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Hi.

I need help. I’m 19 years old and I don’t have a single friend. Not one, and never have. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I just can’t connect with people at all, even though I want to. Pretend you found yourself in my shoes…imagine you moved somewhere new or something by yourself. How would you go about making friends? I can’t accept this loneliness anymore.
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pi offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (7 minutes after post)

go join a club/church/sports team you can meet friends there.

a team sport would be the easiest way to make friends because you have to work as a team talk, know eachothers names etc…
you could ask them if they want to go to the pub after a game or something like that just think of ways to socialise in a GROUP environment.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (7 minutes after post)

Male? Female?

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Hi. I need help. I’m 19 years old and I don’t have a single friend. Not one, and never have. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I just can’t connect with people at all, even though I want to. Pretend you found yourself in my shoes…imagine you moved somewhere new or something by yourself. How would you go about making friends? I can’t accept this loneliness anymore.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (14 minutes after post)

Where did you move from? Are you going to college or finishing highschool?

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1 year, 6 months ago (19 minutes after post)

I’ve moved all over the place. I’m in college.

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Sir Arcturus offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (1 day, 10 hours after post)

People often attract what they are. Are you introverted at all? Shy and quiet? If you’d like to meet new people, perhaps you should change the way you interact with them. Go somewhere that reflects your interests and try to find people there. Practice your people skills, learn to spark conversations and make it a habit. Be friendly and kind. Believe it or not, there are many people like you usually trying to do the same thing. Show your personal interests physically. For example, if you enjoy sports, why not wear a shirt that portrays your enjoyment in sports?
To put all of this simply, portray what you want to attract, open up and be yourself confidently, and let people in.

Good luck.

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