a mini project that will keep you busy for the next week or so, paint your room, or clear out the garage or something like that, cos if you are occupied it will make it easier….you won’t stop thinking about her completely but you will have something else to concetrate on.
Good Luck, hugs x
she’s just loged onto MSN (i’m appearing offline) its almost killing me not talking to her. I want to, but i know i must’nt
Do yourself a favour and don’t, put her on block, and try to resist the urge to chat….really luv, you need to do this, Be strong x
ok, You know I felt the same way, but then God does work in Mysterious ways….I felt like the world was excludng me from anything but heartbreak.. all you need to do is have faith and god does the rest, trust me, everything will workout for the best..
I want her, because, when I was with her, I felt happy, I felt like it was right, I felt…I don’t know how to explain it, But what I felt I didn’t feel for any one else I have been with. There was somethin about her.
When I hugged her, I never wanted to let go, it felt right. When I kissed her, there was an indescribable feeling, a good, great feeling. When she smiled, I would smile and be happy too, even on the worst, most deppresing of days. When she was not happy, I would try my best to make her happy, or worry about her all night long :(.
And now every time I talk to her, I try, I try to get my emotions across, I try to get the meaning to my madness across
have you ever loved someone…
and tried t move on without them?
trying to forget them
and everything you’ve had with them
you try your hardest…
but everything comes back…
their smell,their beautiful eyes,
the smile that melts your heart, the soft hands…
that have held your body everyday,their soft lips
that greet you every time you meet…
all this comes back to you
when you see them or you hear the familiar laugh.
when you lay in bed you want to cry
you can’t just let go of them
your heart just can’t do it…
this is real love you realize…not just young love
all you want is for them to hold you
and never let you go
love is not a game…
when you really love the person,
you can’t just forget about them in a day or two
love is painful
when the one you loved…
i cant take it i mean… have you ever been in a long distance relationship and you dont know what to do….?
i loved someone once…. after what she did to me i lost all hope….. my hart was broken beyond repair. now all whats in its place is a stone hart that bleeds nothing but pain. please dont put yourself through i went through just wait and in time the right one will come and you will know who he or she is. this is my advice to who ever reads this.
a broken harted fool!!
does girls accept boys just for fun and to hang with them?
I know how you feel .
It’s hard to accept when the one you love, well doesn’t want you anymore. Feels ‘confused’.
I feel, that if me and my boyfriend spilt up, there won’t be me anymore. I will feel empty and I won’t have a purpose in life. I can’t even last a day, without hearing his voice, hearing when he says he loves me, more than anything else. But nothing happens as you want it to. I guess life doesnt come with instuructions, because it would be too easy… right? And nothing comes easy. You have to fight for what you have. There is a lines, quotes I guess about relationships.
‘Relationships, take time to build and seconds to fall’ .
‘When it’s love you fight for, it takes two to win’.
i don’t know how and what i m feeling right now….we were together till two days back and now hes not taking my phone and avoiding me…wish i knew the reason…but surely its not him and he has changed….the feeling is so painful…i just want to speak wid him….i will give him his space but till he does not call back i wud not know how to have patience and hold my self and that waiting is painful… each time i recieve a sms or phone rings i just run..bt in vain….love is painful but still we cant give up loving and that is the tragedy….
i’m in love with a woman who dosn’t love me back. We have a ton of stuff in common and she’s a really lovely lady and really friendly but she dosn’t fancy me. why is life like this
I too love someone that I could never be with. I thought I knew what I wanted until she came into my life. We became very close friends and I’m happy that she is in my life one way or another. There is nothing we can do about it. I’m 40 years old and for the first time ever I feel unconditional love for a woman and it hurts cause I may never feel that again.
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