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Deeply hurt…

I broke up with my ex boyfriend 2 or 3 months ago now. We were together for nearly 3 years. Im getting used to the idea of being single and i am really happy by myself.
However he has become very spiteful and resentful towards me. I cut all contact with him, yet he constantly contacted me trying to talk to me, to be ‘friends’. To be friends would kill me so i broke off completely from him.
A couple of nights ago i received a call. It was him and a girl having sex. I have no idea whether it was fake or it was real. But my heart nearly stopped. Isnt that just so spiteful? I cant believe he really wants to hurt me that much. We have some of the same friends… His been making rumours up about me. His completely disrespected me. Anything he ever told me whilst we were together i would never discuss with anyone.
Sorry i just need to hav a rant!
How can i stop him from hurting me more and more. I cant seem to get away from him. Iv deleted all his numbers, email, msn, etc. And he still seems to figure out a way of getting to me to stick the knife in.

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RangerDange #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 55 minutes after post)

well honestly it seems like you really hurt him to begin with. I suppose you could have avoided it in the beginning by not being selfish and talking to him occasionally. At this point there’s not much you can do… what goes around comes around.

well honestly it seems like you really hurt him to begin with. I suppose you could have avoided it in the beginning by not being selfish and talking to him occasionally. At this point there's not much you can do... what goes around comes around.

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bee89 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (3 hours, 45 minutes after post)

i dont think i was selfish… i explained to him that i couldnt be friends with him… too much had happened.
And yeah it may have hurt him when i stopped talking to him but thats what we both need to begin to move on.
I broke up with him for alot of reasons, including him breaking my trust, his family breing racist towards me, etc. I still love him to pieces and wish things could have been different. I dont think he is a really bad person. But i dont kno wat to do when all he keeps doing is calling me from different phones and trying to be spiteful towards me. Its time to move on.. to move on i cnt be near him or speak to him, it would hurt to much. I have explained that too him.

i dont think i was selfish... i explained to him that i couldnt be friends with him... too much had happened. And yeah it may have hurt him when i stopped talking to him but thats what we both need to begin to move on. I broke up with him for alot of reasons, including him breaking my trust, his family breing racist towards me, etc. I still love him to pieces and wish things could have been different. I dont think he is a really bad person. But i dont kno wat to do when all he keeps doing is calling me from different phones and trying to be spiteful towards me. Its time to move on.. to move on i cnt be near him or speak to him, it would hurt to much. I have explained that too him.

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Sir Arcturus 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 11 hours after post)

It’s difficult, but it sounds like the best thing to do in this situation would be to keep ignoring him. Eventually he’ll move on just as you have. Focus on other things in your life that are important, and do something to keep your mind off of his horrible spitefulness. His own rage and hatred will be consuming him in the end.
Rumors are terrible, but it’s best to ignore those too. They don’t last forever, and people will eventually forget about them. Most people don’t even listen to/care about rumors.
This guy should eventually figure out that being spiteful is his downfall, not yours. Just keep your chin up and have a smile, these things don’t last forever.

It's difficult, but it sounds like the best thing to do in this situation would be to keep ignoring him. Eventually he'll move on just as you have. Focus on other things in your life that are important, and do something to keep your mind off of his horrible spitefulness. His own rage and hatred will be consuming him in the end. Rumors are terrible, but it's best to ignore those too. They don't last forever, and people will eventually forget about them. Most people don't even listen to/care about rumors. This guy should eventually figure out that being spiteful is his downfall, not yours. Just keep your chin up and have a smile, these things don't last forever.

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