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its the male way of dealing with problems to shut of from the outside world and deal with them without talking. i think he is hurting at the fact that youve moved away and the realisation that u aint his baby girl nemore is quite a blow to talk i reckon.
he still does love you, but doesnt know how to approach the topic etc, and uses ur bills as an excuse to talk to u w/o showin his emotions. have you tried talkin to hi m about ur feelings??

hope this helps

i knowe how you feel.

my dad looks at me as a slave of an alcoholic family. but he will never admit he has a drinking problem.

he has several dwi’s. so now he NEEDS me to put his chevy in my name so he can drink and drive. “b/c envy if you dont do this, it will kill my social life. and i cant afford antoher breathalizer on this car, the one on the truck runs me aobut 200 a month..could you helpo me out please?”

but i have no voice if i try to explain to him with a rational argument about why thats so wrong..youd never do it for me… you dont see the bigger picture im ****** you get in to an accident..

there is a questionarre im to fill out for the insurance company. i havent yet. the insurance policy will laspse on that car that is in my name and he is currenttly out and about with some ho drinking. so **** it im not helping him. im worthless to him b/c i wont help him witht aht anymore. i use to but iv grown up now and he dosent like it.

im sorry that your dad is taking his problems out on you. i odnt know what to tell you…but perhaps you can seefrom what im saying, im growing a back bone..tell him how it is. im sure you have a voice i dont..so i hope you can find one soon. ill write more to you later…

Think about it from his point of view. Half his family left him than once you go to school he may have thought that you left. He is still probably trying to cope with you leaving away for school that he feels you wanted to be treated as an adult so he is doing that. I would recommend when you can catch him alone say something along the lines that “Im still your daughter and no matter how far apart we are i will always treat you as such” it takes one sincere moment to bring a man to tears. Maybe he also has things that he stores away cause guys are natorious for not sharing there feeling. Just remind him that even though you are an adult and want responsibility that you still want to have that father daughter relationship

This may sound strange but, Do you look like your Mom? If you do it may explain some of the things he is going through. EC has a point. Men deal with problems internally and don’t do well expressing their emotions when they are hurt. They tend to push people they love, away. I would take a moment and sit down with him and say ” Dad can we talk about why you are pushing me away?” Tell him you love him and miss the old Dad and want him back.

Your dad is obviously troubled about something. try talking to him about it. if that doesn’t work, blank him for a good few years, and watch him come crawling back. it worked for me! chin up love! :)