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i dunno how to go about this.

i have a boyfriend, yes. im sorry, its another relationship post. but yeah.
he is not the one i want to spend the rest of my life with. like he wants to with me. i dont know about the rest of my life yet. im 16. i want to be able to break it off. but i cant do it. it feels so horrible. i dont love him like he loves me but hes such a good person i dont want to hurt him either. i also cannot say no. last time i broke it off i couldnt stand to see someone so upset so i shifted back with him. this is an ongoing problem that i seriously hate. has anyone got any tips on how to go about this?

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Becky * offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (25 minutes after post)

You really have to talk to him, the sooner the better you don’t want to drag it out because you could end up hurting him more. If you explain it properly and talk to him in person about what you’re feeling then i’m sure he’ll understand you can’t stick with somebody you don’t really 100% love because in a way it’s wasting both of your times. (not meaning to sound horrible)
Maybe have a chat and see how you both feel, he might not take it so badly if you word it right xx

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Kira684365 offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (1 hour, 20 minutes after post)

i agree with franchesca its hard to de but you need to follow your heart

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courtybubble offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 175 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (9 hours, 41 minutes after post)

god, youre 16. you dont have to worry about who youre gonna spend the rest of your life with yet. just enjoy being in a relationship and dont worry about that.
if at the start of every relationship you assessed it for marriage qualities youd never have relationships.
just enjoy what youve got now.

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xselfyx offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
Bloxworth, D6, GB | 1 year, 5 months ago (21 hours, 56 minutes after post)

im not. but he is. i think its because he wants something different from me being older. he forgets im 16. hell i forget im 16. im just not sure to go about it. i can just see this going somewhere i didnt want it to go pretty rapidly.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (3 weeks, 5 days after post)

tell him that you cant go on like that forever but u still luv him. he’ll feel good when u say u still luv him, so when u say that u cant stay with him itll soften his feelings so he might understand.

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1 year, 4 months ago (3 weeks, 5 days after post)

well making your self distant can actully hurt you in ways like if you get too distant he will try to hurt you by cheating i have seen it and if your older then maybe you just wanted to have fun the best way to do that is just tell him that it is time to move on if he does get hurt then there is nothing you can do (sorry about that) but i think he is too obsesed with you but i bet you are a beautiful women and you can do better then some young obsesive boy so go out and have fun ok peace out

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