girl help: Last year, I broke up with this girl and effectively broke her heart. - Help.com

well does she seem happy? does she have the attitude tha t she has moved on

what did you say could u re post

mate, been there, doing that atm, dunno how is gona end up.
all i can say is that dont come on to her all needy, that wont wrk at ALL.
if she loved you then, she will prob still have feelings for you still, but just be sure that u actaully want HER, and not just the relationship or whatever. shwe deserves more than that.
i know its obvious, but it does need to be said i feel.

hope this helps.

Yeh, have thought about that long and hard and I don’t think it’s that at all. I know she had a hard time dealing with it and I don’t expect to be allowed to just waltz back in, but I need to at least let her know I’m sorry. Was thinking of making a big speech (not in a dramatic fake hollywood way) and trying to explain and ask for forgiveness or does that count as needy..? I can’t tell at the moment, but I feel it’s up to me to prove I’m ready to make the effort. Apparently she said to a friend not so long ago something along the lines of ‘if he misses me, why isn’t he fighting for me’ nut don’t know the context/tone! Have mentioned I’m having trouble dealing with it to her and she seemed very interested but basically said a) she can’t go back and b) she doesn’t really trust me. Her eyes said she was interested though, or maybe I’m clutching at straws…

well mate, if you want her back go for it, because it would be worse not to try and then spend the rest of your life wonderin you know?
she is probably very scared to put her in a position to get hurt again, which you can no doubt understand.
one thing i did find in a book “why men dont listne and women dont stop talkin” is that guys rarely know how much they feel for a girl till further down the line after theve lost her.

maybe that helps, i dont know.