Love help: I love her, but she gets so angry. - Help.com

does she hit you? I wont judge, just here to help

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Try not to get on her bad side and most importantly since you love her and want to make this stuff work… talk to her on how you and see if she can be willing to change for good. All the best!

I hate to say this but maybe she isn’t right for you. You don’t deserve to have anger that was not caused by you directed at you. My ex would get so angry and he would yell at me and say it was my fault to the point where I would break down and cry. When she is angry she should be able to come to you and talk to you about it. You are the person who is supposed to make her feel safe and better during hard times.

Either two things can happen from this.
1. If this has gone on for a while, then I’m sorry but it may not stop. She is going to keep yelling at you until you can’t take it anymore. She is going to push you away. Don’t defend her for wrongfully taking her anger out on you. If she is angry she should be able to vent to you in your arms or just say hey look, I’m not in the best mood right now and I don’t want to take it out on you so I’m just going to sit alone for a little bit and calm down, I love you, I’ll see you in a bit.

I know this isn’t what you want to hear, and I know that you probably will read my advice but probably not take it. And I understand! I put up with my ex doing that crap to me for 3 years and finally I just couldn’t take it anymore. It was so hard to put up with but I loved him so much I did.

2. Try to talk to her, see if she will accept help. Let her know that you love her and that you want to be with her. But you guys can’t be together if she can’t be comfortable enough to let you hold her when she is down or angry. See if she is open to talking to maybe a therapist and tell her if she agrees that you will hold her hand the whole time. If she is sincere about it, then you may be able to have a healthy relationship.
This can be worked out, it all depends on whether she is willing to work it out with you.
Lol very long reply, I do apologize.

Friend, does she make excuses all the time that do not seem to make sense? Draw a comparison of each others value systems. Granted, you are working very hard at understanding where the source of this dilemma is from, but is this experience for you changing your own personal value system? Almost making you accept anything thrown at you without regard to respect, having a heart, sympathy or just down right act normally towards you? Can you see yet how you can easily be tossed to the side of the road at the drop of a hat by her?

Well, it sounds to me as if what makes you- you, that person that other people have come to learn and respect for exactly what they are and stand up for- is falling to pieces due to constant pain. You are literally being destroyed. Soon, you wont even have a conscience and worse, you will change.

Brother I know how you feel. I am destroyed. Must find a god somewhere and need to find healing so that I dont view death as a comfort anymore. How is that for pain? We love so deeply an individual who has not seen the need to dig themselves out of where it is they are in. But we’re the only ones that can see her gems inside. Its like a curse now because we know what we want. Well’ what does she want? Dont answer that. She already has. This- is her behavior. We cannot make them happy even with a walk to smell the flowers and enjoy peace. You will be dead inside soon. Seek elsewhere, but not to hide- but to heal and heal thoroughly. You will need to and deep inside you want to.

The pain you feel for not having that loved one next to you will want to mulch and bloody your insides. Look at what is happening from the outside and you may actually loose respect for her.

Its not ******** what she is doing. It is real and I feel for her, my god what pain she must have.

Make plans for yourself everywhich way, please. You will not be abandoning her but rather, since you are still alive and breathing-you must take another direction… and not look back. Open your eyes.

I’m so sorry.