Person help: so im a rather insecure/anxious/paranoid person however im kind of worried that my girlfriend may be cheating on me.

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so im a rather insecure/anxious/paranoid person however im kind of worried that my girlfriend may be cheating on me.

she’s a virgin and I do trust her a lot, but just given she lives 4 hours away when she’s at school and lately she has been much more dismissive when we talk. for the last month I nagged her pretty viciously, and she always tells me “chris I tell you a million times if something was wrong I would tell you!” and she occasionally says I love you, but for the most part she just…we don’t talk a lot. and theres some guy that goes to her school that I see in her AIM profile a lot; as in quotes. and it makes me wonder, she’s obviously talking to this guy WAY more than she’s talking to me. I sent her flowers that she got today just because and she texted me (thanks for the flowers

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so im a rather insecure/anxious/paranoid person however im kind of worried that my girlfriend may be cheating on me. she’s a virgin and I do trust her a lot, but just given she lives 4 hours away when she’s at school and lately she has been much more dismissive when we talk. for the last month I nagged her pretty viciously, and she always tells me “chris I tell you a million times if something was wrong I would tell you!” and she occasionally says I love you, but for the most part she just…we don’t talk a lot. and theres some guy that goes to her school that I see in her profile a lot; as in quotes. and it makes me wonder, she’s obviously talking to this guy WAY more than she’s talking to me. I sent her flowers that she got today just because and she texted me (thanks for the flowers

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Queen Elizatron 4000 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 years, 1 month ago (12 hours, 51 minutes after post)

Working on your insecurity first can help you get over this feeling of non-trust. Living so far away is an issue. Long distance relationships rarely last due to this problem. I do know how she feels a bit when she says “no, stop asking” I think you need to stop asking unless you have proof or some big reason not to trust. If she has never been with a boy before I doubt she has thoughts of cheating. Not saying she won’t cheat later but I do not believe she is now. If you can just calm down and stop the asking I’m sure she will stop pulling away from you.

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An Unknown Location | 3 years, 1 month ago (16 hours, 9 minutes after post)

she’s going out on halloween with one of her best friend’s, it’s a guy. she’s going as little red riding hood and he’s going as the big bad wolf…is this a bad sign or am I just being paranoid.

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 years, 1 month ago (16 hours, 15 minutes after post)

Ok, that’s a bit weird! Why aren’t you the big bad wolf? Why didn’t she ask you? I’m sorry to hear this and I’m sorry to say this but in my best judgment she’s kind of moving on. I think you’re in a relationship that’s only there in your eyes only. I would not like it if my husband went without me with my best friend. I think you’re going to have to either say no or break up. This is just my opinion and what I would do personally.

You have all rights to question her and be paranoid at this point.

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An Unknown Location | 3 years, 1 month ago (17 hours after post)

it’s her best friend, not mine, and she lives 4 hours away during the semester.

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An Unknown Location | 3 years, 1 month ago (17 hours, 2 minutes after post)

should I say something to her without seeming nagging or untrustful…anything do ease my mind. she said she doesnt want to break up and if she wanted to it would be super easy given the distance…any more help Queen would be greatly appreciated.

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Queen Elizatron 4000 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 years, 1 month ago (17 hours, 10 minutes after post)

All you can do is ask her to be faithful. Say “please have fun but keep me in your thoughts and, be faithful because I love you” that alone will either give her guilt into not doing it or so much respect for you, taking it so well that she won’t cheat.

It’s all in how your tone is. You can get your point across without sounding like a A** or controlling. Make sure your tone is calm and loving. Make sure you tell her you love her but be firm.

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 years, 1 month ago (6 days, 18 hours after post)

Don’t mind jamesbarn! I’ll send a report to C.M and he’ll take care of it.
If you wish to keep talking let me know, I’m here!

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An Unknown Location | 3 years ago (1 week after post)

one of my friends I met on the internet has always been really good to me. he’s a year older, we played a game together, anyways he lives in texas. I live in northern illinois, my girlfriend lives im michigan. things recently are going really well, and I think in large part to the advice and actions of my friend. he talked to her one night after he was tired of seeing me upset, and just tried to figure out everything that was going on, basically mediating the situation. now that things are better, she still occasionally will talk to him on aim and vice versa, which kind of bothers me given the circumstance. am I just being overly paranoid like usual or what…everyone I have talked to kind of laughed and said I was just being my overly paranoid and anxiety ridden self.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (2 years, 4 months after post)

i can really relate to this,
but instead im overly paranoid and anxious just leaving the house to go out
i constantly think someone is going to wolf whistle or chat her up, as stupid as it sounds it really bothers me

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An Unknown Location | 6 months, 1 week ago (2 years, 7 months after post)

yea i just got a great girl i realy trust her too but you want to make sure and take care of her 247 ok or things get ugly lol:ps hope everyone sees what i mean

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