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I love her, but she gets so angry.

I’m so scared of losing my ex-girlfriend again. I love her and she is starting to care about me again as well. We’re so close from getting back together, but whenever her life gets hard, she reacts with her old anger towards me. I know now she’s the only person I’ll ever love. Don’t ask me how, it’s just based on long experiences. And I’m pretty sure she never got over me enough to make any of her relationships work either. I just know that if we can get together long enough to rebuild our closeness, things will be all right. And she really does react with building emotion towards me.
But her life is complicated, and every time she has a setback, it drags her away from me again. The old anger keeps resurfacing again and again, and she blames me for stuff she knows is nonsense. When it passes, she will always apologize, but she has to start all over again getting comfortable with me. Because of this, I’m far ahead of her in terms of emotional attachment. Each time her anger pulls her back, it hurts a little more, since my feelings for her are continuously building. Neither of us are bad people and we do deserve each other and the love we know hides inside us. But something broke when our relationship did. I just don’t know what to do. I can’t live without her, but life won’t let me live it with her either…

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Felicity offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (13 minutes after post)

does she hit you? I wont judge, just here to help

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Felicity offline Verified User (1 year, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 15 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (39 minutes after post)

You said’But something broke when our relationship did’ This may be key in finding out what is going on with her.Explore why you got broke up

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emichael2 offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
US | 1 year, 6 months ago (57 minutes after post)

Try not to get on her bad side and most importantly since you love her and want to make this stuff work… talk to her on how you and see if she can be willing to change for good. All the best!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 hour, 19 minutes after post)

I would really like to talk to you a about this cus i had the same problem.i a thirty yrs old guy living in cape town.my advice is that maybe you can start to look at yourself first and try to see what makes her so angry.email me at i> small>(email removed) /small> /i> introspect my brother i wish u luck.

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missjojo12 offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (3 hours, 27 minutes after post)

I hate to say this but maybe she isn’t right for you. You don’t deserve to have anger that was not caused by you directed at you. My ex would get so angry and he would yell at me and say it was my fault to the point where I would break down and cry. When she is angry she should be able to come to you and talk to you about it. You are the person who is supposed to make her feel safe and better during hard times.

Either two things can happen from this.
1. If this has gone on for a while, then I’m sorry but it may not stop. She is going to keep yelling at you until you can’t take it anymore. She is going to push you away. Don’t defend her for wrongfully taking her anger out on you. If she is angry she should be able to vent to you in your arms or just say hey look, I’m not in the best mood right now and I don’t want to take it out on you so I’m just going to sit alone for a little bit and calm down, I love you, I’ll see you in a bit.

I know this isn’t what you want to hear, and I know that you probably will read my advice but probably not take it. And I understand! I put up with my ex doing that crap to me for 3 years and finally I just couldn’t take it anymore. It was so hard to put up with but I loved him so much I did.

2. Try to talk to her, see if she will accept help. Let her know that you love her and that you want to be with her. But you guys can’t be together if she can’t be comfortable enough to let you hold her when she is down or angry. See if she is open to talking to maybe a therapist and tell her if she agrees that you will hold her hand the whole time. If she is sincere about it, then you may be able to have a healthy relationship.
This can be worked out, it all depends on whether she is willing to work it out with you.
Lol very long reply, I do apologize.

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