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Friends of ours got engaged after us and now they set their date two weeks before ours?

We do everything with this couple, their in our wedding and he’s our bestman and we don’t know if we should say something? anyone have a similar issue?

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~Shie~ offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
Gloversville, NY, US | 1 year, 5 months ago (14 minutes after post)

what does it matter? you both are in love.. you both want to share this special moment with each other… so who cares… whos wedding is first…

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mariposa2008 offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (28 minutes after post)

Please dont be offended that I giggled. You are right to be annoyed,. but Shie is right, that “what does it matter”?

Get married, my dear, marry the man you LOVE, marry the man who will father your children (oh, whoops, is this sexist that I assume you are female?)

Go to their wedding and hold your honey’s hand and delight in the joy that awaits you!

You are marrying the person you love! What more can you want? Have fun, be beautiful! Smile big! Make sure your makeup looks nice for photos you show people decades from now!

mazel tov!

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s.re offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
GB | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 hour, 21 minutes after post)

I agree with the others - I’m also getting married (in 7 weeks time) and I wouldn’t mind if some of my friends were marrying before me! Your days will be different! Go and enjoy your friends’ wedding - be happy for them, and share in their special day. I’m sure they will do the same for you. :)
Congratulations on your engagement.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 hour, 54 minutes after post)

thanks for the advice!

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mariposa2008 offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (2 hours, 15 minutes after post)

congrats, s.re! May your days of marriage be fun, full of love, a bit boring (in a good way) and all that you need!

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (20 hours, 5 minutes after post)

Yep, I agree with everyone here.
You are getting married to your man and not to your friends, I can see how it may feel a little annoying as it seems like they are “stealing your thunder” so to speak but try and look at it in another way~ your bestfriends are going to be shareing their special time with you and you with them, you all have something in common so no matter how much you talk about it you won’t be boreing anyone with wedding plans :D

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GB | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 day, 10 hours after post)

Many thanks mariposa2008!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (2 weeks, 1 day after post)

HELP! I have a similar problem. I am the best man in my roommate’s wedding, but I am ready to propose to my girlfriend. The best possible time to propose is one week before his wedding. Our weddings won’t be around the same time, but him and his wife are a little offended that I plan on doing this. I don’t know what to do. What I have planned will be the most special idea I can think of for us, and I’d have to wait for at least a month to re-plan everything. If I have to wait, there’s a chance that our overall wedding plans would not be ideal, and the surprise might be ruined. But, I want to repect my friend and their wishes for their wedding. WHAT DO I DO???

Stephen

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