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Why do you believe that people don’t like you? What do they do?
because their just jealous of your awesomeness of course.
Believe it or not, everyone worries about being liked. You need to work at being liked which means talking to people about what they are interested in and sharing your own interests.
give examples. confidence could be a piece….maybe you wanna try to join some diff groups - get some hobbies and make new friends…why dont they seem to like you thats not very nice….can you give examples….?
If this is the problem, then maybe you are hanging out with the wrong people.
Every group needs someone to make fun of to make themselves feel better. Don’t take it personally. They’re insecure so they put someone down. The best thing to do is to join groups, start talking to people who seem nice or are interested in similar things. You won’t be so isolated. Your self-confidence will go up, and the rest of them will find someone else to pick on to make themselves feel better.
i mean that…well - first - dont take it personally. people can be mean - that’ll come back to them. i know it was like that for me. you cant let them get to you - if they know they get to you they seem to keep it up - thats what i mean about confidence….you should try to join a church or some after school stuff -SOMEthing so you can find friends whoDOOO like, love, appreciate and treasure you…that way when this (meanie) crowd does their thing you feel more confident, dont really care, and have your own posse/friends….keep looking — even if you have to try a bunch of new places/activities…also, volunteering for stuff can be a good idea - the people can tend to be nicer to begin with….dont worry…it’ll pass it wont be like this forever - in teh meantime — seek out your own friends/own things where you can make friends and you’ll feel much much better. and then wont care about those flying monkey meanies :)
I don’t want to be mean, but maybe you are a dull person? Do you enjoy life? Find things you love and you’ll bond with people who share your interests! I love to read and watch great movies…they make me love life and want to experience life! Listen to fun music! Be a fun person and people will want to have fun with you. Or be boring and find people who want to be boring with you. To quote Dolly Parton, “Find out who you are and do it on purpose!”
Go to your couple of friends and talk to them about it. If they’re really your friends then they’ll understand and help you.
Oh, I’m sorry…I didn’t know people were going out of their way to be mean. I’ve totally been there and can feel your pain. I was soooo weird in high school and if you have a “couple of friends” that’s a couple more than I had! Appreciate your friends now and, though I’m sure it will be hard, just try to laugh off all the mean comments (which is what I wish I had done, instead of becoming a weirdo loner). It’s tough to hear “be patient” but the world is soooo much better after high school!!
I think many of you are missing the point. I know people that I don’t like and I don’t like them for a reason. It’s usually their personality. Perhaps they complain too much or always have a negative attitude about things. Perhaps they always argue, even when you’re trying to agree with them. It usually IS something and you need to find out what that something is. If you don’t know what it is, you can’t fix it. People don’t usually know the things they do that turn people off. If you know anyone you think might be a straight shooter, ask them to tell you what it is about you that is off putting and tell them not to be kind because you really want to fix it.
I know how you feel. I’m an extremely nice person, but sometimes I feel like no one likes me, or is just nice to my face. I am in highschool by the way, a senior. Just last week, we had to do partner work in english class, and I was the only person that didn’t have a partner. It was kind of sad…working on the project alone. I just feel like I’m not good enough. I ALWAYS help people when they need someone to talk to, but then those people ignore me.
I lack in confidence I guess.
I am working on it, because I really have a bright personality but people don’t notice, and I’m really nice. Keep your head high, and just be yourself. Live life to the fullest, and don’t let people keep you from doing that =)
Are you shy? Many times, shy people are seen as wanting to be alone. They come off as aloof. I have had shy friends who suffered the same kind of thing you just described and they all had bright personalities. Once they learned to overcome their shyness, they were surrounded by people.
Why do you want to be a robot with a shiney new plastic smile handing out networking cards and shaking sweaty palms? You’re doing fine. You’re clean, you’re attractive, you’re exactly who you are always supposed to be :0)
I have just started a new job i have been there 4 weeks already and i am trying to learn my job and trying to get to know all new people but one a friend who is my area manager i have know from our old place of employment i am trying to do my job
And get to know them the only way that i know how at break i talk about my past history in some fields of intrest aparently know one cares and they take is as bragging well what else is there left after good morning how was your weekend i am 50 years old and have not hiding my head in the sand all they seem to sare about is
This soap opera they watch at our 30 minute lunch break.i dont know but i would like to get down to the bottom of this our maybe just let it go this is sunday maybe monday morning we will get to the promble my super .
im exactly the same way. It’s sad but i try to ignore the fact that i dont have many friends. I just go with the flow of evrything and try to make myself feel happy.I realized that most people are fake and jealous anyway and i don’t need people to determine who i am. So they can hate me or not like me all they want but as long as i love myself im just fine. I know i have a good personality, maybe if ppl would just look past the fact that im a little quiet i would start to open up more cause i would feel comfortable. but oh well….
tats because u suck….u don hav any thing in common with people
tats because u suck…u don hav anything in common with people
tats because u suck…u don hav anything in common with people
IceOneNato: you are a creep. go choke yourself.
Well all I can say is I’m similar to you, I’m a 39 years old female who has been suffering from being accepted since my highschool days so don’t think this thing goes away that easily because it don’t and it gets worse as you get older. I am now considered an Agoraphobic and social phobia. I am now seeing a psychologist and taking medications. I don’t get visitors and my only friends are two males WHO I DON’T SEE. But we talk on the phone regularily but the best advice I can tell you is to try and love yourself and dude seriously I’m 39 years old and I have been trying to love myself for years and I’m still not at that point yet. It’s still very struggling for me. So just keep trying to love and accept yourself as you are which is hard and pray. Also if there is anything about yourself that you do not like, THEN CHANGE IT. Whether it be plastic surgery or losing weight or pimples or whatever. Good Luck
im currently a student at tutand i have been living with my roommate who lives with someone meaning that we were three, i was trying very hard to get to know them and get along with them but they were so distant with me and i didnt know what to do then after some few months another girl came to live with us, she was also reacting the same way towards me so cold. Days went on and on living together but not talking(to me)then a certain lady came to me asking for a place to stay,then i offered her, we used to get along,but ity didnt last because she seemed interested in my roommate than me, it was very painful for me to discover that she is into them than me, and mind you i did my level best to be nice to her.Guess what even the one im staying withis giving me the same reaction. I dont know why they are giving me this negative reaction.
I dont know why they are giving me this negative reaction.
Why not ask them?
I had some women tell me they thought I was angry with them or thought they were stupid. They interpreted my face that way. When I realized how my facial expression was affecting everyone I started working on it. I still have problems but now I can break into a smile and be the first to say hello and ask questions about them.
Get yourself the book “How to start a conversation and make friends” by Don Gabor. It is never too late to be smiling, warm and friendly with others.
My experience is that if people don’t seem to like you, you are probably a genuine individual and don’t feel the need to schmooze others. Most people spend their energy trying to please everyone else which, if you think about it, naturally makes the other people act as though they like them. Why? Becuase they can use them to their advantage. I hate to be a negative nelly but many people “use” other people because they feel that they can gain something from them. Just be yourself and don’t worry about what other people think. You just have to find the people who are more like yourself to hang out with. They will like you just for who you are and not what they can get from you.
P.S. We all have people who don’t like us. Move on. There are too many others to worry about those who are better off left behind.
I have the same problem. After alot of meds, therapy and soul searching, I’ve come to the conclusion that I like myself, but alot of people don’t like me. I don’t say that b/c I feel sorry for myself or feel like I’m a victim. People truly do not like me. I’m not a really energetic, exciting person, but I”m nice and helpful and a good person. It just sucks trying so hard to get people to accept you with little success. I’m okay with most of it now, but it still hurts me when people pre-judge me and don’t give me the time of day based on their first impression. It’s their loss I say. There are alot of good people out there whom no one gets to know just because they seem dull or not charismatic. I see not wanting to be BFF with peeps like me, but come on, just some plain old respect and kindness wouldn’t kill others!
A person who made a reference to being a robot with a shiney plastic smile rang a familier chord for me. My sibling (I hate to call her my sister) will speak volumes of someone she likes or admires and the theme she sounds the most is “People like him” She herself believes that she is personable and charismatic, but I have seen even some of her old friends roll their eyes as soon as she turns her back.
Hello to everyone! Thanks to everyone for being honest and open about their feelings! Like some of you, I too, have had similar experiences in the past with making friends and establishing healthy relationships with people. Though,I never understood exactly what I was doing wrong to make people feel uncomfortable around me because I pretty much treated everybody with dignity and respect! However, I have to admit life can be very lonely and sad, sometimes, without friends. But looking at the brighter side of things sometimes it’s better to be left alone rather than being in the presence of bad company. And most people would avouch to one thing- a geniune friend is rarely found on a corner. So best of luck to everyone!
P.S. Remember the song… I Believe the Children are our future? Remember when it said… Learning to love yourself is the greatest of love of All! Just remember this when noone seems to care!
Are you good looking or intelligient,probably jealousy!You are great just the way you are and if they dont like it well let them deal with it.Just think about this… everyones face will eventually catch up to their personalities when they are 50 or so, look at them and think you are gonna be real ugly one day!
feel the same, thats how i got here. Theres so many weird horrible people out there, i think you cant do much about it, even people that seem nice havent really got the time of day for you. its a cold miserable world unless you are superficial. the wicked enjoy the wicked world. One hope i have is Jesus. the book of Ecclesiastes, Psalms,and John are strengthening. It’s them not you !
This is for all ages:
Some groups have their friends and do not want to let new people in the group because they feel insecure about their place in the group. They are afraid that the newby will take their place.
Then, you have some people that in order to keep their place in the group, they have to be mean to who the group is mean to.
Either way, alot of the time, its about OTHERS insecurities. However, if they can make you feel insecure, than they will. It gives them power. Be powerful and do your own thing.
Nice people who try to be friends with the “meanies” will just get hurt. Stick to other nice people, they may not be in most popular group but they are probably alot happier. Not to long ago, there was a girl in the “popular group” and she committed suicide. Now, how happy could she of been?
From the outside looking in, she seemed to have it all. Looks can be deceiving. IT IS NOT YOU. They are the problem.
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