girlfriend help: 14 year old having sex? - Help.com

Expect some akwardness and bring some birth control and I have alot of friends who have had sex aroun ur age

I think that 14 is too young to have sex. My daughter is 15 and my niece is 17. I have told them that I think that they are too young to have sex and that they should wait until they are older and more mature. But I also told them that if either of them do make the decision to have sex that they should make sure that they use birth control and protection against STD’s. Even though I don’t condone them having sex this young, they may go ahead and do it anyway, not too many teenagers just listen to what their parents or elders have to say, but I’d rather have them use protection to prevent unwanted pregnancies and STD’s. So, I guess that my advice to you is the same…..you should wait……but if you chose to not wait, please use protection.

Mate, i say go for it.. You only live once. But you MUST use protection becuase have you seen those people on the news reports about having babies at young ages. Not good. But it is up to you and ur girl.

I am 14 also. but i am a chick. My boyfriend and i have been talking about sex alot and we have phone sex all the tim..I want to have sex really bad but i am afraid if it will hurt.I have been with my boyfriend for 2 months now, he has had sexual intercourse with someone but i havnt what do i do.

I’m 14 and a guy. This isn’t a plead for help like the few comments here. I’m giving a suggestion.

My girlfriend and I broke up some time around february which was followed by my birthday (wasn’t she kind?) and I’m still having trouble getting over it but onto the main subject. We were talking about sex and how it would come on and where and when, but we both came to our senses and said if anything we are going to wait. The consequences are a lot worse and it will be easier if we wait the years. Now, I’m not sure if I will end up waiting ti’ll 18, but around 15-16 I think I will engage in the action.

To you girls, I think you should be sure you’re ready. Ask yourself if you love him. Don’t just think because you’ve matured a bit means you should have sex with any guy. Save the moment for the one you love and then it will be the best moment of your lives.

If the last three comments authors ever do look back at this website or someone needs an answer to their question I will answer them individually so here it goes:

@Kimberly32:

I think you should talk to him about sex. You should tell him your unexperienced and worried about what to do, BUT if you know he’s just gonna say “its cool I will teach you” then talk to your “girlfriends” first and then talk to him. If you really wanna know what to do, it’s simple. He will probably seduce you (make you feel comfortable and slightly horny) and go in for a kiss and possibly begin to make out with you. I’m giving you a man’s perspective so I should be accurate but I myself am a very passionate person and likes to take things slowly. If he tries to make out with you, then you should know the chances of sex become higher than normal. The best way to know if he’s going to try and have sex with you is if he’s feeling you up and moving your shirt up or fiddling with your breasts. It’s kinda obvious now that he does, isn’t it? If you’re not ready or uncomfortable then pull away from the kissing and say you’re not ready. Depending on how much he loves you, he will either accept that and respect your request or…the worst and be offended, etc.. If you are planning on letting him, then go with the flow as I would say. Go with his movement or start feeling him up. Once you find yourselves naked or somewhat naked, he’ll either say something like “ready?” and you’ll say “yes” then the whole intercourse process begins.

@Marbre1

I’m sorry but you’re inaccurate. Most men indeed just go for sex, but not all. I myself hate feeling like thats all I want because I know it’s more than that. After I lost my gf she changed and wasn’t so nice, settled, quiet, or passionate anymore. She acted like a whore really, but that was because she began to hang out with this girl that I’ve hated for a long time. My point is, I loved her for who she was not because she was absolutely stunning. I knew her well. If you can, assure your boyfriends love by spending time with him a lot and how he treats you. One insult to you or mean thing (I mean a harsh mean act) you should leave him.

@Puppysyl

Don’t do stuff just because your cousin did. Even if it was good, it doesn’t mean it will be good for you. Find a guy, learn about him, and make sure you both love each other. I suggest a serious relationship but thats up to you. Your mother should trust you, so I suggest you don’t do it. If you’re really unsure about this, speak to her. Approach with the sentence “Mom…I’m curious about..sex” and she will be as serious as she was when you were born.

I hope I helped you all and the visitors of this website. Any questions, don’t hesitate to e-mail me.

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PLEASE NOTE:

Sex can bring the most incredible consequences and can be a horrible life ruiner. This means pregnancy, STD (Sexual Transmitted Diseases), and much more horrible causes. Another cause you should be aware about is that your state might have a sex age which is usually 16. Look it up before you do anything because if you’re caught it can be pretty brutal.