A School Dance…
Okay, here’s the scoop. We are having a school dance in three days, and it’s basically the biggest one because it’s the last dance before we turn into freshmen.
So my really good guy friend asked me if I wanted to go with him. He said, “Do you want to go to the dance with me?” he paused, “As friends?” he added, so it wouldn’t be ask awkward. And I turned him down… I don’t know why but I did.
So then my other guy friend (not as good) asked me, but I also turned him down. But it’s easy with him because he started begging, and I thought that was just really pathetic.
But then the third person who asked me (today) is this really sweet, nice guy (well, he is to me). He isn’t exactly the best looking guy out there, but he’s nice. He first asked me, “Do you want to go out with me?” And I immediately know the answer to that. “No,” I told him. A reason is because I’m kind of tied up with something else at the moment. But then he asked if he wanted to go to the dance as friends and I accepted because he specified that it was just friends.
Even though that is, I think he took it the wrong way. As in, he thinks it’s a date… I only think of it as going with friends.
And now I’m rethinking my answer… because I don’t want to lead him on and give him more false hope.
Okay, here are the cons for each situation:
If I keep my word and go with him, he’ll probably think I like him, and I will look like a hypocrite to my really good guy friend because I didn’t say yes to him. (Even though he has a ‘date’ now)
If I took my word back, and not go with him, I will look like the bad person and just crush his hopes… I don’t want to do that, and people are going to judge me so…
Please help. I need deep advice.
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