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hi mera i pray you are feeling better today

i know pain
i have always i had a sever neck and back inj. fused 4 cervical and 3 thoratic and2 lumbar just getting too old i gues lol

keep your chin up, and enjoy the sun and stars

dont remember if i told you last night // but i lost my brother and youngest son who was only24 last year i still cry every day but this morning my oldest daugther had a big 7lb 6oz dark haired baby girl there is always a rainbow comming your way

got to go // but you just look to the heavens and your rainbow will come. i hope to chat soon and will keep you and all in my prayers

I’m so sorry. I’m a foster mom and I feel so sorry you’re living a way over there, an orphan with no one to look after you.

I must say you are handling the situation very well. If you keep trying and don’t give up you will go far in life, whatever your background.

I will pray for you, too.

Hi Hun, I bet this was hard to write,but at least now you wont have to repeat yourself.I hope it put things into perspective for you too.You are such a trooper.Your good attitude is really refreshing,you shine girl!Chris don’t have a clue on what he’s missing out on.His loss.Im sure you deserve better and will get whatever your heart desires…….Yo havent mentioned much about your sister,and thats ok,whenever your ready we are here for you :)

I am so so sorry for all you’ve been through. You are a very strong girl… and I hope and pray that things will finally start to get better for you. I know you have a long road ahead with the healing and all, but you will get through all this. Finally some justice will be served for all this tragedy.

As for the guy, it sounds like you said what you had to say… but honestly if he doesn’t have enough character or compassion to understand how hard it was for you to admit to all you’ve been through, he’s just probably not the right guy. I think he’s being rather selfish under the circumstances, and you deserve more caring and support than that. He can’t relate to being in your shoes, rather he seems to be thinking of himself.

I wish you speedy healing physically and emotionally, and I hope you find peace and love in the days to come. In the meantime, I hope you get counseling while you are there, and hang out with us… to talk about whatever may be on your mind. You’ll find this place can be quite addictive, I think! Good people here!!

Mera, I’ve been trying to find more information about your case in the news, but Google isn’t turning up anything. Can you give us some more details about what happened?

I don’t know, exactly. I assume when this happened it made the news? How about, what town did it happen in?

Okay; let me see what I can find.

Just hang in there, okay? Very few people could live through what you have and still be doing as well as you are.

I’m really sorry to hear that, but your upbeat attitude is inspiring :). Just stay as you are, and come by if you ever need help, and I KNOW you will be okay. As we say in my neighborhood, stay strong and stay live!

P.S. As for the guy, he’s missing out…

dearest child of light ,you are a wonderful gift for all who shall cross your pathways ,i know the road shall be a difficult one for you struggling on your own but remember always many will love you more than hate,stay strong and know everything happens for a reason that being considered please dont try to solve the mystery ,it will come when you are ready to embrace its truth,you live because you are ,and always we be, you ,dont let anything or anyone tell you different,stay the beautiful spirit you are now and forever,love is blind meaning mr right will except you whole no matter what youve been through who you are,oneday the perfect guy will come from out of nowhere when you least expect it ,stay strong stay true to yourself ,keep hoping never give up on your dreams ,live for tommorrow ,dont look back,best wishes in a speedy full recovery many huggzzzz!

must say im touched by your post ,you must be an extrodinary,amazing individual to rise above all your problems and remain positive through all this,you inner strength must be that of a lion,all blessing and power to you,your heart must be worth its own weight in gold spinkled with diamonds,truly you are hope bottled,a unique passionate loving person with a wonderful future ahead if you keep strong stay focused be brave and know nothing but love ,i really hope for your life to be a fantastic wonderful journey filled with joy and many many many blessings, and you find people who will give you the love and positive energy you hold and express,anytime you need someone to talk to feel free to shout me ,i will do my best to help and guide you in anything or just be there for you as a friend,touched by angel:)

Akithma,What you said is Beautiful.and I agree,we have been touched by an Angel :)

thanks Kriss but nowhere near the beauty incarnate in Mera,wow what a heart!

Hello Mera:

I’m really sorry to hear about your story and give you enormous credit for having the courage to tell it to us and admit that you lied to Chris after everything you’ve been through. I hope that you have family that you can reach out to help you after you are done with the treatment. There is one thing that we must never never do and that is lie no matter what we think we need or are going to get. You need to love yourself and know that your circumstances don’t make you who you are, you are what you feel inside and what you choose to do and that is what people fall in love with eventhough we don’t see that. When we lie to others, we hurt them and then they feel that they can’t trust us and we can’t blame them. If Chris finds it in heart to forgive you he will come to you, so don’t seek him out. From here on always tell the truth and you will find that all good things will come your way. God bless you and know that your life is going to be great as long as you always do the right thing. God and and the whole world loves you just the way you are.

Mera, I spoke with you on your earlier post. Just wanted to say hello and to encourage you to come back here as often as you like. With 7-10 months of hospitalization ahead, you could look at all the therapy as just pain. But with your attitude, I’m sure you will spend those months encouraging others. Thanks for being here.

Mera,

We all make mistakes. We are human, and by you recognizing it means that you are forgiven, so you don’t need to feel guilty. You can look at it this way. You lied to him because you thought that he wouldn’t accept the real you and the fact that he left you when you told him the truth means that your instincts were right. But if you told him the truth from the start, the relationship would have never happened and you would not be sad right now. That is why is better to tell the truth because eventhough we do not see it, it protects us. Know that you are going to be fine and one day you are going to meet a great guy who is going to love you and care about you just the way you are.

dont worry about him too much k ,your true love would forgive you and understand why you felt a need to say otherwise,your main focus now is to fix yourself and recover from all this,the rest will come when it does ,and im sure much will be added to you ,meaning what you put out being a precious thing will only attract something that compliments you fully,beauty and kind demands an equal,a balance ,love is better than what he was offering ,love forgives and forgets ,keep believing:)

your dwelling on the negative ,his mind is made ,if he choses to hurt its from his own inconsiderate actions ,you have been thru alot and of course you mind maynot have been thinking straight but you are not responsible for anyones suffering ,god knows you have your own and he should be well aware that your the one who suffers a far greater thing !look after yourself first and then youll have the strength and power to fix the problems of others,or at least express your feelings

“look after number one”

Mera, don’t feel guilty about him. He is alright. You did the best you could with what you knew. If you knew what was going to happen you would not have done it. There are some thing in life that are not meant for us and we need to accept that because there’s a whole future ahead of us. You need to take care of yourself right now. No one can blame you for what you did. We all have done it, but we learn from it. You offered an apology and that is good enough. Forgive yourself. It’s ok. If he was truly hurting like you feel he is, he would be with you. When we love we can’t let go that easily, you know this, because you are feeling this now.

Then that is definately not real love and you need to let that go because that person will never make you happy.

I know its hard, but you have no control over this. You need to let time go by and see what happens. You want someone who really cares about you and right now it doesn’t appear that he cares enough. Let him go. If it is meant to be he will come to you.

You can always come here and we can help you get through this. We love you just the way you are and we don’t care about what you will look like. We think you are beautiful just the way you are. You’re an angel Mera. Everything’s going to be ok.

beauty is only skin deep Mera ,if he fails to see the light inside you that is a beautiful thing to behold even in our cyber realm from what we percieve ,hes not the one for you,your happiness must be owned by you alone please dont look for it in others ,all good things come to those who wait,let go of all doubts and fears ,stay focused on your own happiness,love will embrace you whole and look past its the surface,love lives in the heart not in the flesh

Mera, you give a very pleasant and peaceful feeling in spite of everything you are going through. Your desire to go on and get through all of this is inspiring. Like an angel. Angels are beautiful energies that we have within us that help us through life.

true ,we recognise the love of your spirit and i alone cant begin to imagine the people you will effect in positive ways throughout your lives journey ,dont ever change

hey im smilin now ,way to go Mayra

I’m so glad Mera!

Akithma you are awesome! Great insights.

we are all awesome if we see with love ,thanks!

hey anytime love ,sleep well ,dream a dream ,talk later k ,bye

I am sorry for what has befallen you. I don’t know what would drive someone to burn there house and then leave you in so much pain. But I am happy you are alive and thank you for helping me I honestly appreciate it I am afraid though it is much more then fear of women or just being nervous. I was emotionally damaged in grade school so natrually I was really a loner most of the time. I think though it was one event that I subconsiously remember but cant remember vividly and that is why I tend to back out of most situations.

I am currently seeing a psychologist for other problems then this, things are going well. In the mean time if you like to write. If you don’t think its too personal to share you should make a book out of the fate that has befallen you. Anyway I hope you don’t lose your leg. You are stronger then me for dealing with it. If were you I would have already something drastic.

Hi Mera, Just checking on you.I see you have been talking with Akithma and Mayra,they are some of the best here,I think.I hope to talk to you soon sweetie,Kim ;)

foreverfreckled never wait for the storm to end ,better to start singing in the rain!:)

thanks Kriss ,how sweet!Mera Kimkriss is all in all,a lovely beautiful spirit,a friend and an amazing gentle loving person ,please find time to talk with her ,her heart is like a new morning filled with light and love and warmth please embrace her, and trust her fully ,im sure she can help you much and in many more ways than myself could ever hope to offer:)

hello mera, we’re all praying for your complete recovery. You are going to walk out of there standing on your own two feet. We need you to stay strong and have faith. There is nothing to fear. You are here for a bigger purpose and your life has just begun. You are loved!

I take it thats your little sister.Shes beautiful.The tears are falling now…She was lucky to have YOU Mera.Im sure that smile on her face would not have been there without you in her life.

hi babes… sorry that i just got to this post… been a long few days.. im glad to hear that you are doing a lot better mentally.. and possibly physically.. that is great news.. keep it up.. great big hugs.. love shie.

basically I was made fun for stuttering being not as smart as everyone else. Blamed for things I dindt do. The thing is though there was this one event that I think set this whole thing off to make what I am now but I still can’t remember what it was because I chose to forget it

awww sweet sweet angel,big huggzz,just remember she wanted you to always smile

Hi Mera, hope you are feeling better today. Your little sister is beautiful.It is not a good idea for you to think about her death. See her when you both had happy times together. She’s not dead. The soul never dies. She lives forever in your heart. See her smiling and happy. It may not be easy at first, but you can try. This will help you heal.

Mera how can this possibly be your fault. There are some things in life that we don’t have control over and situations like that are one of them. If you could really help her you would have. It was not possible. My mother died of cancer within 4 months and I always thought that I could have saved her and that I should have found a way to help her. That I should have been involved more in her life and told her which doctors to go to and what to do. But the reality is that I could not save her becuase I did not know. She did not know how sick she was. She died in the hospital and I blamed myself for that too because I was the one who took her there to get treatment, but is she didn’t get treatment she was going to die at home. It took me a long time to realize that I am only human and there is only so much I can do. We are of God but we are not God. Blaming ourselves is not going to bring them back and only makes us sick. The fact that you survived is a real miracle and tells me that you are here for a great purpose Mera. If your little sister could speak to you she would tell you that she loves you and that she knew you wanted to help her, but you couldn’t and that it is ok.

Oh mera, it is so much easier to look at it now and see how many different things you could have done because now it is over and you are in a safe place where you can think things through. It is impossible under the circumstances that you were in to have done anymore than what you did. We are not able to know all and see all to judge how different could of been if we acted differently. Perhaps if you did do all of those things you would not be here mera. Your life was saved because there is something very important for you to do here. Maybe you are here to help other people with this kind of situation once you are healthy again and that would be beautiful. Have faith mera, maybe you can help someone else save their little sister by doing the things you say you would have done because a lot of poeple don’t know what to do in this kind of situation. One of our major purposes here is to help each other.

but you were scared mera and when we are scared we can’t do what we would normaly do when we feel safe. You say all of that because you feel safe now and this is what you need right now. There is only one reason why your mom did what she did she lost all of the love in heart and that is what hate is less love less love. She has to be suffering very much right now. You can’t do something like this and be peaceful. You nor Rachel deserved any of this. Unfortunately your mom who was supposed to take care of both of you was not well. She made the worst mistake a mother can make. But this not how the world really is. You need to get better and feel good about yourself because we need you. Mera your mom could have been saved too if she had found someone who cared and showed her differently. These things should not happen and don’t have to happen if we all choose to help each other.

as hard as it may seem… you have to keep pushing forward.. you can not let this negative weigh you down… smile at it.. and tell it to back off.. im serious. because if you let it win… you will feel like crap.. even with my tumor issue.. i laugh at it… i have too.. because if i dont.. i would be in a horrible mood…

can you tell me what your mom’s name is and the location of where this all happened? what jail is she in? so that maybe we can check this out and see if we can get some more support for you?

mera wrote:

^j^lil_bit_shie^j^ wrote:
as hard as it may seem… you have to keep pushing forward.. you can not let this negative weigh you down… smile at it.. and tell it to back off.. im serious. because if you let it win… you will feel like crap.. even with my tumor issue.. i laugh at it… i have too.. because if i dont.. i would be in a horrible mood…

I’m sorry Tam,Its just I was talking to Dian this morning and she brought up the subject, what could I have done to help preventt this and what will I do in the furute if somthing like this happens IF it happens again. I just started thinking and I realize I could have done so much for all of us…I just wish that I could have done it…and that I would have done it…and im sory if I seem a bit of a brat…I jus…idk…things seem a bit heavy right now.

we all understand hun… trust me.. we do… and you really need to understand that.. when someone in that state of mind.. such as your mom… they are very powerful.. very strong willed and a 6 foot man could probably not have taken control either… so its not what you could have done… because … as i said… your mom was determined.. and sounds a bit out of her mind.. and that is a combination that is not good together..

not that i have ever been in this situation.. i can tell you that i was brutally abused as a child.. and you have got to keep in mind that you are nothing like your mother.. you can not allow yourself to be a statistic.. you have got to use all this horrible stuff to change your future.. with my children.. i have never ever hit them.. i allowed them to be children.. to have a life that i never had.. and its because i chose not to be like my parents.. as for all the worries and such.. im so sorry that you have got to deal with all of this at such a young age.. and im hoping for the best outcome ever for you… but you also have to remember.. it is going to take time.. and im sure that your sister is right beside you.. helping you with all that you are dealing with.. just sit back, close your eyes and pay attention to all the littlest signs from her..

you are welcome hun.. and dont be afraid to cry… let those tears fall.. seriously.. its healing.. as for your sister.. let me tell you this little story.. and yes.. you will probably see some attack me.. but this is a very true story..
i have been gifted to see things long before they happen.. i dont know how to control it. but it happens.. and once.. i had an out of body experience… my grandfather who died when i was 12 was there with me.. he told me of my dad and his health and how he was dying.. but other than the story that he was telling me.. i cant explain the feeling of where i was at.. there was nothing but love, peace and happiness where i was.. there was no feelings of hate, or worries of issues.. it was the most amazing feeling that i have ever felt in my life.. and how do i know that this was not just a dream?? a couple of days later, the dr ran some tests on my dad and found that he had an incurable kidney disease.. and that there was nothing anyone could do to save his life.. that is how i know and can show that what im saying is the truth.. all i have to say is.. if that is what heaven feels like.. am im not a huge religious person… i cant wait to get there.. and im sure that is what your sister is feeling at this moment.. im very spiritualistic.. as i said.. i can see things long before it happens.. and i can see spirits and such when they show themselves… so what im trying to say is this… when you sit back and relax.. clear your mind.. and think of your sister and what could she be sending as a sign to show you she is with you.. is there a certain smell, or something wierd that has happened that only your sister would know.. such as maybe a bird flying by or a butterfly sitting softly on the window.. look around.. and see if there are any signs of her being there with you.. dont question if it could be a sign.. just know that it is…

Ok mera and lil-bit, as good as heaven sounds, we need you guys here to help the world because we have a lot of work to do here, so please don’t rush yourselves and lets stay grounded. There is nothing better than seeing our people turn around and put a smile on their face. I am leaving you with this.

God thinks you’re wonderful!
If he had a wallet your photo would be in it
If he had a refrigerator, your picture would be on it
He sends you flowers every Spring and a sunrise every morning
He can live anywhere in the universe but he chose your heart
Face it friend, he’s crazy about you
Our hearts are not large enough to contain the blessings he wants to give us
So try this,
The next time a sunrise steals your breath or the meadows of flowers leaves you speechless remain that way…
Remember that he could have left the world flat and gray but he didn’t
He spalshed orange in the sunrise and cast the sky in blue
Was he obliged to make the birds sing? and the funny way that chickens scurry?
Why give a flower fragrance? Why give food its taste?
Could it be that he loves so see that look upon your face?
Promise me you’ll never forget that you aren’t an accident or an incident
You are a gift to the world!
By the amazing MAX LUCADO

its natural to be angry… and even though you let it show to the dr’s or to your counselor.. they understand hun… they truly understand and really do expect it from you… so if you feel comfortable in letting it out.. let it out…

^j^lil_bit_shie^j^ wrote:
its natural to be angry… and even though you let it show to the dr’s or to your counselor.. they understand hun… they truly understand and really do expect it from you… so if you feel comfortable in letting it out.. let it out…

And Shie, your own story is an inspiration to us all. *hugs*

hey sweet!listen you did more than you could ever know with reguard to protecting your sister,and im sure she loved you more than youll ever know ,i mean big love,but its time to look after you now,show yourself some love ,thats what your sister would want,do you know that ,do you believe that?,,the truth is it was not your job ,,that job was your mothers and she failed miserably ,you could only do so much,you were not responsible for guarding and nurturing your sister yet alone your mother so dont ever blame yourself ,you tryed your hardest ,but sometimes the problem gets bigger then we can deal with that doesnt mean you failed,youll only fail if you give up on yourself ,you should have never had to deal with any of it ,if your gonna point fingers and cast blame ,dont blame yourself blame what caused your mother to give up,everything you did was your mother and fathers responsiblity and theirs alone ,,you did more than can be humanly expected,more than most people would or could,you did your best,everybody knows that ,do you? for along as you could as long as was possible,it all got out of your control ,thats not your fault ,never believe it was ,ever,find peace in knowing your sister will suffer no more ,God has caught her up ,God is loving her now and that doesnt mean youll never see her again right ,she somewhere safe waiting for you ,but i believe she wants you to live now and take care of yourself ,she wants you to be happy and shes smiling at you,because she know you loved her ,shes wanting you to smile back,shes smiling bigger than before,she wants you to too,she wants you to know she is happy ,she wants you to be happy ,she s gonna help you to be stronger ,she gonna love you and watch out for you now ,she smiling at you now, shes not scared or alone ,hurting in pain ,shes happy ,she free ,she just wants you to be, you ,do you know that ,i do ,she does,dont look back because she is in your future now waiting for you,waiting for God to bring us all back to heaven,she wants you to live till then ,so does God,she wants you to love yourself now,like you loved her.please tell her you will,keep her smiling until then,she will never forget you ever ,and you know she always just wanted you to be happy,dont stop now she ,because she still does ,today and tomorrow
if your crying while you read this remember shes smiling because you still love her

many hugzz darlin,be strong ,dont look back,she ahead now not behind ok

she wants you moving foward with peace in your heart

Ireland-1 wrote:
Hello,
I am sorry I didn’t reply sooner to this post, firstly in direct response to your reply to ^j^lil_bit_shie^j^ their is absolutely nothing you could have done about this, your mother did this, without you even knowing she was going to do it so no, their is nothing you could have done.

mera wrote:

^j^lil_bit_shie^j^ wrote:

mera wrote:

^j^lil_bit_shie^j^ wrote:
as hard as it may seem… you have to keep pushing forward.. you can not let this negative weigh you down… smile at it.. and tell it to back off.. im serious. because if you let it win… you will feel like crap.. even with my tumor issue.. i laugh at it… i have too.. because if i dont.. i would be in a horrible mood…

I’m sorry Tam,Its just I was talking to Dian this morning and she brought up the subject, what could I have done to help preventt this and what will I do in the furute if somthing like this happens IF it happens again. I just started thinking and I realize I could have done so much for all of us…I just wish that I could have done it…and that I would have done it…and im sory if I seem a bit of a brat…I jus…idk…things seem a bit heavy right now.

we all understand hun… trust me.. we do… and you really need to understand that.. when someone in that state of mind.. such as your mom… they are very powerful.. very strong willed and a 6 foot man could probably not have taken control either… so its not what you could have done… because … as i said… your mom was determined.. and sounds a bit out of her mind.. and that is a combination that is not good together..

Yea…It just…it still eats at me that maybe i could have done somthing more…and if I would have what would have happened, would I still be here now or would I be somwhere completly different…and trying to realize that maybe my mom was a bit out of her mind…makes me think…what if somthing like this happens to my children…or what if somthing with my head is wrong..what if i loose my legs…will i go sico because of somthing i might have inherrited to my mom…because of loosing rachel will i be to protective if and when i have a child of my own…???

Now in reply to the post, I can only pray that your treatment goes well and you can get out of the burns unit as quickly as possible, if their is anything I can do for you other than praying, please most certainly let me know.

Ireland-1 wrote:
I didn’t read your previous replies, I will say this however, and this is something I mean, you are upset, you created this post when you were upset you do not have to explain yourself, most of the time when a user looks at a post like yours they understand that the person is upset and are careful about the words they use, unfortunately that doesn’t always happen often users say something they regret.

Ireland-1 wrote:
I do the same thing, I just think that it is different when it is the poster, and the poster is upset over a traumatic event.

Ireland-1 wrote:
no mera, I believe one should truly express themselves if you upset someone along the way do as you did and apologise explaining what caused you to say this unless you are the poster.

Ireland-1 wrote:
yes, if you feel that this person was really upset however do shout at her (in the shoutbox)

I have to agree with everything this Ireland-1 says.

understandable.. i too am just like that.. in my life.. i was never allowed to show my emotions… happy, sad, frustrated or angry.. so even to this day.. i bottle them up.. until i explode… im still learning how to let my emotions show… its hard…

Hello mera,
I am so sorry to hear you are having such a crap day, please I beg of you on behalf of this community and of the world not to harm yourself.

awww babes.. im so sorry to hear of your frustration… and it is completely understandable.. im not sure of what to say about your healing and the loss of your legs.. but keep in mind.. there are miracles out there.. people have lost their legs and are able to continue to walk with help of prosthetics.. i know.. its not the same.. but it is a thing to think about.. so dont be hard about not walking anymore… because i have faith in you.. you will one day walk again.. keep telling yourself that you will get better.. stay strong and keep your fight going.. no matter how tough it may seem.. one day… you will look back at this and realize just how strong you are… and you will see just how far you have come… many hugs.. love shie.

honey.. you would be extremely surprised… any man.. who wants whats on the outside. is not worth having in the first place… its what counts on the inside.. hun.. and there are men out there who will fall in love with you…

there are people out there who make it… people who are paralyzed and make life happen.. they are able to finally find peace in their life and live it.. to the fullest.. you can do it.. i have faith in you…

as for family… ill be your family hun.. i have 3 children who would adore you… they are 12, 14 and 16…

mera,i must say that the things you have been through r the most terrible thing’s i have heard in a long time,and i must say that you r one of the strongest ppl i have ever meet and for that i want to say thank you for being so **** strong,not alot of ppl could handle such a situation and you r and with your head held high,very high and even tho i dont know you i am proud,to know that you r going on with life may you continue to do so with your head always held high and may god bless you for all you have been through.And if you ever need someone to talk to just shout me.God bless you.*hugs from me to you*

with all my love,prayers,and faith,rebek–always!!

Mera, you are an amazing girl. After your surgery, please come back to us. Many people who have amputations are able to walk again with prosthesis. My thoughts and prayers will be with you.

honey… you are truly special.. although im not a huge religious person.. i do believe there is a reason for you living through all of this and continuing on… you have a purpose… there is a reason why you are still here among us others who have suffered a great deal in life.. i have found that with my own issues.. i feel that by telling my stories.. it helps others who have been through the same thing… so im hoping that you will be a voice to help others being abused.. being a voice to help children learn that abuse by anyone including their parents is not right.. and that there are people out there who care and want to help them… much love to you… and a fast recovery… shie.

and you have to understand.. that is what made me who i am today hun… all my history from the age of 3 till now… it has made me realize that i treat others the way that i have always wanted to be treated.. and that is what im talking about when i talk to you… you will realize that you are strong.. and that… same as me.. there is a reason why we are still here.. to help others…

yeah.. trust me hun.. i often wondered.. and even found myself just wanting to give up at times.. even now… things just seem so bad at times.. but then i remember that.. there is a reason… and i have to continue… for some reason… its in my destiny… yeah.. i get sick of all these hurdles.. and it seems like everytime im just jumping over one hurdle.. there comes another… but.. i have made it this far.. farther than probably my own family wishes i wouldnt have.. but thats another story… i keep proving everyone that im strong… even though i may cry… and throw temper tantrums of why me.. why me… but then i realize… im special.. im needed in some way for something… and if its to tell my stories such as i have said.. then i will do so.. so that maybe one day.. i can save someone who has stood in my shoes… and that is what you have to remember.. you are strong… and one day.. you will help to save another.. just by being you… by telling your story…

well hun… i really have to get going… its 12 30 am here… i have to run to the store quick.. and then get to bed.. i have to get up early.. ugh.. but i will be back on tomorrow.. you will be in my thoughts tonight and tomorrow.. and just remember you have people out here caring… and hoping for a full recovery.. many hugs just for you… love your friend ALWAYS.. shie

Hi Mera, Oh HOney,You are in my prayers,I wish I were there with you holding your hand.Everythings going to be fine,i can feel it.Lots of love ((HUGS))-I hope this gives you encouragement; * Rick Allen—Drummer for the band Def Leppard; lost his left arm in a car accident.
* Douglas Bader—Royal Air Force fighter pilot during WWII; lost both legs performing low-flying aerobatics.
* Lucien Bouchard—Canadian politician and Quebec nationalist; lost a leg to necrotizing fasciitis.
* Roberto Carlos—Brazilian singer; lost his leg in a train accident.
* Ronald D. Castille—Chief Justice of the Pennsylvania State Supreme Court and former Philadelphia District Attorney; lost his leg in the Vietnam War.
* Tammy Duckworth—American politician; lost both legs in the Iraq War.
* Graham Edwards—Australian politician; lost both legs in the Vietnam War.
* Rahm Emanuel—U. S. Congressman; lost part of his right middle finger to a meat slicer while an employee at Arby’s as a teenager.
* Terry Fox—Canadian athlete and cancer treatment activist; lost a leg to cancer.
* Zach Gowen—American professional wrestler; lost a leg to cancer as a child.
* Lou Fananek Hagen—Singer of Czech Rock Band, Tři sestry. Lost his leg in train accident.
* Bethany Hamilton—American surfer; lost an arm to a shark attack
* Burkhard Heim—German theoretical physicist; lost both hands in a laboratory explosion
* Daniel Ken Inouye— Medal of Honor recipient, U.S. Senator; WWII war hero; lost his right arm due to battle wounds.
* Matthias Lanzinger—Austrian Alpine skier; lost leg after fracturing his shin and fibula during a World Cup Super-G run at Kvitfjell, Norway.
* Heather Mills—estranged wife of former Beatle Paul McCartney as well as an activist and former model.
* Aimee Mullins—American model and athlete; lost both legs due to congenital disease.
* Oscar Pistorius—South African sprinter; lost both lower legs due to a congenital disorder.
* Daniel Scioli—Argentine politician, Buenos Aires governor, former vice-president of Argentina, large appliances company owner and motorboat offshore driver; lost right arm at Offshore racing race.
* Darío Silva—Uruguayan footballer; lost his right leg after a car accident.
* Donald K. “Deke” Slayton—Mercury Seven astronaut (flew on Apollo-Soyuz Test Project); lost left ring finger as a child in a farming accident.
* Bionica von Takedown—American roller derby girl; lost her leg in an automobile accident.
* Alex Zanardi—Italian car racing driver; lost both legs in a CART car accident at Lausitzring

[haracters in the Spider-Man comic series, Dr. Curt Conners is an amputee who turns into The Lizard in an attempt to create a formula used to regenerate lost limbs.

i got word that you shouted someone and stated that you are only receiving ibuprophen for pain management. that doesnt quite make sense. all the surgeries that i have had, i have been given extreme drugs for the pain. just saying that this sounds a bit fishy to me. sorry.

Immediate Post-op Pain

Immediate post-op pain is the pain experienced after any surgical procedure where skin, muscle, bone and nerves are cut. Essentially everyone experiences some degree of post-op pain following an amputation. It can usually be controlled with pain medication and subsides fairly rapidly as swelling goes down, tissues begin to heal, and the wound stabilizes. This is simply part of the natural healing process.

It appears from recent research that it is critically important to adequately treat immediate post-op amputation pain because adequate early control decreases the chances of severe problems later. Surgeons are being encouraged to be much more liberal with pain medication in the immediate post-op period. Continuous post-op epidural analgesia is being recommended for pain management since it can be very effective. Adequate doses of narcotic and non-narcotic analgesics (pain medicines) should be prescribed in a fairly rapidly decreasing program to fit the decrease expected in the pain itself.

For amputees who are experiencing an unusually great amount of post-op pain or pain in the phantom limb, (which has been removed), early referral to a comprehensive pain management program is extremely important. Early referral for expert management can remarkably decrease long-term problems with post-amputation pain. Here, an ounce of early treatment can be worth a pound of late treatment.

Mera!stop defending yourself ,if people wont believe you ,blow it off ,this should be the last thing you need to be explaining,make time for the ones that do and be thankful for every bit of help and hope and trust you do recieve,find peace in the fact so many of the best doctors in the western world are attending you ,and many a loving stranger are supporting you and showing kind ,you are not forsaken by no means ,you are loved,you are not alone many hearts are feeling for you right now and i know i cannot comprehend what you are going thru but my hopes are high for you and my love is focused upon your healing ,keep strong,stay positive ,its going to be a long hard road ahead but people do and will continue to overcome such tradjedy on a daily basis ,find strength in the many who have fought and beaten all the odds, big huggzz

hi mera.. how are you doing.. hope all is going well.. how are you dealing with the shots that you have to take now… those must be a hassle.. hopefully they will be over soon.. though..

Hi Mera ,nice to hear your sleeping well .hope you have a good day also,thinking of you!

How come when I looked up your mothers name you gave “susan patterson” I got nothing about a mother who harmed her child and killed another, and how come their are no news reports on that in columbia or even in PA?

I agree, this whole story sounds very fishy to me too and how can you have a picture of your little sister with a name like demon tear, when you claim to be in such much pain from lossing her. You gave yourself away right there. Why can’t you just be honest and be yourself. No one is going to judge you here. This is not the way to get people’s sympathy unless you are writing a book or screen play. This is not the way to make a friendship. You would have a lot more friends if you told the truth. This is very sad and I wish you would come clean so that we can really help you.