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I have love issues.

I don’t actually know what love is yet, but I think I found it in a guy named Jake. But he’s in love with my best friend Tuesday.. and it hurts so bad because I’m his rebound, or go-to girl. I’m always here for him, but he insists that he’s going to marry her one day. She’s cheated on him 4 times, with guys AND girls, and it’s tearing me apart to see him in agony like that.
What do I do?

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Ashlo offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 minute after post)

Why do you like him?

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sonowwwa offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (7 minutes after post)

because he’s been with me through almost everything. He’s always here for me..
He makes me laugh and smile too, and not to mention he has a great bod haha

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Ashlo offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (7 minutes after post)

Hm. He’s cheated on you, though, so not exactly everything. He’s betrayed you 4 times?

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sonowwwa offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (9 minutes after post)

oh no, we’ve never actually been together.
He was with my best fried. She’s the one who cheated on him and betrayed him

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Ashlo offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (10 minutes after post)

Oh. I’m sorry, I’m off today. Well, have you told him how it makes you feel?

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sonowwwa offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (13 minutes after post)

it’s ok :]
and I did, then they broke up for awhile, and then got back together again because they love[I say love freely] eachother.

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Ashlo offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (14 minutes after post)

Do you know why she cheats on him, or why he still loves her?

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sonowwwa offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (16 minutes after post)

she cheats on him because she thinks that he gets boring sometimes, and that “spices things up” in the relationship.
abd he still loves her because he thinks she’s going to change for him and that they’re going to get married when they get older

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Ashlo offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (17 minutes after post)

She wants to spice things up by cheating on him? I think that he should leave her, but I don’t know his feelings.

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sonowwwa offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (18 minutes after post)

yeah I think so to, but I want him to be happy..

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Ashlo offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (20 minutes after post)

Then he should talk to her. If she won’t change, then he should leave her to be happy. If she does change, maybe he will be.

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sonowwwa offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (28 minutes after post)

but the thing is that no matter what she does he’s going to love her. I’m the only one who has ever seen him cry. I have his tears on my clothes because of all the hurt she’s called him

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Ashlo offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (31 minutes after post)

Why does he love her so?

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sadone01 offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (2 hours, 57 minutes after post)

Well no a guy is not worth betraying a best friend so im sorry dont go for it… unless things change in time and you still have the same feelings for him…

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sonowwwa offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (4 hours, 58 minutes after post)

but he’s my best friend. And even she told me that me and him should go out when she dumps him..

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sadone01 offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (6 hours, 32 minutes after post)

Well friends say things that they dont mean …havent u ever done that im sure you have its hurts her in the inside .but she that she was going to dump him???????? well she must not like this guy like i said unless!!!!!!!! things change in time and that seems like a pretty big changeto me……..its really up to u[quote sonowwwa]but he’s my best friend. and even she told me that me and him should go out when she dumps him..

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sonowwwa offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (20 hours, 2 minutes after post)

yeah you’re right.
But I’m scared to act on my feelings :/

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Ashlo offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (20 hours, 3 minutes after post)

We have feelings for a reason. If you don’t act on them, why are they there?

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sonowwwa offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (20 hours, 27 minutes after post)

They’re there because that’s how we feel?

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Ashlo offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (22 hours, 5 minutes after post)

What I’m getting at is that you feel like for a reason. You should act on your feelings in this case. This isn’t love.

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sonowwwa offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 day, 9 hours after post)

way to crush my hopes and dreams Marshall :/

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 day, 13 hours after post)

well, im no expert but i’ll try..even though i’m 1 day and 13 hours late, but oh well.
it all sounds really confusing to me but from what i understand of it all, i think you should really just stay out of it, what i mean by that is, don’t do anything about your feelings for the guy YET.. it all seems too messy.
your friend (girl) seems like she’s kind of using the your other friend (guy), and i think what you need to do is talk to her, ask her if its serious and she honestly believes it can go somewhere, otherwise, she needs to end things, cuz your guy friend is getting pulled in deeper and deeper into the relationship.
also, talk to your guy friend, don’t mention your feelings to him, just talk to him about how he feels about his relationship. work with whatever they say about each other.
but i seriously advise you to keep your feelings to yourself for the time being, at least until things end with them - if it does end..
let me know if any of this has helped, even in the slightest. if not, sorry, but i tried, lol.
if u need anymore help, again, let me know.
hope things work out for ya. =)

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sonowwwa offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 day, 15 hours after post)

yeah it helps alot :]
but I’m scared that if I do that again they’ll blame thier break up on me and I don’t want that at all

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Ashlo offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 day, 17 hours after post)

I meant that what Tuesday does isn’t love.

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xNA offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 day, 19 hours after post)

sonowwwa wrote:
yeah it helps alot :]
but I’m scared that if I do that again they’ll blame thier break up on me and I don’t want that at all

well, then, maybe you should just stay out of it completely? then, you’re no way to blame.
but i really do think you should at least talk to Tuesday about it, just ask her generally, don’t make it out as though you’re so serious about it, just lightly bring up the topic.

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