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Compton *Cat* 3 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 4 weeks ago (37 minutes after post)

maube you should try seeing a counsellor or something, tell someone professional about how you are feeling.

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Bacon, God of Gods 21 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 4 weeks ago (52 minutes after post)

im sorry. i cant say i know what its like to lose my mom, but i can say i know what its like to have to be the one to hold things together. all i can say is just do it. thats all you can do, push yourself to do it especially when you think you cant anymore.

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RebeccaJeanine71 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 4 weeks ago (1 hour, 49 minutes after post)

Hello, I totally hear where you are coming from…your words are so beautiful that they made me cry :(. I am a Mother of 4 WONDEFUL children and I worry about leaving them on this earth alone…I also believe that your Mother knows that you miss her and love her extremely. It sounds like maybe you are just now starting to realize how much it hurts? Sometimes (as you mentioned) we try to stay strong for the rest of the family and, it is a hard thing to do for some and for others, it is easy but, one day to cry or to really miss her bad is not a bad thing, ya know? :) Your Mother understands now what you are going through and no matter what, she is there for you in your heart and soul!!! And, she loves you VERY VERY VERY much!
Oh, please, just don’t give up on knowing how much she loves you and that she will always be with you forever! Good Luck and hang in there! You sound like a WONDERFUL person..inside and out!!! You have a good Soul!
Sincerely,
Rebecca

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NisaANYgirl 34 #
Bronx, NY, US | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (1 day, 3 hours after post)

Compton *Cat* wrote:
maube you should try seeing a counsellor or something, tell someone professional about how you are feeling.

I’ve been in counselling for months and it is helping. Thanks for your suggestion :).

RebeccaJeanin wrote:
Hello, I totally hear where you are coming from…your words are so beautiful that they made me cry :(. I am a Mother of 4 WONDEFUL children and I worry about leaving them on this earth alone…I also believe that your Mother knows that you miss her and love her extremely. It sounds like maybe you are just now starting to realize how much it hurts? Sometimes (as you mentioned) we try to stay strong for the rest of the family and, it is a hard thing to do for some and for others, it is easy but, one day to cry or to really miss her bad is not a bad thing, ya know? :) Your Mother understands now what you are going through and no matter what, she is there for you in your heart and soul!!! And, she loves you VERY VERY VERY much!
Oh, please, just don’t give up on knowing how much she loves you and that she will always be with you forever! Good Luck and hang in there! You sound like a WONDERFUL person..inside and out!!! You have a good Soul!
Sincerely,
Rebecca

Thanks so much for your wonderful reply. You’re right. I’ve always just charged ahead and busied myself with what had to be done next. But now since I’m on holiday from school, I’ve had a lot of down time to myself. And it’s really hit me hard how much it hurts to not have her here with me, and to be powerless to change that. I don’t know what I’m going to do from here on, but thank you so much (again :)) for your kind words. It helps to know someone cares.

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NisaANYgirl changed the tags on this post: they were "Dream, clothing, Family, Mess, strong, Physical intimacy, plea, Felt, mother, Fact" 3 months, 3 weeks ago.

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manue 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

don’t run away from the feeling of loss. you can be strong for your family members, and still feel raw loss. you can mourn. it’s only right do so.
feel what you are feeling. let it be. and let it flow. hug the remaining members of humanity. remember that they are still here.
and give it as many eons as necesary to grieve properly.
there is nothing i can say that’ll make you feel better. and you should feel what you are feeling. i should not change or try to change that.
but i can remind you that no feeling lasts forever. give it enough time, and you will heal. all you have to do is stay alive long enough.

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NisaANYgirl 34 #
Bronx, NY, US | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

manue wrote:
don’t run away from the feeling of loss. you can be strong for your family members, and still feel raw loss. you can mourn. it’s only right do so.
feel what you are feeling. let it be. and let it flow. hug the remaining members of humanity. remember that they are still here.
and give it as many eons as necesary to grieve properly.
there is nothing i can say that’ll make you feel better. and you should feel what you are feeling. i should not change or try to change that.
but i can remind you that no feeling lasts forever. give it enough time, and you will heal. all you have to do is stay alive long enough.

Thanks a bunch for that reply. There was a lot of wisdom in there, especially about giving myself the time I need to grieve. That’s really important right now, and I often need to be reminded of that. Thanks again :)

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melantha.kere 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (1 month, 2 weeks after post)

I am sorry for your loss. My best friend’s mother passed away recently from cancer, and I understand from what she’s been going through that you have experienced a lot of pain, also. There is nothing wrong with feeling raw loss. It is more than enough that you have tried for yourself and your family to be strong, and feeling pain is natural. Time heals everything, and while you feel loss now, it just goes to show the strong, loving bond you had with your mother. Nothing can ever break that, and keep being strong. You sound like a wonderful person, please know that you will be ok. Take time out of your life to find the things that make you happy, and to appreciate the beauty that this world has to offer. But most of all, do what you need to do to express yourself and make yourself happy. I guess that is all I can tell you, and I hope you feel better :)

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Yesterday I had a dream. I dreamt that my mother was still alive and I was helping her fold clothes like I always used to. We were talking and I kept telling her how much I loved her and hugging her like I would when I was little. It was a great dream and it felt so real. But then I woke up. And I had the rawest feeling of loss inside me that I just couldn’t shake. I’ve been avoiding this forever… The fact that I really do miss my mom and I’m a mess without her. I’ve been trying so hard to be strong for my family, to show them that we can overcome. But I just feel like I can’t anymore.

I guess this is less a plea for help and more a plea for someone to understand and listen. Thanks if you read this. ~Nisa

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