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My dad died when I was 5 years old, so there’s not much memories of him left im my mind.
I even know if some of the memories I have of him is actually true or not, maybe I dream about it when I was younger, and I just make a mistake and thing that it actually happens. :/

The school required kids to make card for their fathers. So, I did it, every year, again and again, and then I gave it to my mom to keep it. I think she burned it.
There’s a belief or something like that, that you could burn something and the death would be able to receive it.

I used to be sad of fathers’ day, but now it’s just part of my life. Something that I have to deal with every year, and as years passed, I know more people that have to experienced the same thing.

My Dad had a lot of problems. He wasnt really there for me, and still isnt. I see him every few months. Luckily when I was only two my “step”dad got in the picture. He’s treated me like his own, my entire life. I hear a lot of other people I know talk about how “s.hit.ty” their stepdads are. I’m glad I got an honorable one. Anyway, we all went to the airodome to see a plane show today. It was ok, I dont really like things like that, but my “step”dad loved it.

lol, I meant I “really *dont* like things like that”

smoknbowl wrote:
dont have to be ur blood to be ur dad

Thats exactly what my mom told me when I went through the “your not my real father” phase a few years back.

This was my first Father’s Day without a Dad…I just kept myself busy, tried not to depress myself, but I kept a positive attitude all day. Instead of “Well this sucks, my dad died.” my attitude was “My dad was an amazing man and I am proud to be his child.” Because no matter what, he is and always will be my dad, even if he isn’t here on earth, so I can still celebrate Father’s Day no matter what, I guess.

ive never had my real father in my life….but what ive learned in life is that god gives us plenty of other people in our lives we can look up to regardless if they are related to us or not…therefore on fathers day i thank God that i have good people in my life that i can look up too and i call them on fathers day…..also the way i view it now is that if my dad didnt care enough to be in my life then im benefiting from not having him around becuase if he was around it would probley hurt more

On this subject - today someone asked me what I had done for my father on Father’s Day, and to make sure they weren’t uncomfortable (since they didn’t know about what happened) I just said “Nothing, really”, and the person started on about how people don’t do enough for their father’s these days and things like that…and I just had to suck it up and take it, I couldn’t throw a “MY DAD’S DEAD YOU A-HOLE” at him, because that’s really harsh, but yeah. Even though I have a positive outlook, it’s still difficult not to have the presence of a physical dad, it makes things more….complicated. And uncomfortable.

I’m sorry about what happened Nellie.

My father died when I was six months old, and I don’t remember him. I’ve always felt like part of me is missing. In grammar school the teacher would go around the room asking everyone what their father did. My turn would come, and I would have to say “He’s dead.” It was horrible. I felt like there was something wrong with me.

We did the “what does your dad do” routine in school too. When it was my turn, I just said “my dad is a jackass.” I wanted to add that he was a child molester too but that came many years later. I feel bad for people who loved their dads and had them die. For me, I eagerly await the day my dad kicks it.

I have absolutly no idea where my Father is. But just lately I have been thinking about him more and more.

Nellie.Skywalker wrote:
This was my first Father’s Day without a Dad…I just kept myself busy, tried not to depress myself, but I kept a positive attitude all day. Instead of “Well this sucks, my dad died.” my attitude was “My dad was an amazing man and I am proud to be his child.” Because no matter what, he is and always will be my dad, even if he isn’t here on earth, so I can still celebrate Father’s Day no matter what, I guess.

It’s wonderful that you have lovely memories of your Dad. You have been blessed. Chin up Nellie sweetheart.

I can count with my fingers the time i have seen my dad though we are emotionally close. There was no birthday spent with him, no holidays that he was around. I told myself when i was young that i would give my future kid or kids what i did not have–

Now i have 6 year old son who does not know his dad. The thing is he made a father’s day card and he told me to send it to his dad. I thought he is too young to know what really happened (but don’t worry, i don’t make up stories).

So i got the card he made for his dad and i told him i will mail it. Thing is i don’t have anyone to mail it too. Because i don’t know where his father is. It was a personal choice not to marry but i doubt if my son would understand my story just yet.

Father’s Day falls in June. The dreaded time of the year. For me.

Best post of the day..:)

I always wished I had a real dad. Mine is an alcoholic who seemed to think I wasn’t anything special after I turned 13. One fathers day, or birthday, I bought him a $75 Kiss special edition CD set, which was a lot of money for a kid. At that point I didnt really care though, I was hoping it would make him happy, being that he was always so concerned over material things. The only thing I really remember him saying was “you shouldnt have spent so much money on this…” Perhaps it was his way of saying thankyou, but all I could hear was “you did it wrong… again.”

My consolation in life was that my mom recently found a wonderful man whom I’m proud to call my father…. he’s a better example than my real father ever was.

The word father has many meaning..some are hard to live up too. I try not to expect more then they can give. Anybody can have more then one. We have a hockey team called the flying fathers..they are Priests and they are very rough players..lol..( I thought this story would help:)

in my case…. growing up.. although i had both my parents living at home.. i have always felt out of place.. i WAS the ugly duckling in the pack of beautiful ducklings.. i was an outcast.. and didnt count for much except cleaning, raising my siblings and a punching bag…

however in school… when it came time to make these gifts.. i felt happy while making them.. just wanting my parents to love me for who i was… i was always excited to bring home what i made… just hoping a little to get a small amount of caring from them..

i would get a thank you.. but thats about it.. and my life would start over as i mentioned above..

with the making of cards and gifts as you mentioned above… you are right… there are many families that are broken… and as with the politics trying to fight the pledge cuz it has the word god in it… the same should be brought to attention of these teachers that not all children know or live with both parents.. and should take into consideration of how they feel… it should be a project that children want to make not forced to do so…

My dad and I aren’t close but I see him every year. I was raised by my grandparents so I know what you mean except my grandpa loved anything I gave him. I have a step dad too and he’s okay. I’m glad yours is great!