If you had to choose between someone who you love or someone who loves you which would you go for?
And to be more specific, the person you love does not love you back, but you are not in love with the other person who is in love with you.
Also, no, I am not experiencing this. I have just recently finished reading a series where the main character had to make this desicion. And it made me think, ‘What would I do?’
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well if you don’t love someone back then it really doesn’t matter how much they love you, it just won’t work
and the same thing goes for loving someone
both people have to love each other if not it’s not true love
i wouldn’t be w/ someone who i don’t love and if the person didn’t love me i wouldn’t be able to stand knowing he might cheat on me. i pick neither. wat’d u choose?
!!! thats is incredibly hard !!! No one has ever liked me, but loving someone who doesn’t care for me is a waste… So I’d get them 2 together and maybe set them up for a date.
that could be really confusing..but neither of this it is real love so i guess i would give up on both of them and I would start a new life without them :)
someone who loves me and who is extremely handsome :p
just a joke though. unreciprocated love is painful. don’t want any of that anymore.
I would pick the one who loved me… because I’ve heard a saying for guys that if you have a girl who doesn’t love you, fill her with enough love of herself that whatever is in excess and spills out can flow right back to you.
i would go with the person i love
had that question in mind before, after some thinking and stuff ,, i decided that when that comes in front of me i would think about so till than i stand in between ^_^
I would choose to love myself because then that way I would win and have someone who loves me and someone who I love ; )
I would choose, maybe conceitedly, the person who loves me. Because, who knows, they might surprise me and I might love them back someday.
Assuming, though, that they’re okay with the fact I don’t love them back. If they weren’t okay, and were always trying to convince me to love them, I’d go insane with guilt and annoyance.
Hard question…
But I’m curious what the main character of the series decided.
If it ever happens, I think I would try to do what Aehtla said, though…love myself and show the guy I like what he’s missing by being single.
If I had to choose between two people in this situation, honestly, I was thinking to go for the person who loves me. Like, not starting out with a romantic relationship, but maybe hanging out with them more, and like kmichelle said, I might fall in love with them someday.
The main character of the series said these exact words: “I’m afraid I just can’t bring myself to give up just yet on my precious first love.”
So, she decided to keep pursuing the one who she loved. :)
It would be a hard desicion though…
Thanks for replying! ♥
kim. wrote:
If I had to choose between two people in this situation, honestly, I was thinking to go for the person who loves me. Like, not starting out with a romantic relationship, but maybe hanging out with them more, and like kmichelle said, I might fall in love with them someday.
that reminds me of two people…
your sister and the guy who likes her.
uncanny. xP
but cool.
erin wrote:
kim. wrote:
If I had to choose between two people in this situation, honestly, I was thinking to go for the person who loves me. Like, not starting out with a romantic relationship, but maybe hanging out with them more, and like kmichelle said, I might fall in love with them someday.that reminds me of two people…
your sister and the guy who likes her.
uncanny. xP
but cool.
haha. yes~
from me knowing her(and her incredibly high standards) it is going to take a lot for her to fall in love with him.
He’s going to have to do something big…something that doesn’t creep her out but makes her happy. :D
…and he’s probably going to have to wait until she is older.
Love is the last thing on her mind right now.
But I do hope things turn out with a happy ending. ♥
i would chose the person i love if he hadent already broke my heart
Im not sure anyone could ever not choose the person they love. Its just the way the love is.
shosta8 wrote:
I would pick the one who loved me… because I’ve heard a saying for guys that if you have a girl who doesn’t love you, fill her with enough love of herself that whatever is in excess and spills out can flow right back to you.
That makes my heart feel super happy! (Nihao, Kai-lan, NickJr) But really, it makes my heart feel warm and happy. This is the second quote that made me feel nice. Thanks Shosta!
kim. wrote:
If I had to choose between two people in this situation, honestly, I was thinking to go for the person who loves me. Like, not starting out with a romantic relationship, but maybe hanging out with them more, and like kmichelle said, I might fall in love with them someday.The main character of the series said these exact words: “I’m afraid I just can’t bring myself to give up just yet on my precious first love.”
So, she decided to keep pursuing the one who she loved. :)It would be a hard desicion though…
SWEET!!! Beautiful!
Unfortunatly, I couldnt choose. It would be to hard for me, but i would have to tell the person who loves me that we are not ment to be, He would cry man tears and look serious, turning his head so as not to let me see his emotions. “I see. Im sorry we could not be.” And walk off into the twilight, leaving me alone to face the darkness of the walk home, why Im walking home is a question, but i am. I would look up to the stars, watching as one pops into existance, then another. “Was this right?” I would ask them, but they would only twinkle and shine, telling me its up to me. I would breath in and then sigh, continuing on my journey to my home.
Oh sorry! got carried away, but yea, I couldnt choose. XD!!
WashuChan wrote:
Unfortunatly, I couldnt choose. It would be to hard for me, but i would have to tell the person who loves me that we are not ment to be, He would cry man tears and look serious, turning his head so as not to let me see his emotions. “I see. Im sorry we could not be.” And walk off into the twilight, leaving me alone to face the darkness of the walk home, why Im walking home is a question, but i am. I would look up to the stars, watching as one pops into existance, then another. “Was this right?” I would ask them, but they would only twinkle and shine, telling me its up to me. I would breath in and then sigh, continuing on my journey to my home.Oh sorry! got carried away, but yea, I couldnt choose. XD!!
aha, that was a very creative response! I liked it~ :]
Welcome! I could add a heartfelt but wrenching tale of the other side, the one who doesnt love me. But, It is painful and should not be repeted, for the infulence could untamitaly cause side effects such as chest pain, watery eyes, blubbering, wet cheeks, and loud walles of emotional agony.
I LOVE USING MY BIG WORDS! I should start writing…. COOL! :D!
littlenick wrote:
Love is strange and weird. Love stinks!http://youtube.com/watch?v=GluCM_ggMvw
Watch this video!
oh, I agree 100% with that right there! haha
But love is wonderful at the same time. Its beautiful, painful, happy, sad, fluttery, hateful, and just an all out good feeling, and a bad one at that.
Its a 50/50 thing. :D
dont waste you time on someone who dosnt love you. and dont waste your time on someone you dont love. the love should be comming from both derections. and it is ok to love someone even if your not IN love with them and vice versa.
i would go for the one who loved me, because at least they would make me feel special and maybe i can learn to love them
Choose who you love. You might resent picking the person you don’t love because you dont have feelings for them.
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