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Hi Michelle,

By the way that was not boring at all. Its a big decision to make. Their are two ways to go with this..the first one is to just be totally spontaneous not think of anything and put your two weeks in and be done with it. That would in return possibly make you lose your car (which you said you worked very hard to get)Lose your insurance which would be extremely expensive paying out of pocket if you know you have a medical history… Or you could tough it out at the job your at and say that yes this sucks I hate what I am doing but it pays decent I have medical insurance and I can go to college at the same time. You know your not going to be there forever and you know that if you keep going to college there is a light at the end of the tunnel. My advice is that you should continue where you are even though it totally sucks and you know that your not going to be there forever. Thats the positive part, that your working towards doing something that you enjoy and that you just kind of have to suck it up and do this for now… As much as I hate giving my opinion this way and would say ya know what just give your two weeks and be done with it..it will only be a short period of feeling like you took care of something and conquered what you can’t stand but really that feeling will fade and it will be harder in the long run…So hang in there and look at the future you will get there it will just take time. :) Good luck and take care!

Michelle…

What stopping you from looking for another job, while you continue to work? That’s what I’d do (done). It’s clear you need to get out of that environment, but I agree at the risk of loosing your health benefits and the ability to keep your car… that risk is too large. The only other option is change your perspective so that you love your job there - easier said than done; but possible.
Bright blessings ~ Richard

you are right… you live and learn, and I hope this is one of those times. I’m not sure where you live is like California (where I live). Here the businesses are sure to tell you it is a hire by will state. Meaning they have the right and power to hire you AND fire you by will…. they need no grace period… they need NO reason. Poof… you’re gone! That’s all it takes. Well…. the rub is if the employer can do it, so can the employee. Yes, it’s nice to give notice, and I usually do… but there was one time, when like you I was being abused, I gave them only to the end of the week. If the company you are working with abuses you… harasses you.. or generally just is mean… then you really owe them nothing. Don’t worry about who will do your job after you… or this is bad time to leave… have they thought of YOU in those terms ever? You need to take care of yourself first. ONLY after YOU are happy can you make a boss happy. Don’t take a minute more of abuse from anyone - stand in your own power and seize the day!
Bright blessings ~ Richard

Hi James, I must agree with kimmie. hang in there. i am 50 yo and have been through many jobs and i look back and always ask myself why? my father worked for the same co. 37 years and my unc. for 41 years, i know it can be hard being the target of harrasment however when the day is through and you sit back you can tell yourself that you did it !!!YOU!!! also when tomorrow comes you will be happy with yourself for the achivements you have accomplished weathering the storm!

So what’s your option, stay and hurt no one but yourself.

It’s a job. Find a better one and leave the crappy one… millions do it every day. Give 2 weeks notice if you must… that is all that is expected. Trust me, I understand job loyalty, I feel it all the time too… I’ve been laid off most of my jobs… in some cases LONG after I felt like leaving. But I’ve come to learn job loyalty is not what it used to be, by any stretch of the imagination. When you are at a job you give 100% that is all there is to job loyalty today. In your grandfathers day (maybe even great grandfathers day)… job loyalty was “yes… I’ll work here for 20 years or more… I’ll retire from here if you treat me anywhere near right… and I’ll give my soul to the ‘company store’”. It’s not like that anymore, and employers quite actually no longer expect more than 5 years out of an employee. That is why they don’t want to see more than 5 years experience on your resume… anything past that is ancient history.

hey, since you like animals have you applied at vets ,or animal hospitals?the would most likely have health ins. you may want to get with your auto ins co see what it would cost u for health ins if you could afford it u wont need that job for ins. harrasment is not right ,but you could turn the tables and telling the person. here if you dont like the way i do it than you do it, its not actually quit but a way to let them now you wont take it any more.

the abuse u r talking about interfers with ur self esteem and that is why u r having a hard time leaving because u need the confidence to get up and leave and they r taking it away… I am so sorry u r going through this and I know ur next employer will understand that it is a good reason to leave because I went through the same thing and was welcomed in w/open arms to my new job with them, it is understandable that people like that hold u back and know exactly what they r doing and don’t care about their employee’s health, your mental and emotional health is very important, it affects your life… I hope u take the “jump” soon, as I did !!

Or I meant to say” it is understandable why ur employer is/was abusive… (typo)