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So Unhappy…

Hi all, I am sure alot of you know who I am from previous posts. I have a new problem now and am so unhappy, I don’t know what to do. I am 6 months pregnant and I have moved back home with my mom. I absolutly hate NY. I don’t know why I made the move back. Well, actually I do know why. My mom begged me to come back so I could have the baby here. I got pregnant by a married man. He was harrassing me when he found out I was pregnant. Wanted me to have an abortion and I told him no. I quit my job, turned off my cell phone, and moved back here. I hate it here. I haven’t lived with my mom in over 10 years. She is a foster parent and she has a house full of people. Right now there are 15 people living in one house. Her kids are rude, disrespectful, liars, thieves, and are downright nasty. They never clean up after themselves. They are always yelling and been rude to my mom. And she doesn’t say anything. She tells me I need to know which battles to pick. Whatever the hell that means. I am living in a small bedroom that I am not going to be able to put a baby in. I hate my job. I loved the one I had to give up!!! The babys father doesn’t want anything to do with me or the baby. I have made one discion though. I have decided to sue him for support after the baby is born. I just don’t know what to do about the other problems I have. If anyone can offer some advice, I would greatly appreciate it.

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Colwyn Bay, 90, GB | 4 months ago (55 minutes after post)

wow that is a LOT going on.
Do you have to share a house with your mum, is there no support for you being or going to be a single mum?
Sueing him for support will take a long time though, I think if he doesn’t want to pay then yeah go for it but make sure you realize how long it will take and no doubt he will deny he is the father so they will want to do a pertinity test ect.
I do hope it all works out for you!

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

Wow girl, you have a box full of troubles. Even though living with mom is no picnic, it is a starting point for you and baby. Babies are a hand full, having mom around will be a big help. Of course this doesn’t mean that you have to stay there forever, but until you have things in order to be on your own with your little one. By all means please make sure that the dad pays. He didn’t mind in the making. Your baby will be the joy of your life. Finding someone to care for he/she will be something, so mom might be of some help for a while. It will give you time to rethink your plan of life, because you will have a new person in yours.
You sound like you have a lot of anger, not sure who you are angry at. Might want to think about that. And if you are having trouble with the people at mom’s, lock up all that you don’t want to come up missing.
Good luck,
Carolyn

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (1 week, 6 days after post)

Sounds horrible. I was on my own when I had my son. Also by a married man (whom I didn’t know was married) and he wanted me to have an abortion too. He has yet to voluntarily see my son. He met him twice by “accident”. But that’s all the contact he has had with him. Sometimes it is a blessing for the men not to take responsibility, but not always. I went for child support after my son was born. I had to wait one year before I even saw a penny. The only suggestion I have for you is to find a lawyer and get all prepared so you can file the day he/she is born. Then you will atleast have some financial relief sooner. Sorry I can’t be of much help. I wish you luck.

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