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He sounds just like me. I tends to shut people out, sometimes. There’s a wall between me and other people.
Have you talk to him about it?

yea ive told him he needs to talk more about htings with me and he has been. i honestly think he tries to talk to me but its hard for him. things seem fine when its just me and him and hes so sweet and nice and he tells me he loves me and stuff but when were around his family he doesnt treat me the best…but i think thats cuz he doesnt want his family to get the wrong idea idk. and i recently found out hes moving and we’ve been discussing like how were gonna handle it and how we’ll work it out. but i have this fear he will stop tlaking to me once he gets there idk why

Hm, it seems like you’re just worried too much.
It’s normal for some people to maybe treat you a little different when you’re with other people, that’s how I am.
When he moves, just keep talking to him, I think he won’t stop talking to you.

That sounds a lot like i worry i might seem like, although slightly different. If he’s had a hard life, chances are that he just finds it hard to be himself, or to keep his cool all the time. Even if he does shut you out, i wouldn’t doubt his love for you. Alotta people shut other people out, especially people they care about and people they love in an attempt to protect them. I do it instinctively and find it really hard to open up to anyone, even my girlfriend, how i love like mad, and i think i can say as someone how feels the same way as he probably does, it’d mean a lot to him if you just sit down with him and have a warm chat, try and help him get the the bottom of any problems he might have. It might be very hard, it might take months and he may well get angry at times but the best thing you can do for him is to stick with him. Helping him to stop shutting you out and to open up would definitely mean a lot to me if i was him, and i reckon it’d mean a lot to him too and really help your relationship a lot.
So you should definately talk to him and try and help him, but be sure not to do something he doesn’t want you too, but i’m sure that he loves you very much, even if he acts different at times. For men, showing emotion is pretty hard, it’s just in our genes, but that doesn’t mean that the emotion can’t be there, even at the strongest level.
And if he does love you as much as i reckon he probably does, then there’s no need to worry about stopping talking to him. He might get a bit forgetful, so if you care about him that much, you should do your bit to make sure you keep in touch too, he doesn’t have to be the one to start a conversation, although don’t get too clingy or persistent, if you ring at a bad time, just ring him back, sometimes time alone is good too.
Finally, good luck.

yea i understand that
and its not like i wont try calling him and stuff i just fear like he will stop answering my calls…like oh im done with her i moved

Oh, don’t put such a sad thought in your head.
How is your relationship right now?
If you keep calling him, and he keeps talking back, it won’t change that much, except you’ll long to see his face even more.

Yeah, and if he does love you that much, he won’t think like that, and i’m willing to bet anything he does

So cheer up! Things will be fine.
:D

right now we seem good and he still will tell me he loves me like out of the blue. we seem good. and he swears that wont happen cuz weve talked about it. i think its all in my head but at the same time im like ugh.

rawritschelsea1 wrote:
he still will tell me he loves me like out of the blue.

That’s so sweet. I guess he really loves you. You’ll be fine.

yea but like sometimes i get scared like maybe hes just telling me stuff so i wont worry and then hell get out of here scotch free. idk i know i need to work with my insecurites but its hard

Yeah, it’s hard, I also had that problem, but things are better for me now.
You can get through it, good luck.

idk i just dont know what to do. like i guess all i can do is wait til he moves and see what happenens but im so afraid of getting hurt.

Cut the guy loose, I just went through the same dance for six years with my last. He has issues that are old. If he gets professional help then maybe there is a future with him, if not, then say good bye.

hmm idk i cnat let go. if i get hurt i get hurt. but i think i have to let it just happen otherwise ill always wonder.