life help: My life is falling down so hard. - Help.com

Hey.

I’ve felt pretty bad too after my wife died last year, and I lost my job a month ago. In both cases, the only thing that saved me was asking for help. It may not always work with the first person you try… but I’m closer to my parents now, and I’ve seen therapists and gone to support groups.

You are not alone.

You can develop the skills you need to cope.

Reach out to other people, call a distress line or look up a support group for your addiction. You won’t believe how helpful it is to hear other people who share your same problems, who are either worse off or have helped themselves. You’ll realize it’s not YOU that is the problem, it is your lack of coping skills… and we can ALL learn coping skills if we practice often enough.

The worse thing you can do to harm yourself is NOT be honest with yourself. Sometimes it takes several tries before you can get a handle on your addiction. Whatever you do, right now you must worry about yourself first and put yourself as number one priority. Get back in treatment, get healthy and everything else will fall in place. So you fell off the wagon, you are not the first and you certainly won’t be the last person making mistakes. Get back on that wagon; start from inside, dahling. You know the drill.

I will pray for strength, peace and focus for you,love,

Much love and respect,
LP4444