I feel strongly for my boyfriend, and need help with figuring out the strength of his feelings for me.
My boyfriend is very dedicated to me.
But he does not feel comfortable sharing his feelings with me.
I know that he’s a typically private person in general.
However, I am very feeling-focused whereas he is very thought-focused.
I cannot stop thinking about my feelings and how I wish to express how deep they are to him.
I am afraid that he will be intimidated by my boldness regarding my feelings.
And if he doesn’t feel anywhere near as intense as I feel, does this mean he only feels obligated to stay with me? Does he not really enjoy being with me? Does he feel no comfort or pleasure in accompaniment with my presence?
He doesn’t call me just to show me he cares, and if I say the same to him, he ignores it.
I am really stuck on him and my heart is entirely dedicated to him.
I have a feeling he likes saying that he “has a girlfriend” but he doesn’t really care about me.
And I don’t want to break up with him! I want to know how I can develop intimacy between us at a constant. I want to make him yearn for me as I do for him.
I believe we may stay together for a long time, but he will not do so out of a real pleasure or attachment.
I bought a used iPod with a broken screen and he is trying to fix it for me. For that, I am grateful. But does that mean he really cares about me? Or is he just doing it because he can (as fixing technological issues are a strength of his)?
Despite what services he buys for me, he NEVER communicates his feelings. He NEVER greets me with a smile.
We find it hard to chat because he only speaks on a surface level.
I WANT TO MAKE HIM FEEL DEEPLY FOR ME, AND COMFORTABLY. HOW DO I GO ABOUT IT?
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My boryfriend is very dedicated to me.
But he does not feel comfortable sharing his feelings with me.
I know that he’s a typically private person in general.
However, I am very feeling-focused whereas he is very thought-focused.
I cannot stop thinking about my feelings and how I wish to express how deep they are to him.
I am afraid that he will be intimidated by my boldness regarding my feelings.
And if he doesn’t feel anywhere near as intense as I feel, does this mean he only feels obligated to stay with me? Does he not really enjoy being with me? Does he feel no comfort or pleasure in accompaniment with my presence?
He doesn’t call me just to show me he cares, and if I say the same to him, he ignores it.
I am really stuck on him and my heart is entirely dedicated to him.
I have a feeling he likes saying that he “has a girlfriend” but he doesn’t really care about me.
And I don’t want to break up with him! I want to know how I can develop intimacy between us at a constant. I want to make him yearn for me as I do for him.
I believe we may stay together for a long time, but he will not do so out of a real pleasure or attachment.
I bought a used iPod with a broken screen and he is trying to fix it for me. For that, I am grateful. But does that mean he really cares about me? Or is he just doing it because he can (as technological issues are a strength of his)?
Despite what services he buys for me, he NEVER communicates his feelings. He NEVER greets me with a smile.
We find it hard to chat because he only speaks on a surface level.
I WANT TO MAKE HIM FEEL DEEPLY FOR ME, AND COMFORTABLY. HOW DO I GO ABOUT IT?
Amethysteria changed the tags on this post: they were "Feeling, comfort, care, Feel, feelings, technology, iPod, heart, broken, Person" 1 year, 5 months ago.
Amethysteria changed the tags on this post: they were "comfort, smile, feelings, Rejection, Intimacy, relationship, boyfriend, Love" 1 year, 5 months ago.
Amethysteria edited this post 1 year, 5 months ago. Read the previous text »
My boyfriend is very dedicated to me.
But he does not feel comfortable sharing his feelings with me.
I know that he’s a typically private person in general.
However, I am very feeling-focused whereas he is very thought-focused.
I cannot stop thinking about my feelings and how I wish to express how deep they are to him.
I am afraid that he will be intimidated by my boldness regarding my feelings.
And if he doesn’t feel anywhere near as intense as I feel, does this mean he only feels obligated to stay with me? Does he not really enjoy being with me? Does he feel no comfort or pleasure in accompaniment with my presence?
He doesn’t call me just to show me he cares, and if I say the same to him, he ignores it.
I am really stuck on him and my heart is entirely dedicated to him.
I have a feeling he likes saying that he “has a girlfriend” but he doesn’t really care about me.
And I don’t want to break up with him! I want to know how I can develop intimacy between us at a constant. I want to make him yearn for me as I do for him.
I believe we may stay together for a long time, but he will not do so out of a real pleasure or attachment.
I bought a used iPod with a broken screen and he is trying to fix it for me. For that, I am grateful. But does that mean he really cares about me? Or is he just doing it because he can (as fixing technological issues are a strength of his)?
Despite what services he buys for me, he NEVER communicates his feelings. He NEVER greets me with a smile.
We find it hard to chat because he only speaks on a surface level.
I WANT TO MAKE HIM FEEL DEEPLY FOR ME, AND COMFORTABLY. HOW DO I GO ABOUT IT?
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