life help: I just found out that my father cheated onmy mom when she was

Kat.peace of mind..

I just found out that my father cheated onmy mom when

she was pregnant with me, and i received a called from my grandmother telling me that i have two sisters.. i dont know what to do, should i talk to them, should i get them a dna test , i dont know if i should let them in my life, they are practicly strangers..

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (26 minutes after post)

i think you should atleast meet them. after that you (and they) can decide whether or not to continue.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (30 minutes after post)

thanks stardusteclipse… i dont know.. is hard for me to open my herat to pleople… i can say i was cold hearted for some years, and after having my son i feel like i’ve turned soft… and thats a good thing, but at times i just feel like i dont give a **** , and it scares me cause of my son and all.. and i know trying to meet this girls and get to know them, might help me become a better person, but at the same time i’m mad cause i grew up all alone and i just feel , really confused at this point of my life.. this is my first day in this site, and i apreciated you replying back to my post..

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

But praying alone will accomplish nothing.
If you have the ability to contact them, make the full oppurtunity to do so. They are still your family, and you felt all alone when you were growing up - so tell them how you feel, laugh and apologize about the awkwardness of the situation, and see where it goes from there. Maybe you’ll become friends and maybe you won’t. But trying is better than looking back on it later and wishing you had tried to get to know them at all.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 hour, 31 minutes after post)

Do you talk to your father?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (7 hours, 50 minutes after post)

thanks everyone.. eyesyggdraselos, you got a good point there, i apreciate your advice , i might just see if i can at least talk to the girls..

tea ali. my father passed when i was 7.. thats why it makes it a little harder.. dna test is the only thing that could tell.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (14 hours, 50 minutes after post)

If you sincerely want to meet your sisters, I think you should have a talk to your grandmother first. Find out if she has info about their mother…If the girls are underage, their mother has to give you permission to meet them. If she opposes, I don’t think there is much you can do other than see if you can get some sort of court order or wait until they are of the age of maturity and try to contact them then. Same applies if she opposes the DNA tests. You also have to keep in mind that they might not know that they have a ‘big sister’, so it would be a shock for them if you to just call one day and say “Hi. I’m your sister”.

Again, talk to your grandmother and see what info she can give you about your sisters and their mother before you proceed with trying to contact them.

I hope that things will work out well for all of you.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 day, 1 hour after post)

I’m 17 and I just found out last summer, that my father cheated on my mom when I was a young child…Idk really have any consoling words…It’s a horrendous situation and I hope that you deal with it better than I did.

…I haven’t spoken to my father in 10 months now

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 day, 5 hours after post)

thanks for everyones adviced. it really helped me make a right choice..

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