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Words for someone who got cheated on.

How do you tell someone that got cheated on by someone they loved that everything will be ok? My sister just found out that her boyfriend cheated on her. She did all this on and off dating with him and kept taking him back. After the first breakup I told her to not take him back, but she did. I backed off and let her and him date again. The second breakup, I really laid into her about why she should not give him another chance, but she did. Just recently, things between her and her bf have been “unknown.” She would ask him wut is going on with them and he would just say, “Uhhh! Do we have to talk about it now? I am tired. We have talked about this before.” Basically, he was doing what I told my sister he was doing. He knows how to keep a “good girl” like my sister wrapped around his finger and how to keep himself some nasty s**** on the side. She did not believe me, but she does now.

My question is, what do I say to her? I got the impression, from her conversation with me last night, that she was ok because she did not cry when we talked about it. She was totally opposite! She was strong and angry when she talked. She called me this morning on her way to work to talk and she started to cry. I felt bad and went and bought her a rose plant, a balloon, some dark chocolate from Fannie May and Pixies from Fannie May. I just need to get a card. I hate the cards the grocery store has and Hallmark is too expensive. Plus, my sister likes homade cards. I do not know what to say to her in the card.! HELP! LoL!

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somanywalls_solittle offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 11 months ago (6 minutes after post)

just tell her that no matter how many boys or men (which ever suits the age) go through her life, you’ll be the one standing with her and holding her up when she feels like falling down.

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ReBuildingALife offline Verified User (5 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 11 months ago (16 minutes after post)

thats good!

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somanywalls_solittle offline Verified User (5 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 11 months ago (3 hours, 13 minutes after post)

thanks

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ReBuildingALife offline Verified User (5 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 11 months ago (19 hours, 28 minutes after post)

Just so you all know, my sister got the plant, Smiley balloon, chocolate, and card i made for her. She cried! I felt bad that she cried, but then i was glad too cause I know that it made her feel better. She went to go change into her pajammas yesterday and did not see it at first because she was changing in the dark. Her fan was going and she felt something hit her head (the balloon) and she said that all she saw was this thing bouncing and smiling at her. She went to go turn her light on and saw all the stuff I left for her. She came downstairs with a red wet face and then watched the “Bucketlist” with my family and I. It was a good day! :o)

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mrmoneyman123 offline Verified User (4 years) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years ago (11 months, 1 week after post)

Wow! I wish when I found out my GF cheated on me that I thought she loved me .. But it all was fake the whole time.. I could have someone as nice as you to cheer me up.. When I found out .. Al my friends were just like I told you so and stuff.. Really I was having a mental breakdown .. Every night i’d almost go to sleep crying.. Wishing someone really loved that someone would just be truthful not lie to my face the whole time and just smiled to keep me blind from her true ways.. :’( I feel so lonely .. Just the fact of having someone you could share your feelings with to and your embarrasing moments no one knows about the certain connection .. That made me in love .. Just not having of it anymore feels like .. Being rich and comforted.. To being thrown on streets.. With no special someone to really look in your eyes and I say.. I .. love you ..

How do I meet someone again and know if there loyal.. Uuuggh
Life is hard this part of mine sucks I hope to get out from my hole soon though my hearts being glued slowly still u

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petoe6 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 6 months ago (1 year, 5 months after post)

its hard for me now….i fell like i am gonna lose something

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damon_18_12 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 1 month ago (1 year, 9 months after post)

i also got cheated on by my girlfriend more than once, well we are talking 8-12 times? and well i’m never gunna forget it, it will always be in my mind but it’s her loss.. she kept telling me she has changed and wants to give it another go and i just tell her where to stick it. I act like it doesn’t bother me, i put a fake smile on my face when really i’m dying inside i just don’t want her to realise what she has done to me has had such a huge impact on my life. My trust in girls has basically dropped alot and will never be the same again. You just gotta erase her from your life and find someone else who you know wont hurt you like what she did.
Well now she is left with noone :) i found someone who i’m very happy with and she is left crying in the corner, her mates dont like her because of what she did to me, she has nothing and im so glad, she deserves it! when i first found out i cried every day for about 3 months! i know it sounds sad but i did love her alot.

You just got to give it time, the girl will come into your life and you will know when she is the one. There is no rush, She is probably right infront of you and you just can’t see her, Just give it time buddy :)

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 6 months ago (2 years, 4 months after post)

wow! i wish i had a sister like u to cheer me up. ive been cheated on too by my 4yrs relationship with my bf. he kept breaking and patchin up.totally like how ur sis was goin thru.all my frnds told me but i dint believe dem,i always felt he juz used to have healthy flirting now and den but never expected him to cheat on me so badly.juz a while back my friend told me that he used to have girls come over to his house. Im so hurt,and that liar used to tell me that he never had gotten ne girl to his place and i cant believe i actually believed him. recently he came back to me again, after a month of not talking and he said that he wanted to get back coz he misses me and no one makes him happie as much as i do. after a week of convincing,i gave in(was a fool again)den once again he did the same thing. he again stopped talking to me and this was wen i got to know all the cheating he had done. i dnt want him back coz i noe hez gonna come back again. i need to strong,,i hate wats happening to me now. hope it goes away soon.

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mromero81 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 3 months ago (2 years, 7 months after post)

I just found out my girlfriend of four years was cheating on me today and its like the worst day of my life. i cant believe she did that too me. it hurts so bad. her excuse was she didnt wanna hurt me by telling me and one of my friends found out about it and let me know. its so ****** up. iv never hurt this bad i just turned 20, its 4 am i just woke up thinking about her and couldnt sleep.

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antgar2 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (3 years, 5 months after post)

Hey I’ve been cheated on and my my ex who she is now got pregnant and then left me my heart waz destroyed by that I had. My life is so hard to move on now without her in my mind . I have been so faithful to her and gave supported her thru the worst I lost everything and let myself go I don’t know what to do anymore.

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josietheninj offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (3 years, 8 months after post)

i just found out my boyfriend cheated on me yesterday. i still love him, but i cant be with someone like that. it hurts so bad because i didn’t ask for this. i was just happy, living an awesome life with someone i thought was my soulmate, and then BAM suddenly my whole life is turned upside down and im alone. my emotions are all messed up. one minute i’ll be driving along, and then suddenly a love song will come on the radio and i’ll be driving along sobbing my eyes out. i cant eat. i cant sleep. ppl come around and pity me which makes me feel worse. its just ****** ********. what a ****

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An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (4 years, 6 months after post)

Post a replyI just found out i’ve been cheated on and this is the 2nd time. I’m in love with him and i couldnt imagine him being with anyone else but me. I don’t want any other guy in my life. I stayed with him but i just don’t know what to do with him or myself. I’m so hurt and i just wanna hide but i have to put on a front and show everyone that im okay even if im not. I’m in love and I know it will happen again. :( I just honestly dont know what to do. Please someone help me give me advice or something. (( i> small>(email removed) /small> /i> ) Email me please

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An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (4 years, 6 months after post)

Brittanybay2010@ aol.com

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basetsanammereg offline Verified User (2 months, 1 week) Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 1 week ago (4 years, 9 months after post)

you know life was never meant to be easy ,but just remember if you cheat on someone you actually destroying their self-esteem and their heart and being cheated by someone you love it’s so painful and it takes time to heal and to be in another relationship again.. i believe that love is a gateway for pain which at the end of the day it brings up painful memories that makes us stronger…

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