friends help: Hello friends and people of help…… today has been a very hard day for me….. - Help.com

yea i didnt undertand either… but plz add me cuz i feel da same way!

Don’t feel sorry for what you think you are doing to your friend , you are in a fight ben and it’s not with her !! Life is tough and some of us have to fight everyday to stay even keeled , I think if your friend knows of this battle your in she will be on your side , it sucks trying everyday to not feel these feelings you have , but by telling us how you feel is a step towards recovery , I WISH YOU THE BEST , keep punchin !!!

i’m the same way. i keep going with the hope that these ups and downs will finally even out somehow someway. i truely believe they will, and i remember the bad is what makes the good just so great.

yeah I’m like that EVERY day ahhhhhhhh I can’t stand it!!!! And I can’t help it!!!! The I thought drugs would make it better…….boy I was wrong. Oh wait I’m sorry I’m not helping:(

so sorry to hear that you are having a strange day.. but you have already realized the main problem here… its called depression. depression has a way of making us think that we are going crazy with all the messed up, flick of a switch moods… you also have to realize that .. when you suffer from depression.. the only time you can help anyone.. is when you help yourself first.. have you thought about seeking medical help.. such as medication or therapy to find out how to help yourself? i suffer from depression.. and i have found that the only thing that worked for me was medication.. it evened out the chemical imbalance in my brain.. making daily life easier to deal with.. its only an opinion or suggestion… just remember.. you are not alone in this feeling that you are having… many hugs… love shie.

You probably don’t see what I do Ben.It’s perfectly normal this process that your going through .and the key word being ‘through’.Some may say ‘get over it’but your not done going through it yet.You aren’t where you were but cant see the finish line either.But you will.let things take their course and ride it out.YOur going to be fine,im sure, I share my faith with you my friend…..and the guilt you have for not helping your friend,there is ‘I can’t and I won’t.In this case ‘you can’t ,your just not ‘able’ to do as you normally would.So let go of the guilt.It will only weigh you down.I love you Ben and your in my prayers BUddy :)

It will be a week more before you will see your doctor so i am hoping you could get some more help other than the iron tabs you are taking. No one could actually say they know exactly what you are going through. But all they can offer is a comforting spirit. Take your time out to get to know your feelings. It is important to know why you are going through this.

There are reasons why you are sad and it is best to name them. Any person goes through a lot of difficulties just like you are, though may differ from yours in some ways. But rest assured, there is no single person without a concern or two. I am sure your friend understands that you are also in the middle of your own battle Ben, just let her know that you are there for them. If they want to take their time out, then let them be, for there is comfort in silence.

Take care Ben.

Hi Ben. I hope you are feeling well again. One of the triggers to your depression might be some of the bad feelings between you and your close friend. If you need to set things right with her, there are three components to an apology:

1) I’m sorry
2) It was my fault
3) How do I make it better?

#2 demonstrates accountability. #3 demonstrates sincerity. All three will make you both feel better. I promise.

I’ve learned that your own happiness is most important. I’ve learned that those who focus on goals set by someone else will never achieve that happiness. I’ve learned to love despite knowing that you might lose. I’ve learned that as much as I’ve learned, I’m still a failure as long as I let myself believe it. ~ (posted by Snar)

i suffer from depression myself. so i sort of know how it feels. but it all gets better after a while, when you’re with your friends and loved ones, who can share laughs with you.

i tend to disappoint my sister and brother in law at times, by repeating the same mistakes over and over again. now they don’t want to have anything to do with me now. and i feel down(still do) when i think about it, but knowing that they’ll still be there for me, makes me feel all the better.

good luck mate, and God bless. i hope everything goes well. Best wishes!

-peace out-

Sure thing Ben,Btw- i added you to my messenger but never see you on,Its probalby something I did or didn’t do,puter wise.I dont like small talk much but if your ever need to talk bud,Im on most of the time.

*hugs* dear Ben. I hope you will feel better soon. Of course these things can’t be forced, no matter how hard we try… and I know how much you WANT to feel better and wish you could please everyone, but you just can’t. It’s probably just a feeling of “what next”, since the break-up, and since not really getting over it yet…it’s just hard for some time. I’m hoping doctors can address some of the physical causes of the depression too. You’ve been amazingly strong though, as you got through all that studying and tests and did what you had to do. You’re probably just feeling wiped out by everything right now, which is completely understandable. Don’t pressure yourself too much, you’re entitled… but I do hope you start feeling better. You’re just too great a person to be feeling so sad for so long…it’s not fair.

(((hugs))) Hi Ben… I agree that you may need some medication to help you thru this rough time… It does not have to be forever, but, it can def. help you to cope. Many people experience things that can be helped by meds… and esp. by finding the right one….

Have you talked to your dr. about this???

If not, I would suggest def. picking up the phone and making an appt.. and copying out your post… so that they can know exactly how you feel.. and for how long you have been feeling this way… do not try to hide your feelings… they need to know… so that they know how to treat the symptoms.

When you get the right meds… things are much easier to deal with. They feel normal…..instead of all mixed up…..

hey hope you feel better soon
everyone has crap days and good days..its just part of life

Hello Ben, is it getting better?

I’m sorry I didn’t come around sooner, I just realized today that I have been a bit self absorbed. I am so very sorry. How are you? Are things getting better?

ben_j_richard wrote:
Hi fizz, im struggling through as always. Im going to be trying counsuling soon, to see if that helps.

That is wonderful news, counseling will help. You should be very proud of yourself that you are taking that step.

Hi Ben,Long time no see,I know you’ve been busy but glad you to hear your on your way to recovery.Very glad.Dan just wrote a post that I think is wonderful.its a little long but WELL worth it http://help.com/post/171754-read-this

I didn’t think your post was confusing. It made perfect sense to me. Sometimes people get depressed and there’s nothing that should have triggered it. You may have a chemical imbalance or unresolved issues you’re not even aware of. Experiencing, not understanding and not being able to control the depression will only frustrate you and depress you more. So, that’s totally understandable! I do hope you go through with the counselling. It may be scary, but they are trained to deal with this, so it will be easier than you think. And I’m sure it will do you a lot of good! Best of luck to you!

Ben, I thought about this post all day (hit and miss you know) true lots of time I was thinkin about what youve studied and such. but it was a big delicious stew that I was simmering.
I am wondering, you said that “I have a very close friend I care for very much and I have disappointed her and let her down…… I feel so bad about this…… “

Did your awareness of this slip in your conduct come before the terrible day feeling?

nice, Ben. My train of thought was that the error that you made lead to the bad feelings you had that day. Im sure you saw that. May I think a lil more on this? you said “i was feeling terrible all the day due to other things as well” couldnt it possibly be that real issues were at the root of your feelings, and not a chemical type misdistribution of what our brain needs to think straight? Geesh, did that make any sense??

ben_j_richard wrote:
My freind and I are stronger and closer than ever. we both have our problems but we support each other through them, so i think we are doing really well. Thank you again for taking the time to reply :)

Good news! :)