friends help: I feel like a loser. - Help.com

i’m sorry to hear that, its a horrible feeling to have. Try not to let it get you down. Do your best to make the best of your current situation, and remember that you will meet loads of people in the future, so don’t think your stuck and things will never change. Also, i’m sure your friends don’t hate you. Try and be positive about the sitation, that way you can take control of it :)

i often feel the same nightowl… often times I also feel like I don’t have a clue what I’m doing

it’s okay to have only 1 close friend, i only have 1 close friend, i think it’s better that way.

Perhaps you are attracted to people who are involved in many things. That causes them to have less time for personal relationships. When you have the opportunity to meet new people, maybe you can concentrate on getting to know one of the seemingly quiet individuals. Sometimes one who is quiet is the one who has the most to offer in the way of friendship. Another choice would be to get very busy yourself. There are so many opportunities to touch other lives in positive ways. I have a couple of ideas, if you are interested.

Now that you are feeling better, I feel better, too.

Nightowl - I used to have a ton of friends and one by one they got married or moved out of state. They were dropping like flies.

Anyway, I have a couple of friends now, but I’m sick of them.

I think the secret to life is find a purpose and do something about it. People let you down, and you need something to turn to. Like I’m against animal abuse. I’ve developed a plan to do something about it from my little corner of the world. I never thought I’d say this, but for me anyway, it has become more about accomplishing something than relationships. You can always get satisfaction out of doing something you care about.

Nicky

I know how you feel here. I have no friends now really and honestly it sucks but at the same time, I’d prefer to have no friends than one’s who are fake and will ditch out on me. Too many experiences in the past with unworthy friends. More likely- aquaintences is a better term. A true friend fills in all the holes.

i totally know how you are feeling. when i was in highschool my best friend switched schools in grade 11. i always had to call her to see if she wanted to hang out. she wouldnt avoid me but she would never be the one to call. one day we had a little fight, then i thought to myself i’ll wait for her to call. she didnt. yeah it hurt but i guess she didnt appreciate our friendship as much as i did. to this day i have never had a friend i cared for or trusted more. but it cant always be onesided either. if something like thats gonna happen its better sooner rather than later. but for you hopfully neither.

Soon you’ll meet new people this is a transisonal stage of your life the best is yet to come. you seem to be a approachable sort of person. new friendships will happen.

I have the answer: “There is no answer. Life is just that…life. It simply is. Just like a star is a star, and air is air.”

who cares if you have no friends?

“So make the most out of life, the way it is right now. Leave the unanswerable questions unanswered…your just going to melt your brain pondering them.”

Nightowl, how are you doing? Are you ready for a suggestion? I have just a few minutes before I have to leave the website, but I could give you those minutes.

Cool. If you choose something fun to do and go out to do it by yourself, you are sure to meet other people who like to do that activity. You can choose the most interesting person that you meet and strike up a conversation about the activity. You will be able to determine whether that person is interested in talking with you by listening carefully to the way he/she speaks. If you do this, I am certain that you will find a new friend. What do you think?

I think that you are not boring. You are interested in what others think. The evidence for this is that you are asking on this website. That automatically makes you interesting to other people. Every person has a story to share about themselves. The way to make a friends is to make contact with others and listen. Are you ready to listen? If so, you will just need to put yourself out there and you will make friends everywhere you go. Does this make sense to you?

Okay, now…Where are you headed today?

I wish that I could go to karate. How will to get there? Will you walk or??? I know that you have probably already spoken with everyone you meet at the dojo, but if you will find someone on the way to greet with the phrase, “How’s your day going?” that person is certain to reply to your inquiry. Would you please tell me what they say? I will be checking back with you on Wed. or Thurs. to find out how you are. Okay?

So, how are things?

Nightowl wrote:
I think I’m a very boring person. Most of the time I’m either exercising at home, on the computer, or training at my dojo. I really dont get out much.

I think you are a leader, instead of a follower…. maybe, you just need to set your sites, a little higher.

We are what we think… and the world is our oyster….

Today is the first day of the rest of your life.

If you are not satisfied with things.. change them.

Blessings…

Good advice on here. ^^
If your friends blow you off, then they are not good friends. I had that problem too, then I realized they were very selfish. You are not a loser when you do the things you love. I never understood the whole, “your a loser” statement. That would mean someone has to be the winner. But I don’t see a bunch of winners walking around. So, If there are no winners, then there are no losers. People that have confidence issues may see people as winners or losers. They make themselves feel better or worse by always comparing what they have to others, and or what they do to what others do. You can compare different things, but can only come to the conclusion that they are neither a winner(better) or loser(worse), they are just different. Take care. ^^

Your welcome. ^^ I agree. I’d rather have a few close friends than tons of people that don’t really know me.

Anonymous wrote:
it’s okay to have only 1 close friend, i only have 1 close friend, i think it’s better that way.

I agree also..

Nightowl wrote:
Thankyou, that makes a lot of sense :)

I figure that everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. My strengths might be leadership, wisdom, whatever. Someone else might be a social person, with a million friends…but I dont need a million, I only need a few best friends.

Now your talkin …..

Exactly… right.

and always remember, to be your own best friend.

If you love yourself, others will love you too.

Be satisfied and content with who you are,

that does not mean, to not strive to be better,

It just means to be content in the now.

Make your plans, and go for them.

With the new attitude :)

You gotta win ^J^

(((hugs)))

By the way, Luv the new avatar !!!!

You look optimistic & hopeful.

Thats a winning combination.