Love help: Its been 3 years. - Help.com

Kinda one of those moments where you gotta ask yourself a very, very important question, and you have to realize this one thing “Death is more universal than life, everyone dies, but not everyone lives” did he live? Did he live for that moment? Did you live for his moments? Did you live together in those moments where you think back to? Because if you did, if he did, all you have to accept now is that many people have died from old age, drifting through life but never really lived.

aww im sorry to hear that.
may i ask what happened or would you rather not say? its totally okay if you dont wanna talk about it

No one measures up because you are actually looking for him and not any of them them. The truth is, though, you’re not going to find him. Often, our time spent with those most meaningful in our lives seems extraordinarily brief. But, then again, perhaps that is precisely what they are meaningful in the first place. You can’t simply “date away” your feelings for your love - you need to file them away where they will be loved and cherished but will still allow you to go on finding other, different loves in this life. So, I suggest you try and find ways to “let go”, however you can. Eat some ice cream, go for more walks, watch the movie “What Dreams May Come”, whatever works. Enjoy what you can because, as your boyfriend has proved to all of us, one never knows what day may be their last - nor how much we will be missed when we’re gone. Lots of love!

TJ

i hope this helps. anyway, think of all the good memories and the experience you had with him. better to have love and lost than never to have loved at all. you may grieve all you want. be sad all you want. but remember life has to go on. friends/family may be with you and can wipe a tear or two, but ultimately, you call the shots. try to learn as much from the experience. then move on. you are still young. love may be just around the corner. life has to go on. you are a beautiful person, in and out. you deserve to be happy.

awwe im really sorry. being there at the time makes it worse. i was there when my grandad died (who was also my best friend) and im sitll not accepting it.
i know how hard it is but you just need to know that you will meet someone oneday that youll love

I am sorry to hear this. I know you would feel like there is no one to compare with him but you will soon find the one.

I know you are not in a hurry and you should not be.
hugs.