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when u decide to do it…. do it
right then so you have NO regrets…..

But the thing is, i think it’s a good idea the night before but then the next day when I actually have to do it, the idea of talking scares me too much to actually do it.

i know a lot of people say suck it up and just go for it, but i don’t think thats right. you should never have to feel like you’re forcing it, because in that scenario your not being true to yourself. also, some people just don’t understand how crippling someone’s inhibitions are. i guess really, it depends on what you want to talk about and to whom. i think you need to talk to yourself (internally) before you ‘force’ yourself to do anything. try and understand yourself as much as possible. Perhaps you can’t talk to people about your feelings because your unsure of yourself or what you want to say? my advice would be, make yourself feel as comfortable with yourself as possible, that way, feelings with flow more easily. and then start small. talk to anyone/thing to get you started. your mirror, your cat, your pinky finger…always do what you feel comfortable doing, and try and build it up if you can. but most of all, keep reassuring yourself that what you have yo say is important. good luck :)

ok well…. the second u have the idea
then you should tell the person….
no matter wat time…. im sure they
will understand…..
and if u dont wanna do that then
try writing it down and then i
guess you could give it to them

if u want i mean…. for me it helps writing stuff
down…. and then givin it to ppl cuz that way
i could say more and explain it better….

I did do that, but I think I need to prove to myself that I can talk about it, and to do that I need to speak rather than write it down. But I just can’t work up the courage to do it.

if u cant go to
the person then
get the person to come
to you………
like when the person comes
and talks to you then just
bring it up….
ok can u let me kno who the
person is… like a friend….
boyfriend… parents?

Teacher

umm
idk wat to tell u…
i guess try tellin you teacher
something thats not to personal first
then wen you no u can trust them then tell
them. sometimes we loose our confidence wen we’re
scarred about trust. got me?

I do trust her, I used to talk to her but then stopped because everything was better. Now it’s not and I just don’t know what to do!

just go up to her
just tell her u need some help

I can’t, I just can’t get the courage. It scares me so much, I see her and what I was going to say just completely leaves my mind and I have no idea to say what I want to. I just freeze.

ok well
right down wat you
just told me along with
wat ever you problem is
and wen you go up to her then
just give it to her….
would you try that?

I guess…but then I haven’t proved that I can do it. I don’t want to be afraid, I want to be able to go up to her and admit I need help again. But I can’t and it’s really frustrating me!

idk…
have u tried talking to
someone else about your
problems?
and i kinda have to get off…
cuz my parents are “making me”
so if u wanna talk more about
ANY of you problem…..
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p.s. sorry if i couldnt help…(i tried)

Yes, I’ve talked to my friend .. but we both know she can’t give me the help I need so we’re looking at other options. And then we came to the teacher …

o well if it makes you
fell any better
you can go up to the teacher with
your friend that way it will
be alot easyer….
so yea…
and srry but i really have to go….
srry ….
the best of luck with
everything…
and dont forget
you could still email me if u want…
bi

Thank you!
bye!

Maybe you could write it down, and then when you go up to the teacher, look at the paper, and read it off. Because then you’re saying it, and your proving that you can, but you wont forget what it is that you need to say.
Would that make it any easier, do you think?

Yeah, that could work. Thanks!

You’re welcome, glad I could help. =)