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hey chill out dude…

think about what would happen if you did! your family would be destroyed… t6here is always someone that loves you, you are not alone… people do care…

who gives a crap about your physical appearance? that is something -you- -can- change, if you want to, and that sort of thing shouldn’t affect how people treat you. it’s what’s on the inside that makes you ugly…

and nobody is ugly..

ease up on yourself, what is making you so down? there must be something.

woah, woah, woah. Breathe. Take a deep breath. Ok, now what’s going on. Your comments were awfully vague. What happened that set you over this edge? We want to help you. We want you to live. :)

nobody is ugly everybody is beautiful in there won way , you just have to be urself , about the fat issue if it is getting on you ,, you can go to the gym and work out and u’ll feel better in no time , so basically what am trying to say is stop saying ur fat and do something about it…

aww man.. you poor thing.

perhaps you need to sit down with your family and talk with them about their expectations of you. it sounds like they are putting a lot of pressure on you… can i ask how old you are?

i think you need to get help with eating disorder, that is not good for you and will hinder anything else you try to fix about yourself.

we all have that problem when we feel that we are stuck in a rut… what are you doing right now? the best course of action is to get some counselling.

this is from another reply i made to someone who was also cutting, or thinking about it… i hope you’re no t offended that I would copy and paste it in here, but it’s about the same thing that i was going to say anyway….

>>i understand, i cut too… nothing anyone says will stop you cutting, but you’ve got to know you aren’t alone. think about the reasons why you might want to do that. i do it for other people, in the hope somebody will notice it, but then i have to explain it, and when the wrong people bnotice it, i’m put on the spot. it breaks my mum’s heart when she sees it and i can’t deal with that from her, so i try to hide it… i just want specific people to see it, it’s like a pact i have with them, we can communicate our pain without having to talk about it, when talking about it is actually the better course of action… it’s stupid, it sounds stupid, but i’m being very honest about it, when i do it i do it for attention, and that’s something i’ve gotta stop.

i’d rather people notice my achievements and compliment me on them, respect me for that… as yet, i haven’t any big ones, but i’m working on it… you’ve got to find something positive to turn your attention to… it won’t stop you from doing it, i know, i still do it and i’m 23, but small steps and you’ll get there…

taking all those pills is an awful way to die, it probably won’t kill you and will make you violently ill and be very painful.. so don’t do it.

15 is young, things change, trust me on this. i was in a bad way like you all through my teenaged years, but i came out of it a better person. you learn more if you suffer for it. that may not make sense now but it’s true.

nothing ever turns out the way it’s “supposed” to.. everyone is different, everyone has a different experience.. don’t compare yourself to what other people say…

yaho we all have hard lives dont think for a sec that you are the only person who has it hard , we face our problem and make choices and sacrifies ,, this is life i think now you are realizing it and it is hard to swallow , but we all did and we move on and do the best we can to face the problem and keep happy

you need more self confidence
first you need to prove yourself what you are capable
go to the gym & learn a fighting art (at least 1 year)
then start to fight
this is the only solution for the harassment from othres

fighting is not the answer, sharon, but having confidence is. i do karate, and we are taught that it is only for self defence. simply knowing that you can take down a person is enough, because you can choose not too, and that is just as powerful

i don’t think that’s what she meant, truekin, but as you say you are invited to have your own opinion. if that opinion consists of arguing for argument’s sake, then you are not really helping qat all. perhaps you should think about that, and if you have anything else worthwhile to offer, then please post, but if you do not want to help yaho, who is obviously in pain, then please take it somewhere else. this is not about you, my friend.

nothing is too hard, yaho, trust in yourself.

we are capable of anything we put our minds to. forgie me for saying this, but it is a little bit pitiful to have such a weak attitude. you are betraying yourself there, defeating yourself, and it gets you nowhere, only further down this track.

please, talk to your family, even if you feel alienated from them. i’m sure they will do anything they can to help you. please get some counselling. sometimes it is easier to talk with a complete stranger, who you know won’t judge or tease you. they are being paid to help you, and they have strategies that you may not have even thought of. this is ther profession, they know what they are doing.

What is botherng you?

perhaps you should check for a chemical imbalance?

in the end it really all comes down to you. it’s obvious that your dad loves you and bel;ieves in you, otherwise why would he be so blase about it? perhaps you have lost touch with your family. stop comparing yourself to everyone else… have you tried talking to your brother? he might be able to help, he might surprise you.. you never know.

you need to stop talking to yourself in this way. once you become your own best friend, and forgive yourself, and love yourself, everything else will follow. trust me. it sounds cliche, but it is true. and powerful.

you need to slove your problems,
dont wait others to see you have problem so they will slove it for you
this is pathetic
you are ashamed of your body ? then slove it ! go to the gym
you are afraid from harassment from othres ? learn to defend yourself
rncwnd & truekin I meant fighting pepole that harassment
by the way I’m a man not a women

sharon_eisenma wrote:
you need to slove your problems,dont wait others to see you have problem so they will slove it for youthis is patheticyou are ashamed of your body ? then slove it ! go to the gymyou are afraid from harassment from othres ? learn to defend yourselfrncwnd & truekin I meant fighting pepole that harassmentby the way I’m a man not a women

You aren’t helpin anything either!

okay, just putting this out there, if you don’t want to help yaho, then please stop posting, this is not for you, this is yaho’s post. please don’t just argue amongst yourselves. if you don’t have anything constructive to say, then please find something else to do.

i am glad that i could help. please, don’t lose faith in yourself, everything will sort itself out in the end. i know that sounds very fatalistic and silly, and is probably not what you want to hear right now, buti think any small amount of positivity in your life would help.

if there is anything else you would like to talk about, i will check on this post from time to time. take care of yourself.

Is someone talking to you about the cutting - why do you cut?
Have you even told your family that if they eased up the pressure on you you might get better - where do you live btw?
Who teases you for being Chinese - that sounds odd - are you the only Chinese person in the town or something?
Have you got any friends at all, it sounds like you dont have much fun/

mas1s wrote:
Is someone talking to you about the cutting - why do you cut? Have you even told your family that if they eased up the pressure on you you might get better - where do you live btw?Who teases you for being Chinese - that sounds odd - are you the only Chinese person in the town or something?Have you got any friends at all, it sounds like you dont have much fun/

not sure if these are the right questions to ask, perhaps read through the rest of the post?

I did read the post those are the only bits I didnt find answers to.

I think you might want to talk about this with your family, especially if they are part of the cause.

**** honey, hope you feel better soon
im sorry never been in this predicament but i know you can pull yourself out because i had a best friend who went through troubles like this
good luck!

We all wish you luck, I know I can say that much.

hey yaho….sorry for the late posting..
have u ever thought wat started these things like the sleeping disorder???
did something happen?? i mean wat suddenly went wrong after being the amazing swimmer, which i really believe u were???

i also feel like this, do not worry there are more people who feel like you then you really do think..

my family puts so much pressure on me i.eyou must go to university, you must do this you can do that andim a skinny white kid from australia, i feel like a failure im 16 and i cant cope with this crap anymore i want the easy way out but im not sure what would happen if i did, my paretns would be destroyed i am sick of life though and all of its stupid rules, im not a theif ive never comitted a bloody crime in my life i have never skipped school i have never made fun of anyone as a matter of fact i get pushed around because i am to easy on everyone and for that i get my *** pushed back ad trod on, you are unique but you have to remember others feel this way.

from the age of 14 - 20 most kids cannot control their emotions and as a result turn to suicide, being 16 i know all about this, im too afriad of telling my parents/seeking help and i dont have an disorder so it feels like there is nothing wrong with me?

its like why do i wake up in the morning only to find that it feels like im carrying more weight on my shoudlers everyday?
— everyone just needs to slow down, i think what our problem is is comming from a deep line of self conciousness and i dont believe it is your fault at all or my fault that i am feeling this way, because at the end of the day you have to think of yourself, will it always be like this, right now you might think yes, but you need to find something that inspires you, something that makes you feel good, if you want to drop out of school, bloody do it.

you know what say to your parents, look here is what i want to do i want to finish school or drop out and i dont care what you say because this is what i want, if you try to force me, ill end up dead at the end of the day with my blood on your hands, you have no idea what im gonig through so dont put this on me.

even if that seems a little harsh and it does even for me, you have to find your own way of releasing this tention, cry when no one is around believe me you need to get rid of your emotions now, thats what depresion is, its people that let all the sadness build up inside them and makes them feel like crap, because your trying to deal with 600 problems at once

my email adress is i> small>(email removed) /small> /i>

i honestly think you have a reason to live that you might not even know about, so if you need help me and everyone else in this chat is here to help you.

it appears as if my email adress has been moved so if you would like me to help or do anything for you, the offer is there, and just to letyou know i dont have a life either i work and go to school and that is it, sad and lonely, so yeap here it is.

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